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PostPosted: Sun Nov 08, 2015 3:33 am 
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I have a problem when it comes to keep an interesting conversation or generate interest while talking. I do a lot of Latin dancing, I dance a lot salsa and bachata which can sometimes be very sensual and help to build a connection but most of the time I struggle when it comes to talk while dancing. I usually hold eye contact and try to use what I know about negs and I have used them when I have had the opportunity but still I do not have success. I have been reading Mystery method and now The Natural but I do not know how to overcome this problem to succeed


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 08, 2015 10:22 am 
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Don't have conversations when you're dancing. It's too loud and can hurt your chances if you ruin the dynamic by talking. Non verbal game is all you need.

Verbal game. Read your material again and apply it. You 'overcome' it by trying, failing and trying till you're used to it. You're basically reading material, but when it comes to the crunch to talk to a girl, you feel kinda pressured and you are stuck in your head. Keep it simple, start with an opener and then practise many times. You will find many organic conversations happen naturally anyway.

Once you're comfortable talking about the opener, look up the next stage and start getting a bit personal. Ask her if she has a BF, or ask her what type of men she goes for and she will kinda know why you are asking her this and start to giggle if she likes you and so on and so on.

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Don't have conversations when you're dancing. It's too loud and can hurt your chances if you ruin the dynamic by talking. Non verbal game is all you need.

Verbal game. Read your material again and apply it. You 'overcome' it by trying, failing and trying till you're used to it. You're basically reading material, but when it comes to the crunch to talk to a girl, you feel kinda pressured and you are stuck in your head. Keep it simple, start with an opener and then practise many times. You will find many organic conversations happen naturally anyway.

Once you're comfortable talking about the opener, look up the next stage and start getting a bit personal. Ask her if she has a BF, or ask her what type of men she goes for and she will kinda know why you are asking her this and start to giggle if she likes you and so on and so on.
Still sometimes is weird just to dance without talking, I've sometimes seen girls laughing and talking while dancing. I've sometimes had a very good connection and talking has been easy but that doesn't happen often almost never and I would like to find a way to change that. When talking has been easy to me things have been more enjoyable and I want to succeed but a fuck up history is hard to overcome


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 08, 2015 11:19 am 
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Maybe you need to be a more interesting person?

Or maybe you already are an interesting person... you're just too scared that people will judge you for your interests and not think you're "cool?"


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 08, 2015 11:36 am 
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I think the only that can help me is a bootcamp. I am from South America and I've been living in Australia the last almost 2 years. I love doing many things, dancing, cooking, playing chess, for instances.

I think I have good features on my favor but I cannot get anywhere almost always. I've tried reading, studying but I think I cannot do much progress only for my own. I've tried a lot


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:shock: THAT'S WHTA'S HAPPEN WITH ME.
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Maybe you need to be a more interesting person?

Or maybe you already are an interesting person... you're just too scared that people will judge you for your interests and not think you're "cool?"


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 08, 2015 8:13 pm 
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Verbal game is like talking to male friends

Difference is when you talk to a girl you add flirting... lots of it.

How funny, interesting, cool you are is all about the life you live.

You sprinkle some confidence into the equation and you have a fucking winner.

Next time you are dancing with a girl ask yourself, " if i was the girl would i enjoy this?"

here's another nice question

"If i was the girl would i think i'm cool"

here's a good question you can ask yourself

"If i ever met myself would i like myself?"

That should give you some perspective and some stuff you can improve on

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 11, 2015 11:18 am 
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The only way to get good verbally is to interact more with people; not just with hot women. Try both extremes of the spectrum on conversational topics then adjust. That's how you learn calibration. Once you get good at calibration, then your conversations will be smoother and more fun. When you know how to keep the topics safe and know when to take a risk with sexual topics, then you have become well calibrated.

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