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So, this is where 'pua' tactics can fail you honestly. You're still wondering how to play the 'game'. And honestly, after sex, you can't keep doing this chess game pua shit otherwise you'll end up losing her. This is the reason why a lot of newbies who learn to pull can only pull a girl for sex once or twice at best but can't keep them around because they have no idea what to do. For starters, you should have a life that you actually like. If you're not confident about yourself and where you're at in your life, it's going to be much harder to keep a girl interested in you. Secondly, honestly, this is where the 'boring' stuff comes in, which is connection and intimacy. You have to decide what you're looking for in your dating life. Do you want a girlfriend or just something casual? Well, if you want something casual, you don't end up hanging out with her every other night. You have to let it go where it goes to keep it somewhat natural, but you have to not let it go too far if you're not looking for something serious. If you are, then you let it go where it goes. If you feel like hanging out with her 3 nights in a row and it feels like the right thing in the moment, then you do so. See there's not really a hard core set of rules after you get laid, you sort of have to go with the flow, like a longer dance. But you have to guide the girl in the right direction of what you want. Casual or serious?
Most importantly, you can't play this 'I'm gonna pretend I don't care about her' bullshit mentality. It's for losers. If you care about her, you care about her. You don't have to be needy about it, but if you really like her, and you pretend to not like her in order to get her to like you, you failed. The ONLY reason guys who you perceive that don't care about the girl get the girl, is because they truly don't care about her, but not in ORDER to get her. Reread that, because it's really important. Don't try to play this routine of pretending not to like her in order to get her to like you. It's weak, and it'll backfire big time. It might work in bedding her and in the very beginning, but it won't work in the long run. She'll be able to tell you're bluffing and that in reality you're just too insecure to own the fact that you do really like her and want her. At the same time, I'm not saying you need to pretend you like a girl if you don't. If you don't care about a girl, then you don't care about her. But why would you even want to date a girl you don't care about? Sure it's easy, but easy girl usually aren't the ones we really want. You have to learn to manage being strong, confident, alpha and at the same time owning the fact that you want her. It doesn't need to be explicitly said, but it's more of an inner game thing that manifests itself through going for what you want. That you're *worth* having what you want. Be in that mentality. You're worth having what you want. Decide in what direction you want to go with this girl. Manage it. And then just learn to fucking enjoy it! You hooked up with a girl, more than once, so obviously she found something interesting in you. Now enjoy it.
Amazing answer. Constructive. Useful. Thanks, dude.
Lately I have realised that there was a lot of things in my life and with myself that needed to be fixed. So I am already on it.
I cared about her like I saw some potential on her as a partner/couple/GF (as you wanna name it) but too much needy.
After that history, I texted her to hang out and she said was to busy. Two weeks later again. That was it. Ok. Not into me. Cool.
Learning each day and from EVERY chapter.
Thanks for your reply.