your relationship? I have personal problems, which I am aware might influence my relationship with my girlfriend. I tend to shut down when I am feeling overwhelmed with stress and right now it happens to be problems with my family. My girlfriend doesn't know why I have been so cranky lately, but I am trying to fix it on my own and not let it get in the way. Is this when it is okay to use your girlfriend for support? I have been very snappy lately, I received a speeding ticket the other day, my girlfriend got a puppy (which I have no clue how to raise), work is stressing me out (I have two jobs), etc.

I am just trying to be the rock in the relationship. She has issues of her own...

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This is the situation where I think you can talk to her and get support. Everybody has issues. Everyone. If you shut down she will feel cast out. It brings connection to the relationship to talk about problems.

Obviously you can't expect her to solve your problems but to talk about them is perfectly ok. But you can also talk to others about your issues like your friends so you don't dump everything on her. My main point is don't try to deal with everything on your own.

If you're in a committed relationship with her, let 'er rip... Depending how long you've been with her and how serious you are, you may have (sound as if you have) moved beyond 'pickup' with this one...

That's her job (part of it)... and it's part of your job.

You'd probably want her to tell you about her problems if the situation were reversed.

Keep if vague if you'd like, even... but if you care about her it's probably a decent idea to let her know some shit is happening, and that she's not responsible for your bad mood.

No No No!

Vent to your boys. Thats all I'm going to say man. Just trust me; you don't know confide in a woman. You have 3 times do to that in an entire relationship, before she begins to lose respect for you. Its your job to hold your emotions together. Women are emotional and they need us to be strong emotionally so they can have someone to lean on.

Vent on the forums, vent to your boys, vent to your mom or dad.. But do no show that weakness around the woman you are with.


I knew this old pimp.. And one day I asked him.. " how did you do it man.. you've had thousands of women. How did you do it? '

He said " Out of all of the women I've been with; not once did any of them no I was depressed, sad, or had a problem. They always respected me for that. My problems were mines; not theirs. "

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Yes, this is what my line of thinking is right now. I read everyone else's answers but I believe ultimately that keeping problems to myself and solving them on my own is rather a good thing.

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