backstory: met this girl on a uni trip didnt really hit on her cos she said she had bf and some other stuff at my end, hitting on her friend etc. once we got back to uni ran into her on a night out and got with her but didnt get her number (luckily had her on fb) so i managed to chat to her on that and managed to arrange a date. she flaked on the date (for work, she is in 1st year). got her number and am texting her, we will go ages without talking and she wont ever start talking but when we talk we seem to be getting on well.

i then had a lot of stuff on so wasnt able to arrange another date, but she did try a few times, as did her friend trying to double but we were both busy with our dissertations and then we broke up for easter. i was texting her whilst she was on holiday and she was responding promptly. most recently i waited to test her to see if she would text me but she didnt so i text her but that was after 10 days. bit of an AFC text

me: hey. hows it going? how was the rest of your holiday? any good stories? x (kisses have happened before)

its been a few days since i text her so almost a fortnight since we spoke. (met her before xmas. got with her around valentines). what should i do. she obviously liked me at one point, is she testing me or not really interested. should i wait until we get back to uni? if she is on fb chat should i talk to her there?

thanks for any advice you could give me

Dude... You've got no attraction. You have a phone number. That' it. She probably gave your her phone number so you would stop asking her for it.

Advice for text game. DON'T DO IT! Pick up the damn phone and CALL. She needs to HEAR your voice. Not see your words. She's probably got a million and two guys texting her.

Normally I think you give some reasonable advice. I however think texting is superior to calling, especially if she doesn't have attraction.

1. A phone call or 2 can be ignored then what? With text, if she is at work she will probably reply with an I'm busy now or whatever.
2. You can ruin any attraction very easy saying something stupid during a phone call. With text, that won't happen (unless you are drunk) because you can think for a while before replying.
3. It's good she has other guys texting because they all say the same shit. Hey, how's it going etc? This is where once again you can seperate yourself from the pack.
4. It's easier to sexually escalate. This can lead to phone sex but, you can't do that when you're first getting to know her.
5.With text, you can send pics and funny videos and whatever.
6. With text, you can force her to call you by saying I'm driving, just call.
7. With text, you can break rapport hardcore. On the phone it's harder because they will have a feeling of when your next call will happen.
8. With text, you can get away with saying stuff that is not socially appropriate. On the phone, she may get offended.
9. With text, she is more willing to open up. It's less personal so her boundaries by default are wider open.

If you do this right, your message should give her a Pavlovs horse effect. She should be excited or aroused you even sent anything.

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thanks for the advice.

i just thought that there was some attraction because she asked out on dates. also i didnt ask for her number but tricked her into her giving her mine.