Hey guys, so here's the deal:

I met this HB8 last friday when i went out, i met her through a mutual girl friend by coincidence on our way home, they had to call a cab and i was with my car and had 2 spots left so i offered them a ride home (They live in the same place as i do)

Anyway, the last person i had to drive home was HB8 and in the car we had some good conversations, she was easy to talk to and when i dropped her off i said i wanted her number or she was not getting out of the car (jokingly).

Now here's the thing: She said "sure" but her mobile phone was empty and mine was too (I saw that hers was empty)

So we said "We'll add each other on facebook and exchange numbers there" .

Then the next day she indeed added me and the conversation went like this


Me: "I am still driving around in your street, can't find the exit ("Callback Humor")
Her: "Haha jeez, your feeling for direction must be really good then!
Me: "Not so much, you don't want to see my toilet... Anywayy *My number here*


after that she hasn't responded yet (i sent this 1 day ago) and she hasn't read it yet either according to facebook (Not sure if i can trust that) but she has been online multiple times on facebook.

Any explanation for this or how to go from here? Also if i did something wrong please tell me

Thanks in advance guys

doesn't seem like you did anything wrong, i know some girls do the "wait 2 days" rule the same aas some guys used to do, so maybe she was able to see your phone number without opening the message and just haven't decided to text you yet.....i would wait another day or 2 before i get worried

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What I like to do when I get a number close is to tell her what I intend to do.
When you get her number and ending the interaction, say something like "Great, I'll text/call you tomorrow" and stick to what you said you would do.

Doing so gives her that feeling of sincerity of your actions - She knows to expect you contacting her and that you're a man of your word.

The exchange of Facebook info is fine if she is comfortable or even suggested that - So all in all it sounds like a solid exchange and interaction.
This is a valid point and is quite normal for some to do this - I will confess, I even used to follow this rule purely because a friend of mine once said I should wait a day or two. This was before I first discovered pickup.

You want to be seen as a guy who is mixing things up a little, you don't want to be like every other guy who might also follow this '2 day rule' - In reality you could be on a date or even f closed her in that length of time.

Going back to the top of my post, this is a good way to combat this unwritten 2 day rule, its used by people to seem like they are not 'needy' or desperate, but personally I think you lose a lot of that initial rapport built during the interaction and can harm the chances of actually seeing this person again.

Edit: Spelling/Grammar

Alright thanks a lot guys, that made me feel better about my actions, i always overthink things.

I will keep you updated for when she responds ! (If she will)

Hi guys, here's a quick update from me:

She still hasn't responded.

And im pretty sure she saw the message even-though facebook says she didn't.


Now i am wondering what are my options here ?


I kinda was thinking myself to not totally give up on this, after all women like men with perseverance right? So completely giving up on it after this doesn't seem like the right move.

I was thinking of maybe sending her a message again on sunday (The day they are most available). Do you guys think thats smart? And if so what would be a good thing to say?


Thanks in advance guys!

If you guys didn't have a pen, she could have written her # down w/ her lipstick even. Anything works. In general, take their #s rather than giving you theirs via FB. Just some ideas for future interactions. If a girl is into it, she doesn't want you to make a mistake when you take her # down for instance if you are typing her # into your phone.

This one doesn't seem down, but you never know. What's the harm in pinging her again in a few days. Your options are extremely limited b/c you only have her FB. Honestly at this point I would just try to get her # by Facebooking her for it or by Facebooking her to text you so I could text her rather than FB. If she won't give you her # or send you a simple text, obviously next the girl.

Drop into FB with a fun message, and segue for the # or tell her to text you something so you get the #.

Thanks for the help man!

I was thinking about sending this message on facebook:


"Last week saturday i met a cute blonde girl, but i am afraid she got kidnapped, if you have any more information contact me"

Seems ok?

Maybe adding my phone number after the "contact me" or just leave it at that? Gonna send the message tomorrow

Don't add the phone number after that, put "contact me here via messages". I am pretty sure she marked it as unseen.

In the original post you mentioned that you already PM'd her your # on FB. Pretty good FB message there in your latest post to get her to reply. If she does reply, get her #.

Im not sure if it's just me reading something wrong here, but I think you messed it up with your last message.
'You don't want to see my toilet' ?!.. Why mention about your toilet. That word has a dirty association and are you saying you toilet is messy and that you piss or shit everywhere but down the hole?.. I don't get it..

It could be you caused her to have a negative feeling from the text and lost attraction.
When you have dated someone for 5 years, you can fart in their face. First meets, you have to be bloody careful what you do and say. Tripwire mentality.

Just My humble opinion though.

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Hey,the FB messages is not a good idea. FB is not the medium yo do this. I think you pretty much fucked up your chances the first time as indeed you did give her a neg with your "toilet" quote.
I think she has freaked out and you should move on.
Sarge another one.

that's true but i think if he said it in person with a smile he could have pulled it off.....i was thinking the same thing but i knew times have change and girls aren't as hard as they used to be so doing that wouldn't hurt

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

You are prob right. If he said it with full conviction in person, she might have laughed. On text, one false move in the early exchanges and that is it. Don't agree that you can get away with more like that these days. I thinks its worse now. Too much choice, too many guys wanting to message girls on tinder, facebook, etc.. they can pick and choose better. I think he envoked a negative feeling and that was it.

Funnily enough, despite being quite a funny guy with a dark sense of humour (which girls love in person) I do better on text just to avoid humour as if I cant be bothered to try and make her laugh.
Trying to make them laugh is very risky.

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The explanation is she isn't interested. You didn't really do anything wrong here. Some times girls are just not interested.

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