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I've read over all your posts. Honestly, I'm not entirely convinced girl A is attracted to you. This could be for many reasons.
But if you look back at all the messages you've posted on this thread, you've never once told us how you FELT. You're making it seem like your entire mission is to sleep with this girl. But even then, you've never even described how she looks, or what attracts you to her. Your posts are extremely factual and unemotional... Like it's a huge game. Like you're the play-by-play announcer of the most boring and defensive hockey game. There is absolutely no colour in your words -- just the suspense of what the next date will bring. You have no difficulty whatsoever freezing her out (when in reality, this should be at the very minimum unpleasant to you). I can only imagine how awkward your attempts to kiss her were. Out of the blue and completely random perhaps? A kiss should always be well timed and fitting with the context, the mood, the conversation, etc.
This is in sharp contrast to the average AFC who posts his heartbreak story and how much he wants to be with his distant girlfriend or girl that's been rejecting and ignoring him.
The reason why I point this out is because if you communicate like that to HER, then she's probably not feeling you, and you've failed to create any emotional connection whatsoever. I'm guessing that your demeanour on here is rather identical to your demeanour with her. If that's the case, she sees you as a rock. You don't give off vibes of emotion and feelings. And if she THINKS you're a player, then she'll just think you see her as a tool.
I see your point... but to be perfectly honest, I simply didn't want to provide all the unnecessary details, because that's what usually makes me skim through posts, which results in not reading them thoroughly enough.
But while we're at it, we could try
A is an 8-9, half asian, petite girl, about 1.5 years younger than me. She's got shiny, long, dark hair and is quite snappy, which is probably what I like most about her. I could imagine actually dating her, but not right now, because I don't want to go from one serious relationship into the next. Also, some friends wouldn't approve of me dating her, because when we first met, we were always lightly flirting (apparently, I wasn't really conscious of it), which made my gf at the time a bit angry... And I play improv with her, which could possibly end up awkwardly. Like I said, she's gone a bit stale, but let's see where the newest events lead.
B is a 7.5-8.5, white, also quite petite chick, same age as me. She's blonde, which is actually not my type but I still find her quite attractive. Like I described in a previous post, she actually 'approached' me. She's been throwing herself at me ever since, I've been text gaming her and K-closed her the other day, which couldn't have been easier. She might just be too easy, I like a challenge. I don't think I would actually date her, but I could imagine turning her into an FB, depending on her qualities between the sheets.
As for the freezing her out, I must admit that it wasn't particularly hard, because A is not very active when it comes to texting or being online. Also, I see her every week, which makes it pretty easy. Freezing out B is probably the easiest thing ever, because 1. she texts very often, so it's a nice break and 2. she texts back at least the next day.
I have to say that my writing style does not really resemble my character... Especially in English, which is a language I mostly write academically in, actively avoiding too much colour.
I'm not saying that I'm extraordinarily emotional, but I definitely am not a rock
