Hi Donna first of all welcome to the forum,Im new over here too!!
We dont destroy women,we play the game,the game of seduction.We do something similar as many women do to us;PLAY!!
You have to admit that women like to test the guy they are dating sometime,at least thats been my experience ever since I kissed my first girl when I was 16 years old,most women I have met in my life have played with me and my feelings ans I never realy realised why until I read the book THE GAME,now I have learnt to understand women,now I know a bit more about the way they think, thats why I am into this and beleive me it hurts when you get to met a woman that you realy like and she just ends up messing you around and f****ing you up!!
Why you do it???well...I guess some women when they realise a guy likes her they just start to play with their feelings,might be because it makes them feel more femenine and level their selfsteam up.
Im not into this to try to sleep with as many hot women as posible but to get to learn how to atract women who I feel something for instead of end up all messed up and hurt.
So yes in my opinion all this is just a psycologic game wich women have been playing ever since the beginig of human kind existence,its just the way it is, and we men are just starting to learn,as the author of THE GAME Neil Strauss says "I recomend every man to learn it"
This is my opinion and also I should add that it might be a good idea for you to stay on this forum and learn about all this if you dont want to go trough a bad experience with men again.
All my regards.