I've been talking to a HB8 the past few weeks. We went to London 2 weeks ago although we didn't even kiss - mostly as she knew about 2 other girls I was seeing. Since then we were going to go for a drink last Sunday but she cancelled on me with valid reason (her friend came back having had her boyfriend end things.)

Since that, I saw her at a festival Friday night and she sat on my lap and I rubbed the inside of her thigh (quite high up) for quite a while and she was stroking my shoulder. As we had lots of friends around I didn't take the opportunity to kiss her. We then went inside my friends tent and he laid on her and she massaged his shoulders whilst I tried to lean on her as there was lack of space. Was this too needy?

We then went on the chairs again although she wasn't on my lap, and as she just smoked some weed I didn't take the opportunity to try and escalate out of morals. I spoke to my friend about her and he said she's been texting him too and they have history. He's no where near as masculine as me though so I don't see a huge potential threat.

She did apologise to me about cancelling that Sunday again and I pretended to have forgotten. She then said let's to to Brighton next week as I tried to persuade her to go last weekend but she was reluctant for some reason.

The next day I saw her I asked her to look after our mutual friend with me and she said "erm no" and I said woah why are such a bitch today? And she said "because I have standards" and then laughed. She was obviously joking but she was definitely offish. The next time I saw her was the next day I was awkwardly stood up as they all sat round in a circle and after a whole I just walked off.

Recently I've lost 2 potential HBs therefore I'm keen not to lose this one and also add to the number in order to monies my emotional investment. (That sounds so psycho.)

We tease each other a lot and rarely say nice things although we joke about having sex. I'm worried she know thinks I'm socially awkward especially as I've lost 2 of my potential HBs.

I left for a festival Saturday morning and tried to find her group to say goodbye but didn't see her so texted "I'm off to London. Tried to find you and ***** to say bye. Have a good night. We'll hit Brighton next week. X"

She hasn't replied to this and I've seen she's been on her phone through facebook. I'm pretty depressed at the thought of having lost her. I'm trying to meet girls to prevent oneitis. I'm worried I've lost her. I'm thinking we Jed to do something fun in Brighton then I suggest we get a hotel or something?

What so you guys think went wrong?

Also have you got any tips for how to proceed with this girl?

Any advice is appreciated guys. Sorry for the essay.

Why don't you just text her that you want to take her for a private drink and get to know her better? Instead of all these events where your friends are also trying to get into her pants.

Get her alone with you and give her 2 options, a yes or a no answer so you know exactly if she likes you

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That's what I tried for last week mate. I sent her that text yesterday and she hasn't replied. I'm not completely sure it's the right number as I accidentally deleted it. How long should I give it before I phone her and arrange something?

So she is your social circle and wouldn't even reply go a normal question?

It's pretty simple mate, ask her out whether it be text or in person to give her 2 options. (Yes or a no)

If she says no, or maybe, then move on with life

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She agreed to last week, then her friend came back to town after her boyfriend split up with her so we couldn't meet up for a drink. She tried to phone, then texted me and we spoke later. She apologised again this weekend and laughed when I forgot what she was talking about.

I texted her Saturday, saying "I'm off to London, tried to find you and ***** to say goodbye but didn't see you. We'll hit Brighton next week." To which she didn't reply, though I'm assuming she only opened the message Sunday as her phone will have died at the festival. She kissed my friend at the festival, but that always happens and he's a bit of a bitch (feminine) so I don't see him as a potential threat. She sat on my lap as I rubbed high up the inside of her thigh, and she reacted positively by stroking me. I only stopped escalating as she got high and so that escalating then would be against my morals.

Is it to early to phone her tomorrow and arrange something?

You're already putting to much value on this girl.


Go meet some other girls and she will come back around when you least expect it.

And next time... don't bring her to a stupid festival where all your friends are going to hit on her to..

Get into a situation where its you and her alone, escalate sexually, put your dick inside of her. Simple.

I was gaming 3 girls and lost the interest of 2 of them and now only have this one left that I'm talking to. I'm planning on asking a girl out at the gym Saturday and hopefully going out some night this week. I have no means lost this situation, I just want to know how long I should wait after getting no response to my text on Saturday?

I don't have oneitis. I met an awesome girl at a gig last week although failed to get her number as I mentioned in another post, this reassured me there are plenty of 'perfect' girls out there.