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I suppose your right, I don't like just taking that though. How can I avoid situations like this? I'm probably just going to avoid directly hitting on employees.
Try flirting with girls rather than hitting on them. It's classier and a lot less awkward for both parties. It doesn't involve pickup lines: it's all about body language. If you want to get with a girl from PacSun, go in there with the intention of buying something. Ask her if she has anymore Ken Block shirts or Young & Reckless gear out back. Don't be all weird about it, though. Just talk to her like she's one of your guy friends, like you're totally comfortable around her. If you've done everything right, then you'll be talking about skateboarding, rally car racing, or TV shows about those things in no time. It isn't hard to get a number the first time you go in, but I've found if that if you go into the store like, two or three times when she's there over the course of a week before getting her number, the relationship is more likely to go somewhere. Make sure you look the part, though, and play it cool! Also, I'd make sure the girl who called you out the last time isn't there the next time you go. All the game in the world isn't going to win her over.
Another thing you could do for practice is hit places that you'll never have to visit again. Walk into Victoria's Secret or Wet Seal, and spit game like you've never spit it before. Just say you're trying to find a shirt for a friend or something, so the help isn't sketched out as much by your presence. If you totally mess up, then who cares?
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How can I tell the difference between fake friendliness and IOIs?
Body language! If she glances towards you whilst folding a shirt with a moose on it, and rattles off some generic greeting, then she's probably not interested. If she drops what she's doing and approaches you, gleaming, then you might have a shot, although this isn't likely to happen. You see, most of the girls who work in stores like Hollister and Abercrombie & Fitch are high school-age and somewhat materialistic. They've been told directly or indirectly by their employers that they're attractive: hiring managers in both of these stores (they are affiliated, by the way: Hollister is owned by A&F) handpick their recruits from the mall based on how attractive they are. Seriously, I know one girl who has been approached by different A&F managers on more than one occasion in the
food court. Once the girls (or guys, but they're not really a factor in this) are on the payroll, they're given the job title "model." To make a long story short, these girls are not likely to give you a shot unless you look like a college lacrosse player or one of the guys on an Abercrombie and Fitch bag. If you don't meet this criteria, and you start a dialogue with them, they will run for that back room so fast it'll make your head spin.
To make a long story short, the girls at Hollister and Abercrombie & Fitch are, on average, hard to game if you're not the right person, physically. You're chances of success, while not out of the question, are much lower here than they are at say, Dunkin' Donuts or McDonald's, where the girls are a lot more down to Earth. Do you know where else is a good place to meet girls? Bookstores! Those places are like gold mines. I'd hit a few bookstores, order a few lattes, and see what you can do with the girls on the other side of the counter.