Day 50: 22nd August 2013
IT Introduction night out

Goals:
- No goals, I didn't expect any girls to be at the bar we were going

Field report+:
I had introduction camp the past 3 days and the 2nd day (so yesterday from now) we went to the same bar me and my roommate went first Tuesday. At 10.00 pm it was only my IT introduction people in the bar. Well I can tell you that means 85 guys and 5 girls in a not-so big bar. Yeah..., that's the problem of my education, low amount of females.

But suddenly at 11:30 pm, a few females went inside the bar. I could notice they were surprised (no sh*t) by the amount of guys. 4 seconds - 5 seconds f*ck it, approach. I went in with: "I guess you must be surprised by the amount of guys here". They both nodded and I replied: "Yeah I know, it's the IT education". They both had a face that they understood why it was so full of guys. We talked for maybe 2 mins more and then they wanted to leave because there were just too many guys (a.k.a. sausage fest).

Ten minutes later another 2 females went in and started looking around the bar at the same spot the first 2-set did. I took the 3-second rule and used the same opener. Though this time the conversation was about her education and age, name. THE BORING STUFF. I didn't (sexually) tease enough. I sometimes talked to her friend (because she started to look bored) and soon they wanted to walk into the back. I said: "Hey give me your number and we can meet-up some time". She gave me her number, but I knew in the back of my head that it was her just being friendly to me. Soon I saw her with one of the other IT guys (though this one was a 2nd year IT student, and quite sociable). He they were both standing next to me once one of my group wanted to take shots. When I looked at my left I noticed the IT guy making out with the blonde girl. I wasn't shocked or anything, but just impressed by his game. I think he kissed her in 5 mins, and offcourse made her forget me totally.

Instead of being angry, I waited till the blonde girl was gone, went to him and said: "Well done man. I got her number, and you kissed her in 5 mins with a number, which made me out of the game. I'm not angry, but just giving my respect". He said: "Hey man, boss above boss". Short but true. Then he left with his drinks. Now this is the point where I was thinking to myself: "He was pushing for compliance, make this a note in your head".

After 20 more minutes I noticed the most cute and quite good-looking girl of our IT education, and approached her with: "Hey, what's up?, must be quite hard to be with soooo many guys". She was smiling and said: "Naah it's ok, they are all really nice and so". We were talking a bit about camp and I had the guy kissing the blonde girl in my head. Now I was in the vibe to kiss her so with everything I said I gave kino with hand on her arm, then middle, then head in her neck and so on. I made deep eye-contact and went in for the kiss. She turned her cheek and said (with still a smile but confused): "What are you doing..?" I said: "Just doing what I want". She reacted embarassed and shy, and was quite of a chicken imo. After slowly pushing for compliance again, doing the same thing she still didn't dare to. I teased her with saying: "Pussy, you don't dare (grin on my face)". She laughed a bit, but still didn't do anything. I said friendly: "It's ok if you don't dare to, but i'm going back to my group now". Haven't spoken her anymore. Then at 1:20 am we had to go.

What have I learnt today?
- The social momentum made me get some better approaches, but I still have to keep improving.
- There will always be boss above boss, no matter what. You can learn from these guys so don't be angry with them, have respect for them.
- I now know that I don't want boring girls (like the IT girl) anymore, but more fun types.

Wallie

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Day 51: 5th September 2013
You don't need to prove that you belong with the group

Goals:
- Make 5 approaches (6/5)
- Focus on k-close / Kino
- Eye-contact

Field report:
That's what my housemate said to me at the end of the night. But let's just get started from the beginning.

We agreed to go out with (almost) all of our housemates into the city. Since it was Thursday, it would mean that the bars would be quite crowded. At 22:30 we already went into the city and the first bar was nearly empty. With us included maybe 20 people? Though my housemates are pretty cool, they like to dance around (we were with 2 guys and 3 girls). Once there were 2 girls at the bar, I approached one. Don't really remember what I said but she didn't react happily.

After that we went to another bar where you can sit outside. One of my female housemates noticed some of her college buddy's, and I introduced myself to them. One blonde girl was pretty nice, but due to cloth restrictions, the guy couldn't get into the bar. Soon they dissappeared. We wanted to sit outside and soon 2 guys joined us. Now the situation was this: all the girls were talking with 1 guy. And we were with 7, so I was there, watching......how the rest was talking and I was being ...... the outsider of this. When this continued for like 10 minutes, I was like f*ck this. I ain't gonna sit here all night. I went inside and directly approached a few girls. This is what happened.

1: They reacted negatively or neutral but I couldn't polarize them to positive.
2: They were too old for me. I'm 20 next week, the ages of these women was 25+. And they didn't want a young guy like me...

After that I went outside and lost EVERYBODY. I asked the guys they were talking to where they went, but they didn't know. Well f*ck, I was alone. I told myself to man up. So I walked into a different bar which is quite popular, but even there I didn't find them.

Once outside I tried 1 more bar where I thought they could be. My luck was high because 10 seconds inside and I found them. They told me that I was into the other bar far too long, so they thought I met someone. Nice... I should've said something about that.

We then went to the first bar of the night which was pretty crowded now. I tried 1 more approach but also that one failed. I know you shouldn't be caring about rejecting, but 5 rejections in a row without 1 positive reaction kinda killed my mood. One of my male roommates was talking to a blonde girl which was 1st year of college. So my age. I thought he wanted to pass her on to me, so I could flirt with her. Well.....even that one turned out bad. I got into a little convo, and said: "How come a pretty girl like you doesn't have a boyfriend"? She answered and then walked back to my housemate. I was confused. He then came up to me and said: "Hey man, you don't have to prove anything to us to be part of the group. If you try hard like that, you'll never gonna be attracting a good girl like her". I was kind off in a not so great mood anymore, but understood what he said. Few minutes later, he was very close to the girl (like 2 inches from her face). His college buds were about to cockblock my housemate. But he was nice to me, so I did something back for him, and intervened the cockblock. After that, he made out with her. I was both happy, and a bit sad since it wasn't me.

Well, even though my appraoches sucked, I'm still glad i'm even doing them. It's a re-start, and I know that it's gonna take a while to be back on track.

What have I learnt today?
-Don't do approaches, for just the sake of approaching. Approach if you feel like it. If you don't feel like it because you relationize the outcome, shut it out and just see what happens.
- Don't be tryhard.

Wallie

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Day 52: 7th September 2013
Scotland blonde girl

Goals:
- None.

Field report:
Since I was a little bit thinking back about day 51, I was quite eager to go out and actually don't care if things were about to happen or not. Which turned out pretty good actually.

Two friends and I went to the club at my home place (not my college city). At around 12:00 pm it was already pretty damn busy inside the club. At first we sat down because my two friends wanted drinks, I didn't want to drink anything that night, because I wanted to stay sober. Once we sat at the bar inside the club, I noticed a blonde girl dancing, while her other blonde (not so attractive) friend was sitting in a chair watching kinda bored. I poked my friend and nodded their way. But he wasn't planning on holding off the blonde girl in the chair.

I didn't even hold my thoughts about this and just approached the girls. When I spoke something in Dutch, she said she couldn't understand because they were Scottish. This was going to be interesting. I asked her name and how long they'd stay. She said it was her first month here, and they were about to stay 2 more months. I talked a bit, there was also a bit of kino involved. Starting with slight touch of arm, into slowly shoulder, and then my hand behind her head when talking. She did quite some kino back. Then, how I don't know, they suddenly walked somewhere else. My friend was like: "Dude, she's totally into you! Go after her". I didn't feel like chasing her. It was actually pretty easy for me to say: "No thanks, I'll see her later this night, pretty sure of it". Which I was.

2 hours later (no approaches in between, just dancing and having fun), I came across them again at the same place. We started talking again, and pretty soon there was some kino. I was teasing her a bit. There were male strippers, so I thought I could let her think a bit sexual (they had sixpacks, and were only wearing a bow tie with boxers). My question to her was: "What would you do, if you had one of those male strippers for you alone, all night?" She giggled (she had braces for some reason, even though she was like 18 if I had to guess) and said: "I don't know, nothing special". It could've worked if I would talk more sexual, but I didn't feel like it. In between I talked to my friend and again he was like: "Dude come on man, just f*cking kiss her, she wants it!" Up until then he was right actually, she had the IOI's when I think back.
I noticed she wasn't dancing, so I said: "Why are you not dancing anymore, everyone does". Her: "Well, i'm not everyone". Me: "Oh so that means you must be special? Well what makes you different from all the other girls?" Her: "I have no idea, I can't think of something." Me: (and I looked her into her eyes) "Well I can tell, your eyes are more prettier". When I told her that, she reacted kind off embarressed or so, I can't tell. She giggled and took it positively.
Yet I screwed up by saying that I wanted a kiss from her. She was too shy I think and I kept pushing it for a minute or so. That probally made her feel awkward. I turned to my friend again, talked a bit and he was having one of his gym buddies next to him, some big pumped up guy. This guy was also like: "Man, if you don't kiss that girl, you really gotta think what the f*ck you're doing. If she's not into you, then I don't know what more it takes". When I turned around, the girls were already walking away. Got the same dissappointed look from my friend. I once again didn't care about his look.

We stayed till 03:00 in the lounge, and then went back in once more, just to walk around the room if there were any girls left. I noticed the girls again, but wasn't planning to walk into them for the 3rd time. My friend though was: "Hey there they are!". Oh great, well I won't see her anymore agian probably so what the hell. She smiled when she saw me, but told me; "That guy just gave me a beer, but it's disgusting". I took a nip from her beer and told: "Yeah, because it's Heineken, that's why it's disgusting". She gave the guy an awful look when he was watching, and when she looked at me I could see her face turn happy. And the kino was strong, like she had her arm around my waist some times, and I did as well. Now I think back of it, I didn't have a better chance to kiss than that moment. I looked her into the eyes for 3 seconds, and yet again... which happened before.... I couldn't do it. I was having LMR. Crap. I took a step back, wanted her to take my hand, and I made a spin. She fell into me after the spin, but when I took the chance, she turned her face, and I only kissed her cheek.... I felt stupid, and waved her goodbye. I missed an opportunity.

It's something I had with my former girlfriend as well. Once we were talking, I wasn't sure when I could kiss her, and had to look for clues and so. It's really something I just háve to work on. Kissing shouldn't be that hard for me, I know I can kiss good enough. I think I have to make this a sticking point again:
What have I learnt today?
- I have to work on the above sticking point.
- I should let her know I want to k-close through my body language.

Wallie

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Well you do not ask verbally for a kiss, it barely works, the only time i ask verbally for a kiss is if she ask me a question after i know she is into me and there has been an interaction, for example, after she is in to me and she ask me a personal question, like how old are you? sometimesi say i tell you if you give me a kiss, and most and some girls go for the makeout...

But do not ask for the kiss verbally and do not go for the kiss right away like that either, you need to micro escalate or get compliance before the kiss, this are couple of examples with videos, of what i have done, but most of the time i just kiss them after compliance, and micro escalation.


http://www.theskillsmethod.com/how-to-k ... p-routine/

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*Quick note*
She hasn't learned anything

Today I was just watching facebook news page, and saw an update that scared me for a moment:
My Ex-GF of which you can read a few field reports in this journal has already entered a new relationship.

When I saw it, I was quite surprised. Only a month and a half ago I broke up with her, and now she already found someone else. This is what I wrote in my breaking-up story: .
I guess I was right. My heart was pounding a bit, even though I'm quite over her. Jealousy? I think I have to be honest and say yes, a little bit. It's still a girl I shared things with that almost nobody knows.

I got me thinking for a moment. And I realised that it's actually pretty dumb move of her. She's into another relationship pretty damn fast, which was actually the reason why our relationship didn't work. But I don't care anymore if it will work out or not. It's her life, not mine. Would be pretty funny if the same thing happens all over again.

This actually is positive for me. I'm now even more motivated to go out and meet other women. And it this very moment I just know that I'm not gonna try an get a new relationship. This is the perfect moment to develop my skills further into a seducer. I'm still young, only 19 years old, and have a whole life ahead of me. These things happen, and all I can do is control the way I react to it. I'm not gonna be picking up women for revenge or anything, just to like totally forget her. Her getting a new BF is a good start. Though I still texted her luck in her relationship.

What have I learnt from this?
- Here's a perfect example of a girl going to GFTOG (go find ten other guys). All I can do if GFTOW (go find ten other women).

Wallie

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Day 53: 13th September 2013
Goodbye teenage years, hello twenties!

Goals:
- Approach girls during Introfest (pretty much standard) --> 4 approaches
- Work on the sticking point
- Use aggression/ be bold
- Effective screening (Warped mindless his post: night-game-blueprint-part-2-screening-a ... 36536.html)

Field report +(+):
Crazy, fun and birthday night. It was a day to remember.

It was about 21:45 that my housemate with his friends and me took the bus to the city, since there was an Introduction fest. Once we arrived at 22:00, almost all the stages were already closed down. Nonetheless, the bars were open, and it was quite crowded everywhere. We walked around, and it was the first time I actually noticed people who were familiar to me. Feels good to finally make some friends.

We walked to the one stage that was still open, and I came upon a girl who lives close to my home town. I talked to her a few minutes, but then lost all my roommates in the crowd. I walked around solo, not thinking about finding them. I screened for eye-contact, and there was 1 blonde girl who held eye-contact when I walked by. 3 second-rule kicked in and I said: "Hey, I walked by and when I saw you, I just wanted to say you look cute" (her arms were crossed). I'm not sure if she had a cold or felt uncomfortable. But she smiled, and her friends were smiling that I approached her I guess. They were crazy as hell so I just danced along with them. Though the blonde was a bit shy I think or bored, I don't know. I said the group goodbye, since I wasn't too interested, and when I looked back I just saw all the friends gossiping about me. I laughed inside, a good start.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, I found my housemates, and they wanted me to get some beers. I still had some money from them, so I went inside. I saw 2 girls sitting at the bar when I went in, and I just stood next to them, waiting to order. The bar guy was kinda annoying, but I had the patience. Suddenly he slipped and fell, of which I had to laugh out loud. The girl who was left of me heard it, and asked: "What did he do?" I told her he slipped and she laughed as well. We got into a short conversation, but it was boring stuff like school, name, that stuff. I could've storytelled but forgot to do it. I was also complementing her too much from what I remember. At some point I asked her number, which she gave, but after the number, I noticed her not being interested anymore. I told her I'd order my drinks and then go. Once I got the drinks, I immediatly deleted the number, it was gonna be a flake anyway.

We then went into the final bar, where we found one of my female housemates with her friend. Unfortunately, I forgot the name of her friend, and she was dissappointed in me. I guess a few names but they were completely wrong. So then I said: "Ok let me look into your eyes, and Ill do one more guess". It was more like a staring contest (actually a few times) and I looked her deep in the eyes. I wasn't gonna guess it anyway, but I tried to picture her naked, so that my pupils would dilate. I had to laugh because I couldn't picture her, and she noticed it. At one more staring contest, I tried the triangular gazing, though that didn't work as well (or maybe it did, but I didn't notice it in her). At some point I said 3 names, and one of it was her name, which she didn't tell which one. I guess 2 times wrong lol. She was more dissappointed, but still kind of interested I believe.

A girl came up to my right and was looking around the room. I opened with: "Who are you looking for?" A little conversation came up, and she was a neutral girl that was slowly going to be receptive. I tried some kino and stuf, until suddenly the girl from which I forgot the name from went up to her and said: "Hey, have fun with this guy while you can, the next time you see him, he'll forget your name". Well that was a strong cockblock, because 2 sentences later and the girl was walking away. I walked towards my female housemates friend and said (not angry or anything, just neutral): "That was a strong cockblock, but don't you EVER do that again". Her: "Well, I won't if you will not forget my name anymore". Well played by her, I guess I deserved that. She then said to me (I somehow told her that night): "Hey, isn't it your birthday now?" I looked at my watch and it was 0:10 am. I laughed hard and said: "Well looks like I even forget my own birthday!" She laughed too, and gave me birthday kisses. Interesting girl, I'm sure I'll see her more in the future, since it's my female housemates friend.

Finally I went to the bathroom and came upon the IT-girl from day 50 (the one's who is quite shy). This one's a bit blurry ( I had some beers that night ). But I believe it was like this: "Hey, you didn't recognise me didn't you"? (cause she didn't notice me). She smiled and said: "No no no, I did recognise you, just dind't see you" (with a big smile). We talked about the introduction again, and brought up the 'almost kissing' part, where I tried to kiss her twice but failed. Once that subject came up, I kino'ed her strong, and said again: "You didn't even dare to kiss me that night, and now you don't even dare again". She said: "No no, you don't dare (smile)". Me: "Oh really? Wanna bet?" She smiled and nodded. I then took my chance again, and kissed her. This time she didn't turn her face away, and kissed me back. We made out for 20 seconds or so, and she then smiled. I said: "Thanks, that was an awesome birthday gift!" She was suprised and laughed: "Oh it's your birthday? I didn't know!" A few more lines were said and then we made out again for again 20-30 seconds. She could actually kiss quite good. I then went to the bathroom. Once I was about to go home, I saw her once more, and then tried to make out one more time, but this time she was too shy again. I left it at there, and just added her on facebook when I was home. A good night.

What have I learnt today:
- Don't ever forget a name, it can backfire at you!
- I guess aggresive kino can still work out later on.

Even though I got a k-close last night, it still doesn't mean my sticking point is gone. Once I can do this consistently, then I can say I overcome my sticking point. I was just lucky that this girl was still interested and was in the same bar. But to train it, I have to work on this with girls I met the same night.

Wallie

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Day 54: 19th September 2013
Foam party

Goals:
- k-close through kino compliance
- effective screening

Field report:
Last night a few housemates, who are part of a sorority, went to a party at their location. My housemates didn't tell me anything, though one girl who visited our house for dinner invited me. I didn't have to think twice and was eager to go. 2 housemates left earlier because they had to work there that night.

Since it was a foam party, I wore old clothes, since they would all get very wet. I cycled with the girl and one of the housemates' friend towards the location. And I didn't even know anybody there. At first I felt uncomfortable, and thoughts of not staying long and going back kicked in. When I realised that this was happening in my brain, I immediatly said to myself: "No, you're not going back, this is a new way to make some friends". And I stayed until the end.

Once inside I just went to the bar and got myself a drink. It was quite crowded already. At some point I just started dancing since I didn't really care. Soon enough I was in a high energy state, and just talking to random people which I'd never seen in my life. It was such a good experience, that I actually signed up for their sorority. The girl who invited me was getting tipsy so I really just teased her a lot.

I made some approaches and 1 girl was already waving me to walk further. Hard rejection, but it didn't hit me at all. I'm starting to feel that rejection is no big deal anymore for me. I did this with all the girls, and then I found one receptive girl. We talked quite a bit and kino'd a lot. I was thinking in my head to kiss her, but the logistics were not good. People wanting her attention, friends who kept talking with her and stuff. Now I could've taken her cellnumber, but my hands were wet and my phone was in a plastic bag, which I couldn't really get it out of. So I just let her go, perhaps I'll see her later. Numbers don't really matter that much for me anymore. After that it was 1 am, so then I went home to sleep. 1 receptive girl so the effective screening wasn't so good. But there weren't also too many girls, so I'm ok with the results.

What have I learnt today?
- I gotta screen more effective
- Kino works well, keep that up.

Wallie

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Day 55: 20th September 2013
House party

Goals:
- Meet new people
- Perhaps even game the "forgotten name" girl

Field report:
I expected a lot of the house party. At least 50-60 people who would come, lots of drinking, having fun. Unfortunately, it turned out to be pretty "normal".

From my group, at least 5 out of 10 people didn't show up, because they had something else to do, or had a good reason. But the other housemates had the same problem where lots of people had cancelled the last week. That's pretty damn annoying because then for lots of people it's impossible to find new guests since they have to ask for a day off a few weeks earlier.

Nevertheless we were with about 40 people, and from my group there were 4 members, 2 of vacation. The 2 guys slept over at my room. When they arrived they immediatly went up to me. Then my friend and his GF showed up so I introduced them to my vacation mates. When they started to meet a bit, I walked around to meet a few people, which worked really well. I could remember most of the names that I met.

At 12:10 we took the bus towards the city to go to the bar. My friend and his GF went home. Once inside we had a good time. Then one of my vacation mates was looking over at a girl, and I noticed it. I asked him if he liked her, but all he said was that she looked like she was searching for a guy. I looked her over, and saw at least 10 guys around her, but not approaching her (she was with 1 other girl). It took me a minute, but then approached her with the opener: "All these guys around you, and not one of them says hi?". Her: "Well I guess...?" Me: "Looks like i'm the first one, how are you?" We had a brief conversation, and I engaged her friend into the conversation as well with: "Are you two best friends?" They said they were, so I used a BF test question at which they looked at each other first. I waved at them that I noticed that they were best friends and they were suprised how I knew. I got that one from Style. Unfortunately they were not so interested, perhaps because I didn't escalate or something. I guess that I could have used my vacation buddy as wingman.

Then I approached a group of 2 guys and 2 girls. Same thing, other opener (can't remember). The guys at first didn't look too glad with me, so I opened them as well. Everything went well, and I started talking to one girl in particular. She said she was a law student, at which I said: "No you don't look the type for it". At first she asked why, but then I was right because she was changing studies. My cold reading is going better and better. Also this girl was not interested, but it's ok. I can take rejection.

After that we walked home, and when we were talking about age, I kind off talked loudly that I always get estimated 17 years old. A few girls passed by, and 1 said: "17?" So I opened with: "Hey if you would guess my age, what age do you think I am?" Her: "18". I knew enough, and didn't want to go further. I turned around and immediatly walked away. We then walked home and went to sleep.

What have I learnt today:
- Engaging large(r) groups should be more practised
- Escalation is key

Wallie

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Day 56: 21st September 2013
Emotion f*cks??

Goals:
- No real goals were set, only approaching

Field report:
Well, this was a night off. I made quite some approaches but didn't set any goals or anything. Well here's the story, Ill give a feedback what I think is the problem. If it's actually something different, let me know.

I went home the next day from my houseparty at 8:00 pm and was actually home at 22:30. I messaged my friends if they were going out, which they did. I waited till they would go to my house, and then we got to our local night club. It was very, very crowded that night. A lot of opportunities.

My friends went to the most quiet section of the club. I was looking over for girls, and man there were more than enough girls around. Within 5 minutes already 3 girls that I knew from last year spoke to me. I thought I made a good start. But I stayed with my friends for a WHOLE OUR in the quiet section in the bar. It got me frustrated. Bad way to begin your night. What I should have done was just go into the more crowded section alone, we've been handling confidence right? Well..... I didn't and regret it now.

After we FINALLY went in, I made a few approaches, but all of them failed. No good responses. And I know why. I've stayed WAY too long not approaching, not building social momentum. Just sitting around watching. My intentions were not clear, I didn't express my desires, and that's what repelled the girls.

A fight broke out (somebody I knew) and a girl was looking me in the eyes like: "Wow, seems pretty heavy". I walked up to her and stuttered something out. She walked away. Wow... bad one. Then a girl blew some smoke into my face. I guess little stressed out me didn't think and just said: "Hey, will you stop blowing smoke in my face, I hate it when girls do that!" Unfortunately i'm not lying, this is what I actually said. She wasn't ugly and probably did it accidently. My friend approached her and stayed with her for at least half an hour befour he kissed her. All my friends cheered for him. I was not impressed.

There was 1 moment when I was walking alone in the club and accidently stepped on a girl's foot. She looked like: "Aw come on..." I apologized and said: "Sorry, my dinosaurfeet are the problem". She laughed. I got into a little conversation and used the same "Who are you with and how do you know them?" line. It seems to work pretty well, the group seems to be more nicely in my presence. The girl herself was ok, and since I was DTF anyway (subconciously, not verbally) I sticked with her. Suddenly my friend shows up, starts rambling in my right ear. I turn around and say: "Hey man, don'tyou see i'm talking to her?" Him: "Dude, she's ugly, let's go further!". I turn back around, and the girl is gone. Guess she wasn't that interested.

Later that night a few approached I've tried, and there was actually 1 girl that approached ME asking: "Hey, do you got any coins left?" Me: "Oh sorry, I don't buy girls drinks" Her: "No, I mean that I want to buy them" (the counter was all the way on the other side of the club). I looked into my wallet but couldn't find one. This could've been a good opportunity to walk with her, but I was already too much (screwed) in my head, and the night was already turned sh*t. Few seconds later she walked away.

That night I've made like 7 approaches or so? Not even one was with the right intentions. Perhaps the goals, or the fact that I wasted too much time hanging around people I know. I have to do this different next time.

What have I learnt today?
- Perhaps being alone is better than group of guys
- Again: use goals
- Also again: use the right intentions. F*cked up emotions kill your night.

Wallie

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Day 57: 24th September 2013
Building social circles

Goals:
- Approaching as many people as possible and actually build up some new friends (which I should've done way earlier)

Field report:
Last night there was a party at a bar from different sorority's, including mine. At 21:00 my housemate, her friend and I went to the bar and it was pretty 'quiet' by then. Though the beers were free and the housemate's friend kept calling them and gave me some. I did drink some beers, but didn't really notice much of it.

Soon the other housemates arrived and it was getting pretty crowded. The party started to become alive and it was starting to get fun. We all went to the back of the bar and this is where the night really started. I've made quite some direct approaches and got to know quite some new girls and guys which is good. I'm feeling that i'm slowly building up a social circle now, and I actually start to recognise and know people now.

There was 1 girl I talked to for a bit and then she walked to the bar to get a drink. In the meantime my housemate came up to me and said: "I see you've met XXX?" Me: "Yeah i'm just getting to know some people, fortunately she's from the same sorority". Him: "Yeah, I know, I once kissed her". Me: "Oh well, i'm not gonna go after her then". Him: "Hey man, just because I kissed her, doesn't mean YOU shouldn't?" That relieved me.

In the meantime I approached a few sets. There was 1 set I want to notice in particular. It was a 4-set of girls and I seemed to have a good conversation. I used the: "Introduce me to your friends" line which worked well. Unfortunately 3 friend went outside because it was too hot inside, and they left me with the ugly one. I couldn't just leave her alone, that would be rude. So I just enjoyed her with dancing, not trying to seduce her. Soon her friends arrived as well and I tried to game them. 1 girl was pretty goddamn gorgeous so I approached her. The conversation took 5 mins, she was interested, but I could sense that something was not totally right. At 1 point I said: "You have a boyfriend, don't you?" Her: "Yes (with a little bit of ashamed face)". Me: "Hah, I knew that something was up in your mind". Perhaps she was attracted, but just didn't want to cheat, I respect that. So I just said: "Is your friend still single?" Her: "Yeah, try her instead;)". I tried but failed a bit. My cold reading did go well though.

Another thing to mention was 1 guy and 1 girl. I approached them both and asked how they knew each other. It seemed they knew each other for 8 years, and actually lived quite close to my hometown! I got the guy's number because I told him to visit my hometown club once, just to make friends (no homo!:P). And then I engaged the girl. She seemed younger than me, but was quite attractive. Gaming her though was 'meh' because the guy housemate knew HER as well. I asked if he kissed her and he said: "Haha no I don't kiss EVERY girl I know dude:P". So once they both went home, I asked her number, and she said: "Just go out next Thursday" I was already planning to do that, but ok.

When I went home, I made one more approach and tried to make a 'Speed Dial', which basically means that getting a girls number within a few minutes. Unfortunately she said this: "Well, you're a very enthousiatic guy, and fun to talk with, but I dont just give my phone number thát easily". That's when I knew enough and just went home.

What have I learnt today:
- Larger sets need your trust in order to game the girl you want
- Making friends will build up your social value in college game
- Speed dial might work but not so well. For a number is connection required.
- Just because a housemate kissed someone first, doesn't mean you shouldn't kiss her anymore

Wallie

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Day 58: 28th September 2013
Spot the referee, summer festival reunion

Goals:
- Divide and conquer (isolate and k-close )

Field report(+):
Last night, man that was a long, looooooong night. It took from 21:45 till 09:00 am! Since it's very very long, I'm gonna try and keep it short.

The train towards the festival I had to travel alone. At first I sat by myself, until one stop around 20 guys entered the train and had to go the same way. They were all drunk and sat around me. Since they were drunk, they kind of annoyed me, and I had to be careful. I just played along with their games just to not show them my unformtableness.

Once I arrived, I had to wait another 30 mins until my friend would arrive. I sat by myself listening to music and a group of girls noticed me. 1 girl said: "Oh he's sitting alone.." and she asked me why. When I explained she told me to join them, which I did. They all wanted to know more about me, since we had a connection in same city of college. Unfortunately their guys showed up, and I couldn't join the girls' group since I didn't have the tickets.

When he arrived, there were some girls with him that he knew, and I immediatly introduced myself. However the girls weren't thát attractive, except for 1: the girl he was staying over. More about that later.

We had a good time inside, and when I went to get us drinks, I got multiple IOI's, smiles, eye-contact with girls. Though my AA kicked in. That might have ruïned the night later on. Mistake #1, waiting too long to open. At some point I noticed a girl with black and white vertical stripes. I asked the girl (let's call her hardstyle girl, since she loves hardstyle) why the random girl was wearing a sorf of referee shirt. She said it was the newest fashion. I told her that it's ridiculous but she was right. Throughout the night, she was pointing me all kinds of girls who were wearing it. Everytime smiling when she found one. I guess she liked it as a game.

We found our summer vacation girls and reünited. One of the girls I liked was there as well, and beforehand I was planning to kiss her. But I started to notice that I wasn't attracted anymore as before. I hardly talked to her, I liked hardstyle girl more. Though when we were alone, I was too nervous to make a move. I don't know why I didn't... We talked about an upcoming hardstyle concert, and I took her number but I believe the amount of attraction was too low.

Few hours later in the main room, I made a few approaches and got some smiles from girls. So being funny is not a problem for me, I know how to make a girl smile. 1 girl passed by and she smiled at me. I took it as an IOI and said: "You can just walk by and smile without saying anything;)". She was happy I approached, and we had a brief conversation (with kino from me, little from her). Though I once again, didn't make a move, and regret it now because she was DEFINATELY interested, but had to walk further because of her friend waiting. I regret it now.

Up until the end I didn't make approaches anymore. It was a looong night, I was becoming tired because of almost no sleep and 8 hours of work. It was crushing me, and when I travelled home, It took me everything to NOT fall asleep until I got home. So that was kinda annoying, a car would've been better.

What have I learnt today:
- I have an anxiety that unables me to make a move. I guess it's the anxiety to be vulnerable. Even when attraction is available, I make these little excuses in my mind to NOT make a move. This will be another sticking point.
- The first few minutes, or hour of the night can make or break it. Use this time to warm up, while your level of nervousness is low.
- When being isolated, that's how you make the move.

Wallie

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- You have anxiety that unable to make a move. It is because you are thinking of one big move, you need to get back to what is call MICRO ESCALATION/ESCALATING THE VIBE.... Seductive eye contact, that is escalation, pausing that is escalation, instead of one big move that is risky and will give you anxiety.... Re-read http://60yearsofchallenge.files.wordpre ... n-vibe.pdf

- the first few minutes or hour of the night can make or break is a myth and bs. Let me explain, most people when they get to a venue are self conscious, they are not warmed up, they need to unwind, and get acclimated to the venue, specially women. Alex from rsd as well as julien say the first 2 hours don't count. I have to kind of agree with them. Review the club dynamic section in my book.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZM7r3bnW3KA

- you do not have to be isolated to make a move. In fact i barely isolate.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShlscY9q ... aje_vCb6KQ

here is another video on rapid escalation:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM

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Day 59: 2nd October 2013
4 numbers, 3 k-closes

Goals:
- Making new friends
- Pushing compliance with girls

+ = an indication of a k-close
(+)= a number close

Field report +++(++++):
Wow, what a night. Impossible like. I have never had a night like this. So good. Here's why:

First of all I actually had a date with girl from day 53. Though she had cancelled the date 5 hours before we were going to meet up, I didn't care a f*cking thing. I was like: "Nice, now I can just go out with my fraternity buddies!"

Once arrived at the fraternity, I noticed that 95% of the people I didn't recognise. Holy sh*t. The first 15 minutes I stood there awkwardly taking sips of my drink. At some point I was like: "Well dude, If you're gonna want to make friends, start working on it". Which I did. I just spoke to people and asking them about if they were 1st year students (don't know the name of it). That's how my night started. My housemate had brought 2 girls who slept over at our house, and 1 friend was with them. I didn't really speak to her in the begin YET.

We then walked towards bar #1. This is where the warming up work started. At the begin I've made a few approaches towards guy just to make friends. Then I noticed a 3-set of girls standing at the girl. Their body language showed that I could open them up. I just walked up to them, put my 2 hands on 2 of the girls' shoulders and started asking: "Hey, are you guys from the fraternity as well?, I don't know many people here and just want to make some friends!" It worked. 3 girls were looking at me, listening to every word I said. I thought of the opinion opener: "Can you find romance at a bar?" They didn't really understood me so I just explained about finding a BF/GF in a bar. Soon in transitioned into finding out who was single. 2 were single, 1 wasn't. And 1 of them had kissed me on the END of the night. But more on that later. I talked to one of the girls from that my housemate brought and found out she was from neutral to interested.

I made more approaches and soon we were heading towards bar #2. At this point, I was sure that one of the girls my housemate brought was interested. I started talking to her, more and more kino. At some point I took her hands without asking, and started dancing seductively with her!. We came very close and strong eye contact. This took a little while because the connection broke when someone fell. No problem at all. Wash rinse repeat 5 mins later. Then I kissed her. She kissed PG-13, no tongue, just sweet making out. More approaches in this bar but too much details to tell.

In bar #3 the real thing happened. I made more and more approaches. Then the girls I kissed FIRST went up to me and said that she was going home. I said to her good night and also: "Can I get a kiss goodbye"? This wasn't just one kissing but making out goodbye. I got her number after that. In between approaches. Then I went up to the bar and I noticed a girl kind off tipsy but receptive. I started talking to her and seducing thát girl. She was so easy to pick up. A little bit of dancing, grinding from the front, strong eye-contact. She was holding so strong eye contact that I basically could kiss her easily. When I kissed her, I've got a tongue basically likking almost my the whole bottom of my face. I've never kissed somebody that was so aggresive in making out! It was (to be honest) kind off horrible. When I wanted to stop, she kept going. I said to her goodbye (she was half drunk anyway) without a number. After I walked away I wiped my face from all the spit on my face xD. After that some girl was getting my attention with her dancing. She used the fishing hook and I walked up to her. I said: "Wow, you just made me go up that easily". Her: "Yeah my dad taught me fishing!" Me: "I guess you've got a lot of good catches than;)". THen I said: "You smell nice, is that your perfume?" Her: "No that's my sweat (laughing)". After that she ejected.
I got then 2 more numbers from approaches but nothing special happened with these girls. At the end I noticed one of the girls from the 3-set from the beginning of the night. She looked interested. I once again danced seductively, and she was interested too. I was thinking: "Could this be possible? 3 k-closes on one night?" Then I thought: "Oh what the hell, I don't care if this goes wrong!" I used aggresive kino and at some point tried to kiss her. I got her cheek in front of me. Then I teased her: "You don't dare don't you?" Aaaaawh you can't handle the tension"! Her: "No Nooo, I can handle it". I didn't try again but she said: "We're going to 1 more bar, you gonna come with us?" I was ok with it.

Once inside bar #4, I got myself a drink and talked with the bar girl. I tried to convince her in flirting with me but she told me about camera's and such. Bummer but ok. I walked up to the girl again, and we started heavily dancing again. At some point I said: "15 minutes until you have to go, and you still don't dare it;)" (teasing her). She was like: "What do I not dare?" Me: "You know what I mean" (laser eyes). She came closer, then tension built up, until she just had to make out with me. This girl kissed in between the girls from the night. Not PG-13, but also not too aggresive. Although she did use tongue immediatly. It was very good though. Very arousing to me. I got a boner ffrom it haha. After 2 strong make-outs, I held the seducer frame and strong eye-contact, and she said: "You're a player aren't you?" Me: "What do mean by that"? (offcourse I knew). Her: "Am I the first one you kissed tonight?" I wasn't sure if she had noticed me so I said: "Well no, you're the second" (even though I lied that one too). She was not too happy with it, but still made out with me once more. She had to go, I got her number, made a misscall, made out one more time. And then she left to go home with her dad picking her up. I went up to some guys she was with and they all saw me with her. I got high fives, guys calling me: "oh you're the one who kissed XXX". That kind of stuff. If only they knew what I had done that night. I made a few more approaches but nothing more special. At home my housemates were up. Once they went to bed, I hugged the girls that were going to sleep, kept them warm with my arms, and then started typing this Field Report while it's still fresh.

Could I have gotten laid?
In my opinion YES, if the logistics were better. 2 girls were about to be picked up, and the 2nd girl was too horrible at making out. Better luck next time!

What have I learnt today?
- No matter how bad your previous night were, there will be nights (like this) where everything falls into place!
- Seductive dancing is a good way to build up (sexual) tension: THANKS SKILLS:) !
- I don't think k-closing is a sticking point anymore.

Wallie

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^ excellent! baby steps next time try to push a bit more... Anyways for snl/ons here:

make sure to watch the video at the end as well:

http://www.theskillsmethod.com/my-how-t ... -and-bars/


This is a dude i help he was in your similar situation, read the report for fun:

virgin-shackles-begone-bus-stop-pull-fr ... 64661.html

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Day 60: 3rd October 2013
I can't describe anything of the past 2 days

Goals:
- Meeting new friends
- Pushing compiance with the girls

Field report+:
Dafuq is going on. Like I'm on some crazy upcoming wet spell. Tonight was another blast.

We were in our house drinking some beers and stuff. At first I was actually supposed to NOT go out agian, and just go to my parents home. I don't know why but I sticked with my housemate and his friends and actually went out to the city.

At the first bar we didn't meet any girls. There was like a 1/5 ratio of girls/guys. Very bad odds. So went drank one beer and went to another bar. Now this is where the crazy part starts.

I took me 10 minutes until some guy was passing by and made some gay remarks towards me. The girl next to me noticed it and I said something funny about it. She laughed and we had a 10 minute conversation with each other. I made some kino until she said: "I already have a BF". Me: "And you let me waste all this time!"( fake angry but still enough to let her know I didn't appreciate it). Then I saw a girl standing "alone" (her friend was busy with another guy) so I just approached her. Withing 30 seconds I started touching her and she touched back. It was ON! Then after 30 seconds we started making out. I was quite surprised how easily it went. And because I made out so well ( I know this, it's not bragging), she wanted more and more. At some point I said: "Lets get outta here!" But she didn't hear or understand it (loud music) and pulled her shoulders up. I said it 3 times but same reaction every time. Then a little eye-contact ( which I wanted to built up tension) but no, she immediatly started kissing me again. This went on like 10 times (I'm not making a joke!) until she said that she had to go to the bathroom. I waited 10 mins max but she didn't return. After that I went home with a name and making out, nothing more! But it was gooooood!

What have I learnt today:
- All it takes is that one girl that's totally into you!
- Maybe going out alone is all that it takes also!

Wallie

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