Hey guys,

I bombed out with this girl and any input on this would be most appreciated! Heres the story:

I met this nice girl on a party saturday night. We hit it off really great, i wasnt really interested at the time so i wasnt at all to needy or anything which is probably why i acted so smooth. We just talked a little and she was clearly interested.

When it was time for her to leave, she came up to me to tell me she was leaving and gave me a hug so i said "we should go out and grab a drink sometime" and she said "sure". So i told her i was gonna look her up on Facebook.

So i did and added her as a friend. Sent a message saying something like "you left in time, just before the neighbours showed up to complain about the music".

She replied something like "oh was it that loud? Did you continue out to club and partied on?"

To which (i just didnt think and acted like a total fool) wrote a kinda long e-mail to tell her i was away on a business-course in insurance-techniques in another town and asked her how her week was going. To which i got no reply (that was two days ago).

By that time i had started to think about her to much and cared to much and i really, really wish i could take that boring e-mail back and start again!

Anyhow, what is done is done and the question is can i recover from this? I dont just want to send her another mail like some stalker, but i cant use any PUA-techniques like negging or something if she wont reply?!

Any input would be highly appreciated. Please let me know if i forgot any important details.

Freeze her out for a week then re-initiate with a funny and/or DHV short text.

I like to use a text which is usually a lie but has a larger chance of them responding too, then I calibrate their interest and switch topics, push-pulling the initial reason I texted her.

Examples:

"Its tequila Tuesdaythey were asking about you here"
"just wanted to make sure my favorite hot mess is still alive after what I heard"
"you have ruined fake tits for me btw, why did you say that last week?"

34.7% chance of success, if shes really bnot interested then it wont go anywhere. Remember you have to maintain higher value

One boring email isn't gonna have ruined it dude, it hasn't done you any favours for sure lol but it's not too hard to recover from.

Personally I'd go into baiting/qualifying her, I started doing this recently with great results. Managed to re-open a girl over facebook doing this that I'd only met once like 5 months beforehand.

You say your message was boring, so you want to convey to her that you aren't necessarily as boring as that message may have appeared. You want to inject a little excitement with your next message (even if she replies in the next day or 2 to the boring one). Keep it short/sweet and something that will spike her interest/make her wonder. "OMG you won't believe what happened last night!" is something I've used before which is usually greeted with a chorus of "what happened?" from here then you can tease her a little, she wants to know what happened and you're not gonna tell her (which is handy if nothing did really happen haha) just keep playfully withholding the information so stuff like "I can't tell you unless you can prove to me you can keep a secret!" she'll then probably make some fleeting attempt to do just that then you can just keep it going, for as short/long a time as you want. If you wanna get off the topic just ask a make another statement/ask a question or whatever with no reference to this supposed 'crazy thing' that happened to you.

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good advice but I wouldn't try qualifying her before she has shown interest by you displaying value. Baiting is fine.

I see guys post texts and emails on these forums all the time trying to qualify chicks when the chicks arnt yet invested. That's a fail, you need to do the groundwork.

Thanks for the feedback guys, i appreciate it!

I'll wait about a week (and think of a nice bait that shows im not boring) and e-mail again. If i don't get any replies on that i'll probably consider it a lost cause.

Jeez... One little wrong move and you're done with!

in the initial interaction, unless you come in with high value , you cant really afford to make a mistake

if shes invested you can make as many mistakes as you like depending on her level of emotional attachment.