A chance reconnection with a University friend I hadn't spoken to in a year--who turned out to be a PUA--a couple months ago blew the hull out from under everything I thought I knew about people. After discussing this newfound activity for half-an-hour with him, having never heard of it before, I was enthralled. I woke up early the next morning to read a borrowed copy of The Game before work, and found it fascinating and moving; no author--Fitzgerald, Salinger, Lee, which were my favorites in high school--has ever resonated with me like Neil Strauss. I was so happy to hear him say "I was reminded of how much I love human contact...we [human beings] need touch. But we're so sexually screwed up and obsessed that we get nervous and uncomfortable whenever another person touches us." I actually cried a little, sitting there on a park bench on a sunny morning.

So, I'm Maxwell. I'm 21 and I study physics at a University. I've always loved girls; I know that sounds like a bland statement for a male to make, but it's true. I love female attention. Unfortunately, I'm not very good with women, either; not hopelessly atrocious (I've had sex with 2--one of which was a 2-year relationship that I still say was the one of the best things that ever happened to me, even now that it's over--and fooled around pretty hard with 3 more), but pretty bad. I talk very fast, likely faster than anyone you've ever met, and for reasons I'm still discerning most people find me hostile when they first meet me, and for these reasons I make a poor first impression. I do have plenty of male friends, who I feel more comfortable around than I have any female I've ever met, save my ex-girlfriend.

I'm in pickup because I'm tired of it. Yes, by that I mean I'm tired of sleeping alone most nights, but it's not just that. I'm tired of seeing happy couples come into my place of business and wishing that could be me again. I'm tired of a buddy introducing me a female friend and having that sinking feeling that says "she'll never even get to know you, because in five minutes you'll have been so awkward she'll be looking for an excuse to stop talking to you."

So no more. I'm struggling to just overcome AA right now, but it'll come with time. (some style coaching from a buddy helped a ton. It's amazing how much dressing like the man makes you FEEL like the man). I'm going to keep going at it until I get it, because if there's one thing I learned from pickup, it's that with enough persistence, every last person has a cool story to tell. You just have to work to get it out.

bravo.. great hello
your gonna do just fine, just learn this stuff in steps
for example learn the correct body language then go approach 10 sets, then learn vocal tonality stuff then go approach 10 steps., then a few openers then go approach 10 steps.... and inner game is the most important, you constantly want to be learning inner game,,, read books.. do a search on this thing, you will find plenty

good luck,, and take it slow.. don't learn everything at once

Hey Maxwell,

Don't bother about the fact that you're being a nerd. I'm a nerd too, i still get the girls. In fact, i just had a girl who was surprised that i said i wanted to go to IT school ( i failed my exams, have to wait a year). Her jaw dropped and she said:
"You're not the stereotype nerd, you must be kidding me?" So go out, become a f*cking pick-up artist and show the girls you are someone with A LOT OF VALUE!

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hey Maxwell, you are not alone. Almost everyone here was a Nerd or AFC. That is the true and core quality of becoming a PUA. We are not natural. That is why we are the new species living in world. Woman can see us as a whole package, once we get the other half of what woman want. We already know how to be care, and nice to people that would be the hardest part for other people, giving. Now, we learn the other half. There are so many mentors and people go with you in this journey. You are not alone at all.
Actually, you should see it this way. You are 21, and you woke up from AFC far earlier than most of the people. I am 26, I was just woke up. You have no reason to be upset about it. You should be happy. When you are 26 like me, you are already so much developed in term of the game comparing to me at this moment. Right?

Welcome to this big family. I will need to catch up on the future 26 years old of you!.