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Please use toastmaster and enjoy its benefits.
Work seriously in toastmaster, give yourself 6 months at toastmaster and see the difference.
I am also working on my voice with a voice coach.
If i find any improvement, ill Post in detail on working with voice.
Thanks for the input Illusionist! I actually think I won't need 6 months for see improvements! I've improved somehow even in that one single day I've been there. Just listening to the story of those people was wonderful and inspiring for the inner game.
I don't think I need a voice coach, at least for now... I am Italian, don't forget

I can make a girl cum just speaking to her (this is not totally a joke

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Thursday night
A little field update, nothing special.
The ExLesbianHB8 is going to Toronto this weekend, so I won't be able to meet her. I send a couple of cocky-funny messages during the week, and that will be it. I think I will freeze her out until next Thursday.
The strategy I've planned to hit on her is very simple: I'm going to play the "pick-up training" card. She knows I'm single and I'm searching on the field.
So I'm going to ask her to try this "new techniques" on her I am try do develop to pick up chicks, like the Shock-and-Awe opener, or the Fucking-Italian-Irresistible-SuperKiss, or even some simple body language stuff.
Just to have some feedback from a girl, you know?
Then, once we go out in a club, I'm going to try those in field in front of her, and I really want to see what her reactions will be
I went out to the usual Thursday Club yesterday.
My only two goals of the night were:
1) SLOW DOWN.
2) make eye contact with everybody and wave to the ones that keep the eye contact.
Jesus, slow down looked very simple, it's totally not.
The energy level is very high, walking slowly, speaking slowly and moving slowly is much more difficult than expected. Sometimes I even felt like a retard doing it (walking slowly, while people behind me were almost pushing me to go for a smoke or something lol!).
A lot of times I found myself going faster, without even realizing it.
Look everybody in the eye is much more simple...
The only noteworthy interaction happened at the beginning of the night, with this sweet-face-omg-I'm-falling-in-love-with-you-babe HB9.
This HB9 works at the desk at my gym. Last time I've seen her at the gym she and other employees were having a meeting about "how to deal with clients", for example when they want to cancel a subscription... In the meantime, I was training juggling...
The opener was easy because she was speaking with a girl I know, so there was no risk of cockblocking.
The girl I know leave her and I approached her with "Do you work at the gym?"
HB9: "Yes" -
smiling, open body language
Me: "What's your name?" -
mistake, even if we met at the gym and she recognized me, still not enought comfort build for names
HB9: "I'm sweet-face-omg-I'm-falling-in-love-with-you-babe HB9"
I shake her hand, look in her eyes and wait for her to ask my name. She does not.
HB9: "Are you having something from the bar?"
Me: "No, I'm not having any drink! I am making an experiment: 6 months without alcohol, coffee and sex"
HB9: smiling "Wow, how is it going?"
Me: "Very bad, it is extremely hard to quit having sex with girls! So, please, stop hitting on me! I can't fail my experiment for you!" -
disqualify
HB9 smiles but does not say anything.
I keep 30 seconds of silence but I reach eye contacts from time to time and smile. This was weird as I expected some comments like - I'm not hitting on you!
Me: "So, I want to cancel my membership at the gym!" -
bait
HB9: "What?? Why?"
Me: "It's not a very good gym, I've seen better..." -
HB9 - start to qualify the hell out of her gym (that actually is one of the best in town) -
hook
Me: "What are you doing??? That is not what your boss was teaching you during the meeting! You have to deal differently with people that wants to cancel membership! And where is my compliment? Your boss taught you to compliment, so, I am waiting for you throwing some compliments at me! You're such a bad student!" -
this one is quite a gold comment, it has everything... neg, DHV, cocky-funny, her-qualify, I LOVED MYSELF IN THIS MOMENT
She, blushing and laughing : "You have a nice tie!" -
she kinoed my chest
At this point (I was going to
reel "Ok, I'll keep my membership" and
release ) but, to my complete total shame, I was AMOGed by some guy.
He approached ME, shook my hand, assumed a dominant position on my HB9, cut me off, and he started speaking to her. Jesus.
They walked away almost immediately, I have to assume they know each other (I don't think he's her boyfriend). I got cockblocked anyway.
Later on, I've seen her with some of her girlfriends texting like crazy in a quiet zone of the room. I didn't want to disturb. She seemed too much into it.
I left the club early because I had to work next day.
Lessons Learned
- slowing down is very difficult, I need to practice much more.
- on the other side, if I speak slowly, I have more time to think about what to say. The
bait-hook-reel-release technique I was nonchalantly throwing at her wasn't planned and was wonderful. I could have never thought about it if I wasn't slowing down words and thinking about it.
Mistakes
- asking for her name too early in the stage. Even if we've seen each other in the gym, I shouldn't have done it
- I could have opened with the bait-hook-reel-release! That would have been hilarious! Opening with "I want to cancel my membership at the gym!" BOOM
Update of the journal
- In the place where Toastmaster meeting are taking place, there are also guitar lessons and drawing lessons. I may start attendig those two. They will add a lot to my style!