I've always taken a great interest in the world of pickup but have never truly 'thrown myself' into the game. This is purely down to the fact that I have mild cerebral palsy. Nothing like being wheelchair bound and not able to move any of my limbs but just that my muscles are tighter than normal and as a result I'm a pretty stiff person, especially around certain girls (ha).

I walk with a pretty heavy limp (it's more like a 'sway') and it's this that is really holding me back. It might sound weird but as I've gotten older I've gotten less confident, as I've become more aware of myself. Before (around 13-16 years old) I had no problems with girls but in recent years (16-18.) I've found myself somehow becoming more and more socially awkward by the day. It's the first impression which I worry about the most (as I'm sure most do anyway). Due to the way I walk, I've gotten to the point where my confidence is almost nonexistent when not only trying to make a good first impression on a girl, but anyone in general. When I get to know girls (or anyone else) however, I'm completely fine and can actually be quite cocky at times. It's the initial impression where I'm struggling.

I never used to have problems keeping a conversation going either but again, in recent years I've found myself constantly drawing for my phone if there is any possibility of conversation. It's gotten to the point where it's just pathetic. I give out such a confident, almost twattish attitude to those I know well but really, I'm an insecure little bitch a lot of the time.

Apart from the first impression, where my CP affects me hard is generally getting myself about. From what I've gathered a big part of being a PUA is being an active person who gets about a lot and as a result is as interesting as can be but I can barely walk 5 minutes without tiring myself out. The awkwardness of my walking at times also makes it difficult to keep up conversation for even those 5 minutes. As a result, I have to taxi pretty much everywhere if I can't get a lift and as a student who's just started uni, it can become pretty pricey. I can't go on walkabouts, can't take someone on an instant date and often can find myself out the loop if everyone is going out but they're walking it. I mean, I can't force everyone to take a taxi just for me. I become a burden.

Anyhow, that's enough rambling. I've signed up here to hopefully get some help on trying to potentially kickstart a life in pickup. As a student currently in his first week at university, now seems a better time than ever.

Greatly appreciate if you've read this far, and if you haven't, I don't really blame you.

- Shankly

Hey Sam,
welcome from just another newbie here :) Great you made it here, and it's good so see that you still have the will to fight and go for it. Where there's smoke, there will be fire!

I think you will have to adapt your game style and targtes. Day game in the university library, attending university work/hobby groups (theres usually lots of girls in music classes, with a very low BS), organizing dorm parties, or even activities such as sailing where you can also adjust the equipment to your physical abilities and meet a lot of people, whatever.

Have fun out there!

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Pain is temporary

I live very close to the uni library so I can see myself spending a lot of time in there, how I spend the time however...

I'm signing up to numerous societies tomorrow. Looking at joining the Film, Gaming and Law (my course) societies. The Law one is the biggest in the entire uni, like 300+ members.

Dorm parties sound a good idea too. A load of people generally come over to pre-drink anyhow. By merely sitting in the kitchen tonight, I met a load of people. I didn't even have to get out my chair.

The sailing is an interesting suggestion, I like the idea of doing something more physical. I'm actually thinking about joining the gym (which is also close) to work on my cardio, so I can walk longer distances. Also to loosen up a bit and gain some weight (I'm a twig SPAM).

Thanks for the reply TBolt mate, it's greatly appreciated.

This is the first thing I want you to get rid of. Instead of saying "if you haven't i don't really blame you" get more of a "If you haven't read this than you don't know what you are missing out on" type of attitude. You say when you are around people you know you can be quite cocky. That means that is your personality because you are more of yourself around people you are comfortable with than anybody else. Carry that cockyness around like you own it. At the same time though make sure not to go to overboard with it. I know having CP can make this really tough. I don't remember some of the comedians names but they have mental and physical disabilities and they make fun of themselves quite abit and it is hysterical. This is because they are comfortable in their skin and who they are as a person. Don't be afraid to cuss some people out or have some witty comments for if people make fun of your condition. When you do that those around will think "This guy means business" Most people who have no disabilities at all are very insecure so when they see someone like yourself who embraces their ailment they can become very attracted to that.

Yeah, I totally get what you mean. I've said stupid shit like "Well you see, my grandfather was a penguin" when people ask me about my limp/waddle and "Yeah well, this is the way your mum was walking after I was done banging her last night" when someone laughs at the way I walk. Yes it's lame but it manages to get some laughs.

My personality contrasts so much between before and after you know me and it's something I need to sort out. It's just this insecurity about CP has been growing and growing as the years have gone by. I understand completely what you mean by when you say it's all about being comfortable in your own skin. I used to have a lot more luck with girls when I was younger and didn't have a care in the world about my disability.

Hey Scyther,

I too am living with an illness (had ulcerative colitis for 2 years, got my colon removed and now have a permanent stoma bag) which has completely shattered my confidence. However, after gaming for a short time I've definitely noticed a difference in my confidence. Just gotta keep the chin up and get on with it. There will be people who are bothered by your illness and equally people who wont. For those who are, disassociate yourself with them, they're unimportant and are only going to bring you down. Surround yourself with people who like and respect you and you'll be truly happy.

I wish you all the success in your endeavours.

All the best
Dáire

Scyther,

I've got CP too. Feel free to ask if I can help you on any aspects of your game!

All the very best, and enjoy uni! It's great fun!

Welcome!

The way i see it is use your situation to your advantage.

The world is full of hot women that want to save stray cats, lost puppies and cool guys with cerebral palsey from the injustices of the world.

Im not saying be manipulative, just be honest, tell her what you've told us.

Be honest about the pain, lonelyness, insecurity and so forth.

The right girl will eat it up.

In time your pitch will become very polished and you'll get confident with it.

Dont get discouraged.

Good Luck!

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

Hey Scyther!

Any updates on how your game's been going?

All the best!

Give this a read, feel free to PM me.
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Yo okay guys I've been slacking. After the first couple of weeks of uni I just stopped trying. I was discouraged by the club scene and got lazy with the day game. The first girl I approached after this OP was in the library and all went pretty well. We talked, I got her Facebook and she added me like the second she left. Then I hit her up a couple of days later (to ask about something on the course) and she completely blanked me. Then the next day I bumped into her and when I went to say "You alright?" she just gave me a weak smile with no eye contact and simply walked by. Don't know what the hell I did wrong, oh well.

Since around about then like I said I just haven't really been trying. It's a mixture of nerves and apathy I guess. I'm on a break right now though and thought it's about time I slapped myself out of this. I'm wasting so much opportunity. I live right in the middle of the city. My flat is quite popular, people are around a lot of the time. Yet I just decide to bitch out. I'm not a recluse, I get on well with my SPAM and coursemates and usually have something to do but I rarely properly go out any more. Really what is there to do when everyone just loves going out to clubs and getting drunk (I don't drink)?

Anyway I'm definitely gonna try and be more active on here from now on and get myself out a lot more once I get back to uni next week. It's really not just about picking up, it's about building myself up and realising who I am as a person if that makes sense.

Oh and I changed my username again. I'm gonna stick with Shankly from now on.

Great advice bro, cheers.
Will be in touch mate.
I've always wanted to pour out everything to someone but it just doesn't feel like me. I've never been able to do it. Just goes against what I'm like. Need to work on it and see how it plays out.
Brilliant read man, inspirational stuff.

Hey Guys,

Well I know that i dont know you at all but i myself have a "blemish" I have a scar on the side of my face. that this lowered my confidence so which in turn ruined my chance at game. When i was looking for a motivation to be okay with how i look and get my confidence back i came across a man named Sean Stephenson. It is my recommendation that you check him out on youtube i will provide a link below.

Good Luck to you all,
$hane

Watch all the part there is i believe 4 parts and you should watch them all it should take about a hour

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2rZqgkVDlg

Hey cheers for that mate. Seen that guy before. Will give that whole thing a watch once I'm done with my current assignment.

Hi guys, I hope you're all well!

Shankly, I presume you decided to name yourself thus, because you're a Liverpool supporter? I'm not, but I was just intrigued!

All the best!