Well I think the main point that needs to be made is that it isn't oneitis when you're really into a girl. Only when you start acting like a tool and it affects you negatively because of your obsession is it oneitis. Hell you can be super wrapped up in thinking about a girl because you're so into her and you can go to great lengths to try and make things work, but when it starts costing you because you're going TOO far, that's when it becomes oneitis. People have a problem understanding this though because just like with many pickup concepts they want a concrete qualitative rule to go by and so they make it too broad. The problem with it is that there is no exact line, just like IOIs or flirting which guys seem to think are concrete when in fact sometimes a smile is a flirt and sometimes it's just being friendly and only by experience do you learn that.

I just think we try to define too many things that lack solid definitions because human interaction are too dynamic for static rules and definitions.

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~ Rye

Agreed. It's important not to mix the concepts of rapport and connection with the notion of "oneitis". The important distinction here is that the former is reciprocated attraction, understanding, and intimacy, while the latter is not.

Hey Rye, Hobbs, Happy Holidays!

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