Guys, so there's this girl in my class (shoock) who i am attracted to. We only have one or two of the same subjects so i only see her 3 times a week. Now last week, in the break between classes she was suddenly sitting next to me (before the break in the first part of class she sat way behind with her friends). She asks me if its empty i reply "no" look at her, and tell her iam just kidding. So we shake hands and exchange names, and we talk a little bit when there was a chance during the lecture. (Did i get approached or what?)
Today in class, i sat with my friends. Turned my head around a little and there she was, she looked at me and gave me i smile so i returned a smile. We didn't talk today though.
Am i killing anything i could achieve by beeing "too cool"/too laid back/"hard to get"? Should i just sit down next to her next class or is it better to catch her in the break? I am thinking about asking for her number, but i feel it's too early. Thing is it takes an awful lot of time for me to get really attracted to a girl, and she is to only one i have seen in this new city that actually meets my standards looks wise.
Thanks for any help!

Just talk to her and get her damn number, nothing will happen if you do nothing!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Yeah i know. I'm just so damn confused, because all the PUA stuff i've been through is like "Don't ask question, don't act like its an interview" so idont really know what the fack to say. I mean am I supposed to just walk up to her and say something like "Hi, listen how about you give me your number, maybe i'll call you a weekend and you can come take a cofee with me" and then just walk away, after only sharing what like 15 mins of conversation before that?

Dude dont listen to all that stuff, what they mean is dont ask interview questions ie. where you from. instead you look like a southern girl

if she says she is you reply, that is the worst thing u could say, if she says no you say good!

thats a bit of push pull right there.

Point is dont ask questions, make statements. (thats what that phrase you keep reading and hearing about really means)

Secondly, fuck that phrase. Lol Yes make statements, but just do what you want cause you want to do it, dont be afraid to fuck up, if she calls you out on it say, my bad I just say what I feel like saying, I don't try to impress people by letting them hear what they want to hear, thats not the type of person I am.


Fuck sakes if you like doing taxes, talk about it, thats better than pretending you are passionate about salsa dancing cause she happens to be with Latin America and she is a dancer.

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html

Don't get too much PUA bullshit in your head, Just near the end of the convo try "Hey I gotta bolt, but I like your style, how 'bout I get your number so we can chat later".

Then GO!

That simple!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Sometimes when you really like a girl you try too hard, or you are just too nervous and come across as needy and creepy. I've tried to talk to girls before, but I'll be monotone and start asking them random questions. I'm too nervous to relax and loosen up and sound natural, and I'm too afraid I'll let the conversation die off, so I start asking weird and awkward questions that don't even make sense. It becomes obvious I'm trying too hard and it kills the mood.

Then other times I'm relaxed, and I kick back in the chair or lean against the wall while chatting with a girl. I'm laughing and joking and engaging her in thought provoking conversations and staring into her eyes while she talks. I don't worry about saying the wrong thing. And even if I say something that doesn't hit its mark, it doesn't seem to matter because I don't allow it to.

I don't know why I do things right sometimes and do everything wrong other times. It's probably something to do with being in the proper "state" as they say. It has nothing to do with saying the exact right combination of words. It's all about my inner game and my state of mind and how I project myself. I hope that makes sense.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Just go for it, a girl once told me I was too "reserved" and laid back. So I thought about this for a while, and took action. Now I am not saying I am rnning after girls and chasing them down now, but instead I go for what I want. I am still extremly laid back but if I want something I go and get it. Just be yourself, ask for the number and take it from there. Good luck

Okay, so yesterday i was late to class. Came in after the break so didn't get a chance to talk to her. Today i didn't ser her in class up until she came down to talk to a friend of hers (who was sitting 3 desks to my right. Now i get the feeling shes trying to get my attention because its maybe the third or fourth time she has popped up from
nowhere and start talking to a girl whos sitting close to me or i am just
overthinking). Walking out of the class she was talking to some random dude so i didnt interrupt (i am so farking stupid, i know)z. Now i dont ser her until next wednesday, but i thought since we've already talked once and i know her first name, can i send her a message on facebook asking for notes from the class i was late to? I feel so damn helpless just waiting 5 days doing nothing. Is it creepy/needy/afc to message her on FB (i am not friends with her there, and we only have 3 mutual friends)

Don't facebook her. Wait till next time she is with you in class and look for every opportunity to talk to her. If you don't find one, make one.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Ninja well said in your last post about "state" its so true, sometimes with the same girl I can have a crazy hit day, go on an insta-date and have a fucking good time, other times it goes completely shit, and she acts like a crazy arrogant bitch, maybe I am try-hard in those scenarios, trying to force an outcome or some scenario of some sort.

Getting in state is one of my sticking points, I don't know how to tell when I am in state, but when I am in state I go hard.

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html

Watch this video on youtube (or click on the link on my signature):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHrCFXGlGYU

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Nathan Griffin

Thanks for the help guys. What i am experiencing is that i get nervous and worry too much about the outcome because she seems like my kind of girl and i dont wanna blow it cause it takes ages for me to find girls like that.
Even when she came to me the first time, my heart was litterally pounding inside m the whole damn time she was sitting next to me. I mean talking to chicks i find hot is not a problem, talking to girls i am attracted to or look at as girlfriend material always makee me damn nervous. Whats a good way to kill or supress this nervousness?

You really have to treat them like a normal person who happens to be hot and has characteristics that you like

So today i finally talked to her, and now i'm like "wtf, was that really so hard for you". What happened was she sat behind me so at the end of the lecture while i was walking out i just asked "Hi, do you have notes from the morning class" (I overlept) She said yes but they were in another classrom so me and her walked there just having a simple conversation, she gave me the notes and i high-fived her for them and left.
New class tomorrow, thinking about asking for her number any ideas?