Hey guys

It has been nearly a year since me and the ex split up. I feel really bad as there still has not been a day that she hasn't at times come into my mind.

I have gone out a couple of times lately, and to be honest it's done nothing for me, havn't wanted to be out, spunked money, and havn't met any girls I like, plus a couple of one nighters.

At college I would go out and make out with 5-10 girls a night, have sex most nights etc.... and to be honest, 4 years later... my success rate is a kiss here or there. Or a ONS with some girl who is an end of night girl. I have been chatting , making girls laugh etc... I think one of the biggest problems is my social status, all my friends are in LTR and have babies, so the people I go out with are the ones left with no game or F*** the night up.

My problem now is do I keep going out? Or take a few months off to just work on myself, it just seems that every time I go out, I will be fine in bars etc... as soon as I go to a shit club, or shit music comes on, I just think... i don't want to be here, is it worth me getting drunk when I have work tomorrow, this seems like alot of effort for nothing, my ex is amazing.

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And she is your ex. You need to get over her or else you will miss out on equally amazing women because they are out there and there are a lot of them.

BTW...how did you happen to pull an amazing girl?

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One thing you need to understand is, you are not dependent on anyone in order to have a good time. Ultimately, you consciously made your own decision to be happy. Your friends provide the stimulus. That being said, you should still be able to have a good time without them. Most of my friends are like yours as well, they have very little game and I have been to parties where I had all the girls interested in me, even with 20 other men in the room. You have opportunities to seduce women at any time with or without people to serve as wingmen, wingwomen and what have you...this is why we have day and night game.

Ditch all thoughts of your ex, and find opportunities to seduce women on your own (at a coffee shop, clothing store, work, etc).

Easier said than done I know but that's why we're here, we're students of game. Game that most men find hard to learn or hard to attempt, but you got this far, take one step further...

-Elijah

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I often ask myself the same thing. TBH at the time I was in my final year of college, 2 years after my previous ex who destroyed me after cheating on me. Was committing all my time to my dissertation, met a girl on a mates bday party, did not give two shits. Was more interested in getting a good college degree, and I guess that was my mission at the time that made me a catch.

Then it all went down hill.

Now getting back on track though making some money.

True, the social status I used to have did get me alot more opportunity. I was standing in the taxi que this week end and started to chat to girls, got blanked by so many, one couple of girls didn't even achnoeldge my existence, and I just thought 3-4 years ago I would have had a group of guys / girls around me and they would have never of blanked me. Where I come from all the girls are stuck up and rude though. Up north I seem to be a catch with the girls.

I have got quite a few numbers lately as well and had chats with girls, never get texts back. I personally think its because I'm a fat F$ck at the moment. Girls who do get to know me fall in love with me, but it's that initial meeting up with them after. It is very draining not succeeding in anyway at the moment.

You can fall back man.

Theres no use forcing yourself out right if you're just not feeling it. Theres more to life than chicks, and you can always swipe away at tinder until you get your mind right.

Did you leave her or did she leave you? It seems like you're just having a moment until you get your mindset together. These times come, but the strong people know that it'll be over soon. Just keep your head toward the brighter future up ahead.

Not to mention, it sounds like you just haven't met anyone you like yet. And the shitty defeated attitude is not going to help lol. Sleeping with a bunch of different women after a break up ain't exactly the answer, but when you find someone you genuinely connect with again you'll be over it.

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Wrong answer. The right answer is that she saw your value. My point being is that you said your ex is amazing and if that's the case, she thought you were at least equally amazing. Other women will see that too.

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Try daygame. It sounds like you don't like nightgame, and I don't blame, neither do I. You don't have to deal with the clubs, loud music, drinking, cockblocks or worrying about isolating the girl. Daygame is also an excellent anti-depressant. To get started, I recommend reading Daygame Nitro by Nick Krauser. Familiarize yourself with the London Daygame Model.

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Learn to be cool with yourself first

@Eddie

Yeah what you say is true.

My main problems at the moment are:

1. Was starting to accept that we will never get back together, I have recently got a new job though which is repetitive, boring as shit and 12 hour shifts.(well paid) She pops up in my mind so much the last two weeks because of this, and I analyse a million different things like... Was there someone else, why the last time I saw her did she say she was soar, how long was she planning on ending it, should I ask her again for the truth, drives me crazy.

Honestly driving home.at 6am tired she comes into mind, when I go to clubs music reminds me of her out partying probs getting with other guys. Kills me.

Part of me wants to get back with her in the future, but I told myself, if it was my mate who told me that he went to visit his gf on the train and on the way home she ended with him by text after a year and she said it was just distance. I would tell him... Fuck it... Don't even think about her she's a dick.

I know I hurt her alot telling her I was going off travelling which seemed to spark off all the doubt.

Honestly this is 11 months ago, its embarrassing that instill think this way. I think going out just hit me down a few pegs as I'm just not the catch I once was. And now I'm in that state of depression.

Have you had sex with 10 girls since the break up?

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Its a hurt ego man. You'll get over it.

You just don't want anyone else to have it. Its not a " I'm hurt because i love her", its more so a hurt that she'll belong to someone else. So you have to grow up and dust that off. I can promise you that there are better women out there.

I have noticed that around the same time of year that my last relationship ended I do get thoughts of the old girl. Those "what if thoughts", but I shrug that shit off. Let the mind play its tricks; you know whats best. And moving forward is whats best. Once you meet another girl that you genuinely connect with you'll be over this; probably even before that, but you just have to take your head from out of your ass so you can notice her when she passes by.

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One year is a long time to stay hung over the same girl.

Things can't change if you don't want them to change.

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I want them to change bad man. I'm writing a list of things I need to work on in my life. I guess now out of college it seems hard to meet a girl, the ones I have met who live in my town are all stuck up post twats. Literally. When I go up north I get on with the girls alot better.

I have met a few girls but no click so far. I don't think my new job is healthy for my.mental state as my mind does wonder into obsession mode.

Coming from a man who has been through the same thing as you; you want to work on yourself, do things for yourself and not to impress anyone, I started to hit the gym after I split from my ex and it really did help me re-directing all that negative energy/emotions into something positive, I did it all for me and now I am over her I am living a healthier life and I'm getting noticed for it when I go on nights out.

You will not get anywhere trying to approach women when you're feeling down, it will affect your BL and you will struggle to create any sexual tension because you would just be thinking of your ex. Take a step back and work on you matey. I am not saying this as a PUA because I am new to this but I am saying this as someone who has gone through the exact same thing as you.