With all due respect JS, the view of texting to be just be for short conversations is very very wrong for anyone under 20.

Growing up with texts, internet etc you learn that socialising doesn't have to take all of your attention. Most people don't like having to sit on a phone and give all their attention to it. A text on the other hand can be replied to when it is convenient - waiting 5 mins to answer someone's question on the phone may seem a little rude

Now obviously, there is a time and a place for texting - confessions of love or a break up may not be suited to a text message. But texting does give the illusion of spending more time with someone, IT MAKES THE TARGET INVEST!

Let me explain:

scenario 1 - phone call:
10:00 - 10:30 = only thinking about me
10:30 - 5:00 = thinking about their life

Scenario 2 - texting:
10:00 - 10:02 = thinking of me
10:02 - 10:15 = thinking of their life
10:15 - 10:17 = thinking of me again
10:17 - 10:30 = getting on with life
10:30 - 10:33 = yay, another text from me!
10:33 - 10:45 = their life
10:45 - 10:46 = oh, he hasn't text me, i wonder what he is doing
10:46 - 10:47 = YAY he text me

I hope you get the idea - its a pavlo's dog effect, conditioning them to think about you frequently.

I look forward to your perspective on it

I 100% agree with Madals' post, it was what I wanted to say but couldn't.

Stil JSmooth has a point though, all the guys I know are shit scared to phone the girls hey like up, whereas I've just phoned the girl I like to ask her if she's up for Avatar on Orange Wednedays. Could've texted but I thought phoning would be better.

I'm gonna throw my 2 cents in here...

I don't know why people put such an emphasis on text game and facebook game and all this virtual communication in the first place. I think people are just over thinking the whole concept.

Have a purpose set. If you want to meet someone somewhere or something, text them and give them the info. If you need something done, text the person you need to talk to and give them the info. There is never beating around the bush, or pick up lines, just the meat of what you need to say to the person.

Conversations should stay between two people's voices - on the phone, or in person. Now that I'm writing this I can think of several exceptions to this rule... I mean, if you think of something really awesome to say to someone and you're not with them and they won't answer their phone, why not just text them? In this case it is perfectly fine. But if you meet a girl and get her number, don't just stare at it in your contacts thinking of what to say.

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I wrote a pretty lengthy post on this topic under one of the other sections of the forum. I have no strong opinion for or against, I do have experience and would like to share a couple key points.

First I like to send one text after I number close, this is done mainly so she has my number in her phone. One reason I want her to have my number is the next generation IOI which is a text/call out of the blue. When I'm in class (I'm a college student) and I get a text from her during the day BAM- IOI.

Second, as mentioned in the original post, it is very difficult to convey tone through text. If you are going to neg/joke/use sarcasm at all, you need to be prepared for miss communication.

Third, it is very easy to come off really weird/too strong/crazy if you're constantly texting her. Make sure she initiates the text message conversation or whatever.

Fourth, remember that you are relying on technology to deliver your message to her. It is not uncommon for her phone to be off, out of battery, bad service etc. Long story short, she may not receive a text (and therefore not respond)

Finally and perhaps most importantly. I've been doing a lot of thinking, and I think my generation is in trouble. We are losing those valuable verbal and personal communication skills because we rely on text, instant message and email. I've heard complaints from lots of girls. Guys have all the balls in the world from behind the key pad, but are quiet and awkward in person. Second, some guys actually send a text, the girl calls him instead of replying, and he doesn't pick up. DO NOT BE SCARED TO SPEAK ON THE PHONE!!!

Use all of this information to your advantage. Texts are a dime a dozen. Girls actually notice when a guy calls and it means that much more because of how rare that phone call is these days.

I'm hoping this helps some here.