I've been reading a lot of posts from people who are new to approaching girls out of the blue and trying to siphon something out of them, be it time, or a phone number. I see the same issues come up over and over again. The same questions being asked, some answered well, others not so much. Yet, in my mind, the solution is very simple to all of your problems. Every single problem, every single question about picking up a woman, or even approaching a woman can be summed up in one word, and that word is FEAR. How do I act? What do i say? When do i say it? people are looking! what if i fail? what if she rejects me! These are all based out of fear, because, what if you succeed? This problem of fear pollutes our hopes and dreams and ambitions. It dilutes our actions and makes us sterile. Have you ever seen the cartoon where a character is so frightened it can not even move? What use is fear? Don't be that guy.

Its time to stop being a pussy. Its time to stop giving a shit if most girls like beards or if most girls hate beards. Or if they like guys with tattoos or piercings. Do girls like glasses, baldness, ugliness or great bodies? Who fucking cares?! The real question is what do you like? Do you want to grow a beard? Then do it. Do you want to get a huge tattoo of a dick on your forehead? Go for it. We are men, the world is ours and everything in it. Start walking down the street like that shit is yours. Stick your chest our....speak up like you have a pair of balls. Do not apologize for your opinion. Do not apologize for anything. Even the fattest loser on the planet can be a boss if he simply chooses to be. Its that easy. Its a choice. I AM A BAD ASS. Punch me in the face? Go for it. Knock my teeth out? Have at it. 4 girls sitting at a bar, bring it on. How can they hurt me? What can they say to make a dent? No matter what they say, I am who I am before they noticed my flaws. I had them before they noticed them , and I'll have them after words. Does she think i'm a creep? I probably am. Does she think i'm a loser? So what if she does, because there are a thousand girls behind her that probably don't.

Adopt this attitude and all of your PICK UP problems will go away. Hell, all of your problems of life will cease to exist! Go into your mind and make a conscious decision to fight fear; yeah, not only to fight it, but to pursue it until you are numb to it. Take on fear at every chance. Start small. Take worry back. Take hate back. Take laughter back. Its simply a choice. You ether do it, or you don't. If you cant go up to a girl and tell her your interested, or even to say hi, whats the point in life? How can you ever hope to take on larger things ? To defeat fear one must defeat giving a shit about the outcome of life and start riding it like a wave. When you stop caring about the outcome you release yourself. Have fun in the failing..in the comedy of being laughed at, and then revel in the feeling of release as you realize how harmless the cold weak reality of judgment really is. My friends take my advice. Find fear, wherever it is in your life, and then walk right up to it and do your business, and when you do, you will be stronger and the fear will be gone.

Excellent!

That's what I say....Man the fuck up!

It works

*Standing ovation* So true, let go of fear!
I enjoy the rejection part the most at the moment it tells me I'm actually doing shit and grow to become a cold blooded pua soon muhahaha XD

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I'm fighting a super intense phobia for dogs for 17 years now and it felt like a living hell the first 15 years. I didn't dare to go outside even if there were zero dogs on the streets, the fear haunted me literally 24/7. I woke up every night crying out of a nightmare in which a big black dog attacked me in a dark street. I was in therapy for 1,5 years and it didn't help me an inch further. The only way that i came from total terror from seeing dogs on television five years ago to sit on a couch and cuddle with a rottweiler, pitbull, bulldog and a jack russell two days ago is because i fought the fear and just went for it step by step because i wanted change in my life! i'm still not where i want to be with my phobia but if i can accomplish this, than i definitely can approach a girl no matter how hot she is.

It's a little bit off topic, but it illustrates that you just have to go for it and in time it will get a lot easier. And when that day comes, you can be forever proud of yourself!

Tonight was my first night sarging in a town I barely know, at clubs I've never been to, with a wing I never went out with before.
Within 3 sets I lost asl fear of rejection and being blown out.
It's like Stankwagon said, what can they say to hurt you and it's time to man up.
Great post man.

That is right. Nothing they say or do can change who you are. You were that person before they rejected you, and you will be after words. You simply took a gamble. one that involved no risk. All the possibility in the world of winning, and none of losing. Why would you not approach a bunch of beautiful women? The pay off is so great, and for what risk? That she might call you a nerd? Or that she might just turn her back on you or walk away, or the person setting a few feet away, that knows nether you or her, might judge you? You know what i do when girls/people do that? I laugh so loud, like a roaring LION, RIGHT in their faces! Why? because im a FUCKING BOSS! Thats why.

I'm all for doing, saying, and being who and what I want to be. That said, I want to be a man who ATTRACTS women. Instead of not caring if I am rejected, it's ok to become the guy who DOESNT get rejected. Yes, own what you are and do. But, never stop improving yourself. There is nothing wrong with changing, as long as you feel good about it. Own that shit! Move with confidence, brush off any rejection, but pay attention to the feedback, even if you don't let it get you down. My two cents.

Soul Monkey out.

Spot on. Too many guys hold themselves back. Obviously, use common sense and do things in small steps if you have to, but at the end of the day you just have to drop the fear, don't fall into 'paralysis by analysis', and just go for what you know you want. Great post.

This is awesome and highly motivational, great stuff.

great post man, and many good replies here.

I am totally new to this forum, although I read the game a while ago, just didn't got into it as I had a girlfriend.

I have to say your words brought back good memories, years ago, when I was single and didn't know anything about sarging and this community, I used to get laid here and there, but not a lot like a PUA, although to my friends I was the dude getting laid.. Some friends asked me how the hell did I do to get laid, and I always told them... "DONT GIVE A SHIT, you have nothing to lose".

I made a lot of mistakes and lost tons of girls, but loosing the fear of making mistakes it's something remarkable, it really changes you.

Now I am back in the field and for now I am just.. "getting ready" going through all these excellent experiences, tips and etc.. but the only post that got me to write was yours, because it's one of the best advices I have seen so far.

One tip I give to my friends is the "breaking bad" example: Imagine that unfortuntely you have got cancer and the doctors give you few months to live, what would you do? Probably you will decide to live the rest of your time as you really wanted always, no bullshit, most likely will quit the job you hate, you will probably ignore the people that annoys you, you will perhaps try get laid as much as you can, you will become sort of a Walter White, right? (Hopefully withouth selling meth )

This example touched me because it happens to a friend of mine, so here is what I question myself since then: Do I need to have a terminal disease to start living as I fucking want? I START DOING IT NOW!. Remember Life can change everyday, as long as you are healthy... why wait?? wait to what? to die? to get old? go out there and fuck it.. LIVE!

I remember my first approach. Was about to pussy out then decided, I'll count to 3 and fuck it I'll go for it.
Did it and interaction was pretty good. Made me more motivated to approach more.
Just fucking go out and do it. Who cares what happens. Better than nothing

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