Starting off:

So, I met this HB7 through work a month and a half ago. We hit it off instantly. 3 weeks ago she quit her job at the plaxe we wirk and started at another company. I was into her, so I made moves to contact her even though I didnt know any of her info. Any and every pua tactic I used on her worked w/o any problems. We went on 4 dates over 2 weeks and had an amazing time w/ each other. Weve had sex in my car twice, neither of us came, but we definitely had a good time. We went official 2 nights ago.


Me:
Ive never had a girlfriend b4. Jus homie lover friends(fuck buddies).

The problem:
We only meet up once or twice a week, but when we do we have an awesome time.

1. Since I've never had a gf, I'm at a loss w/ what to do w/ one. I dont want everything we do to end up just being about trying to get laid everytime we meet up. Any suggestions?

2. Inbetween the times we're together is what's really bugging me. Im not sure what to do and what not to do. I dont like talking on the phone and our texting game is kinda meh... How can I increase my texting skills so things dont bore or become routine to quickly?

3. She's looking to move into a new place soon and I'm going to be looking to move to a new place in less than 2 months. We talkedvery briefly about moving in together. I want to do i, but i dont know if its a wise decision as we just barely started going steady on 2 days ago...

I'm at a loss w/ what to do w/ this relationship. I want to keep it fun and interesting, but I dont know how to do that. If it were just me trying to pick up chicks, I wouldn't have too much of a problem...

Thx in advance for comments or suggestions.

Firstly!...Don't EVER move in with a girl unless you see yourself married with babies and 100% monogamous.. Even if it makes financial sense, don't do it, you are not even in love yet..

As for being in a relationship, this is where being too much of a PUA can fuck it up for you. Now that you're out of PUA tactics, what do you do now? is being yourself going to keep her around? I hope for your sake, that you have your overall shit together in life sorted (Money/job, friends, lifestyle)

Not much to it really, just have a laugh, don't be boring, don't be needy, don't play video games 24/7, hang out with each other's family and friends, cinema, try restaurants, learn a skill together like dancing for example (whatever floats your boat). Hopefully you know watch other's interests by now to figure out how to keep the relationship healthy

Good luck

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To echo Pebble, you just need to be yourself... as cheesy as that sounds.

Once she's your girlfriend you can drop a lot of the PUA tactics (though you still need to be calling shots and leading and dictating the pace wherever possible).

Trust me it gets less awkward. At first you try to figure out what to do, where to take her, what fun and exciting things you can do together to keep her interested....... within a few months you'll just be happy to hang together and talk if you're really compatible.

If you can get to that point - a lot of the issues/questions you've mentioned won't really apply... and if you never get to that point, she's not someone you should be moving in with!

Yup, agreed with Chuck ^

Just make sure you don't ask her "what do you want to do/eat?"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qy8LuAOtGC0


For example:

"Let's watch a movie tonight, you up for it?"

"Let's have Italian food tonight,"

"let's do anal..."

you get the idea...

Being in a relationship is a great time to focus on Gym/career that will take your mind off shagging copious amounts of girls and she will probably like you better for it since you're Mr ambitious

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Thanks for the advice guys. I'll see how things pan out w/ just being together w/ her, leading, and keeping the relationship spiced up every once in a while.

Just wondering, is there any exception to the rule?

We made our relationship Facebook official yesterday. Basically I take that as her being comfortable enough that she's willing to let the people in her life know that we're together which is cool w/ me because that's how I feel about us. My co-workers/her ex-coworkers think we make a great couple(only the coworkers I trust and value opinions from know we're together).

Although my gf wasn't looking for any relationships in general, she felt that our connection was something she was overjoyed to find. She's already stated the fact that she sees me as someone she can live the rest of her life with from what she knows about me so far. I don't hide anything from her and any questions she's asked I've given honest answers to. For me, I'm a little slow to jump into things quickly, but I know there are certain times in life when you need to just say fuck it and go all in. The more were together, the more I feel like she's someone I can be with for the rest of my life as well. But, as Pebble stated... I am not "in love" yet.


Our situatuon:

We both have jobs, annual income is about 21k for each of us. She's looking to purchase a car in near future and I'm in the market for a motorcycle currently. It'll be a bit of a struggle as we're both looking to finish college. She wants to go into the restaurant business and I'm studying architecture(only need to finish a few general classes before I'm able to transfer to a 4-year).

So pretty much we have our current goals set. Now it's just a matter of making some key decisions at the right times.


On another note:

If I decide I don't want to move in with her, how do I go about letting her know? She knows I need to move soon and I believe in her mind it would be the logical choice to move together. Which is what I feel as well.

Again, thanks in advance for any comments or suggestions.

With regards to moving in with her simply tell that it's something you want to do in the future but you are not ready yet. She will understand.

Moving in with someone can be tough. It can be rewarding but it is more work to make a relationship work once you live together. At least this is my experience. You are both young no need to rush things.

Once you get to know her well and you think that you can live the rest of your life with her then it's ok to move in. You need to know how you handle stressful situations together. You need to know how can you resolve an argument and you need really good communication. Because once you are moved in there is no hiding, no ignoring her when she is upset etc.

Every time she contacts you, use that to set up a date for 3-4 days into the future, then don't text her again until the date. (Hard to do but it builds attraction) In sales they say that the phone is only for setting appointments, you sell yourself in person. I got that from Corey Wayne, and it has turned out to be the best advice that I ever got for stopping a girl getting bored. It builds anticipation, quickest way to make a woman fall in love.

However, if you do want to keep texting and texting, this might help you: http://ipickupwomen.com/attract-girls-v ... ges-or-im/

Some good date ideas: http://ipickupwomen.com/good-first-date-ideas/

Keeping a girl interested (It's your first relationship, so why not): http://ipickupwomen.com/be-less-needy-t ... nterested/

There's a few more on www.ipickupwomen.com that you might like, just have a look.

Biggest piece of advice is never fall in love lol

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@AFCToTheMax Thx for the help

@J.Daniels Well she and I are pretty smitten w/ each other. I looked at the links you posted and got some helpful info from them, but the tactics seem more suited to the inbetween area that comes after the first couple of dates and before people become an exclusive couple.

The point I'm at right now, is we're an exclusive couple and we text/call each other almost daily. I will use some of the techniques mentioned in the links you provided, but I feel it may be a bit awkward since we'd be going from talking/texting 45mins at a time to just 5-15mins max. And doing that only to set up future meetings.

My other concern is having her chase 70% of the time. Seems like a pickup tactic more than a ltr enhancer. I mean I do want to keep her attracted, but I don't want to deny my availability when I'm actually available.

The key is to not purposely spite yourself just to manipulate her into chasing you. If you're available, then by all means talk to her. What I'm trying to say is, don't be afraid to be too busy. The way to do this, is to focus on your purpose, goals, career and don't put a woman infront of any of those things. She'll genuinely respect you a lot more for that.

Lets say you're at work and she texts you, don't stop what you're doing just to reply to her. Even if you won't be home for 5 hours, don't feel guilty if you don't reply. I understand that guys enjoy a 45 minute phonecall as much as girls do.. but would you not enjoy it a lot more to have that conversation in person? If you're busy a lot of the time, it'll naturally result in her pursuing you more than you're pursuing her. You could say that it should be 50-50... but thats like saying "being needy should be shown as being loving" - as crap as it is to hear, the sexual polarity just completely erodes when its equal lol. Don't fake it though. Just focus on other areas of your life, instead of making this girl your life. Don't push your friends, work, family, school or whatever to one side, ever. Don't cancel plans with your friends just because your girlfriend says she wants to see you.

See where I'm coming from?

Think of it this way... (another Corey Wayne reference here): Women want to be in a love story. They want to feel like they've earned your love, attention, affection, time and everything else... and you've earned theirs. Trust me on that one.

Infact, it's a long book, but you should definitely check out Corey Wayne: How To Be A 3% Man. If this is your first relationship, and you're really into her, it'll stop you making a lot of mistakes that you might already be making without realising it.

Another thing I want to say, is to avoid oneitis. Don't get into the mindset of "This is all or nothing. If this relationship doesn't work, I'll never get another" lol. I know it's going great, so this isn't a problem at the moment, but just never see it that way ok?

Link: http://www.scribd.com/doc/33421576/How-To-Be-A-3-Man

Sorry for the long reply. Take what you can from it

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Thanks a lot for the response. Corey Wayne is an amazing coach. I've read about half the book in bits and pieces and I'm currently reading it through from the beginning now.

Although I have gotten the phone and text thing to the point where it's about 40/60 and I have my gf chasing more than me, but we still have slightly extended conversations anywhere from 15 to 30~ minutes. I have started doing some self training working on 3D modeling computer programs in my free time and I've picked up exercising again, and she knows this, so I have successfully come up w/ some justifications for cutting our calls short.

The problem is, we only get to see each other once or twice a week at the moment. She initiates calls/texts between 3-5 times a day saying how she misses me or that she's thinking about me, which I've read from Corey Wayne's book is a good sign. I haven't come across any information on how to handle those calls/texts. I understand the phone is for setting up dates to meet, but I usually have a date to meet up w/ my gf after the first call. All contact succeeding that, I'm unsure of how to handle properly.... If there is such a way to handle it beneficially...

Well the aim is to not have any contact... but if shes contacting you more, it means shes wanting to see you more . What is the reason for only being able to see eachother once a week?

If she's initiating every single day, there's no need for your 40% really... you're already talking way more than enough.

It's good that you're having a life outside of your relationship. Never stop that, her respect will instantly drop if you do - if she doesn't respect you, she can't love you.

But for your first girlfriend, you seem to be doing a good job.

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Well life has thrown itself at me and many unfortunate things have happened, so at the moment I'm in a situation where I'm living and sharing a car w/siblings. My gf is in a similar situation. We only have one concurrent day off work, making it the main day we see one another. We also live 1-2 hours away from each other, depending in traffic, which isn't helping much.

I'm currently saving up for a vehicle and preparing to get my own living arrangements in the very near future and she is in the process of doing the exact same.

That's pretty much what's going on. In hindsight maybe I should have waited a bit before going official, but I didn't know as much as I know now.

And thanks for the last comment. It's a little overwhelming with her being my first, but I'm enjoying it. There are definitely areas where I see I need to step my game up and I'm working on them daily~

Have one date a week, and agree to keep one night per week each free for a video call? Doesnt have to be the same night every week. I was with a girl who lives 120 miles (2 hours on a train, £55 ticket - nearly $100 lol) and we used to do video calls most days. You can do a lot of things. It's not as good, but it's definitely better than nothing. Watch films at the same time (pause at 3 seconds for example, and click play at the same time), play online games, hmm.. even troll forums if you really want you get the idea.. just have some fun.

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Hey, thanks again for the info. I haven't been on the forums in a while. I've been busy w/ work and working on my relationship.

Currently everything is great when we're together. There's rarely a dull moment between us and I'm growing more into my facade of an alpha. But the phone game is horrible. I feel like a total afc. We set up dates over the phone. That's the easy part. Then she'll call and I'll be busy, so she calls or texts back later and will want to talk a bit. I'm unsure of how long is okay to be talking since everywhere I look guys are saying the phone is just a tool to use for setting up dates... Even when in committed relationships. Then, she told me today that she wants me to initiate more texts/calls... I'm at a loss w/ how to respond.

For every 4 she initiates... you do 1, but don't stay on for long. She also "wants" you to tell her 10 times a day how beautiful she is, but she'd get bored instantly if you did it lol. What girls want, isn't always what they respond positively to on an emotional level.

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