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she cancels day of cause she thinks her dinner before hand will go over time. I reply, all good no worries.
Good reply.
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Next day catch the train together to work
Eh. That's a relationship vibe the morning right after first sex. Awkward and a bit smothering.
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seems ok but when I put my arm around her she's not really holding my hand etc so a tad cold.
she wanted to be alone.
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That night I message her
Her coldness to your PDA on the train was a sign that she needed space. Right now, you're sending up red flags (to an experienced woman) that you're possibly a Stage Five clinger.
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doesn't reply to the next day and is short.
Woman likes her space. This was made clear to you on the train, and by her not replying to your text until the next day.
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I wait till Friday, ask her for another date the next wed
Why so formal? The girl is clearly into hooking up, and not much else.
You: "Hey, it's Netflix and drinks night over here. Come by when you're free."
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On Saturday I randomly got tickets to an event so I invited her
Jesus, man. you got a taste, and now you're like a little puppy with its tongue lolling. But you already set up a date for Wednesday. Makes it seem like you have few options.
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Tuesday night I message to confirm the next day
Never confirm dates. It's a fearful move. You are the prize. Act accordingly.
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I fucked up here a bit cause I should have said "still good for a dance tomorrow" but I was rambly and suggested a change to the date. Silence.
At this point, you already look a bit emotionally-uncentered. Right here, you have to stop or you risk looking unhinged.
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I message again later that night and my text was bad and along the lines of hey is everything ok I want to see you etc,
Jesus christ.
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then call but goes to vmail
holy shit, lol. Way too much, man.
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leave a simple hey still good for tomorrow message. Wed morning, "Yeah I was busy, sorry I can't go tonight"... Ok no worries.
Translation: "please fuck off for now."
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I leave it till Friday, invite her out that night but she has plans. She re-engages with texting and we back and forth about dancing and other stuff, which surprised me cause I thought it was for sure a flake at this point given how bad the texting was on wed. Since then I've sent one more message and again she replies the next day, weekend was good how was yours etc
Translation: "I own this motherfucker, I can make him dance. It gives me validation in-between fucking other guys. I'm loving this attention, but not him."
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I haven't replied to her last reply, after reading a thread about chasing I can see that I am chasing her way too much. I think the answer is to slow the fuck down and stop messaging her and inviting her so much and wait for her to chase back a bit and maybe try to plan something a bit further ahead.
Do NOTHING. See other women.