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The poor blame the rich for being poor.
Nobody is blaming anyone. I didn't mean to offend you.
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Pointing the blame finger to anyone but yourself is an unacceptable habbit to promote on a pick-up-artist-forum.
You share your thoughts, and I share mine. That's all.
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I'm not too proud of the first reply
So why are you pointing the blame finger at me
I think you misinterpretted my message.
The whole reply was directed at:
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Not everyone is as aware of themselves, emotions and environment as you.
Of course, nobody has to be outside of this forum. But (and I'm sure a few will agree with this) paying attention to yourself, emotions and environment is a vital part of pick-up-artistry.
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you should read my second reply and tell me what you think.
OK, you wrote that romcoms don't tell you directly how to behave, as an instruction manual would. And that needy people reinforce their own belief systems. Duh. .
In your 'follow-up' post you didn't take back your claims, which I disagree with. There's not much to speculate here, and this isn't a profoundly philosophical debate. I want to reemphasize:
* When a guy identifies with these films in inappropriate ways, it is a symptom of a poor belief system, or 'neediness', but these romocoms are ALSO part of the original problem.
* Of course, on some level people are always 'deciding' how to respond to stimuli. In this case, we are talking about social conditioning. But not everyone does this appropriately. In the mind of a person with an already poor belief system, these fairytale films may be more real than you can imagine.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attributio ... chology%29
"People make explanatory attributions to understand the world and seek reasons for a particular event. Explanatory attribution plays an important role in understanding what is happening around us.[3] For example, let’s say Jaimie’s car tire got punctured. Jaimie will make attributions by reasoning that it was the hole on the road that made the puncture. The tire puncture might be due to Jaimie’s bad driving habit but by making attributions to the poor road condition, Jaimie has successfully made sense of this unfortunate event. Without the attributional explanations, Jaimie will be very embarrassed and discomforted to believe that she caused the puncture."
I'm trying to highlight the second possibility: It might just be you.
Also, I'm not speaking for the whole entire gender of men. Just the few on this forum. And for those: Blaming the outside world for your behaviour leaves
very little to improve on, and isn't improving why we're here?
Also, if we're speaking for the whole gender of men then this whole thread is kinda pointless since a few (mostly the once in it already) possess the knowledge and practice we get in the 'community'.