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Imagine tasting a small spoonful of your favorite flavor ice cream in the whole wide world and multiply the awesomeness of that flavor tenfold. You feel the delicious molecules from the food tickling your taste buds as you ascend into oral ecstasy. How do you feel about that? You open your mouth and the following words flow out: "I like it. I want more."
Now imagine getting a bank statement that says you are almost in the red. Your monetary funds have depleted for whatever reason. You feel a panicking sensation emerge from within your center of gravity, knowing that you need to find something to fill that massive hole in your bank account. You see a rich man walk by wearing a fucking suit made of 100 dollar bills. You find yourself practically gravitating toward this man. How do you feel about this? You open your mouth and the following words flow out: "I need it. I want it."
Expressing sexuality and desire like an alpha male is like getting a small taste of the ice cream that is woman through simply looking at her. He wants more because it feels good. He tells her that she's sexy because he means it. His penis means it.
Complimenting like an AFC is exactly like having a sense of lack, thinking that you can replenish your self-esteem by essentially taking some from a beautiful woman. He sees her and feels some sort of hope that maybe, JUST MAYBE, she can save him from validation bankruptcy. He tells her that she's sexy because he wants something from her.
So how do you not complement like an AFC? ANd what would be the main differences in the compliments between the AFC and Alpha?
The main thing to take away from this is that your actions will always reflect, in one way or another, your internal state (what you are actually feeling).
The best way to compliment like a PUA, or to not compliment like an AFC, is to first and foremost control your emotions. For this I recommend practicing self control and getting in touch with your emotions. You can achieve mastery of these esoteric disciplines through things like meditation and an art form like music (that's what I did). Once you get a grasp of that, you'll be able to control your emotions well enough so that you can feel like that guy who tasted his favorite ice cream rather than the guy who lost all his money in the economic recession. To reiterate my point from earlier:
guy who tasted ice cream = alpha PUA
guy who lost all his money = AFC
Alternatively, you can try to force your actions in a way that just LOOKS like you are being alpha, but even so you will still come off as awkward because millions of subconscious micro body language cues and stuff like that will betray you. Women are at least ten times better at catching these cues (they call it "women's intuition") than men, so it's easier to take the path I recommended.
Verbally, sometimes there is no difference between a compliment from an AFC and one from an alpha male. There are obviously some things that AFCs say more than alpha males and vice versa, but the main difference is the feeling you give off from subconsciously projecting your internal state (which you are always doing whether you like it or not).
I'll write a more detailed article about mastering your emotions and shit like that later, so watch out for that. I'll edit this post to provide a link once I do that.
CHAT
. I admit I was a little unprepared for that. When an HB says something like that, how do ya'll generally respond?
