Hi fellas,

As a general rule, would you say it's a good idea to let a girl know that you have other options?

I'm going to be heading out for drinks this weekend with a girl I met recently. I hardly know her, so not sure what will happen, if anything! But there's another girl who lives back home in my country (I live abroad), and we've already agreed that we're gonna have drinks when I'm back home over Christmas.

Between now & the holidays, I will doubtless have some Fbook chat with the girl from back home. Is it a good idea to let her know (not necessarily directly, but just to "imply") that I'm meeting other girls. I'm thinking it's a good thing, as it will let her know that I have other (potential) options, and that she may have to do a little bit more work to get "ahead of the game", so to speak! I also know that she has casually dated other guys recently, as she told me! But she said she also wants to go on a "date" with me over Christmas (she used that word).

Thoughts?

Cheers guys!

From personal experience:

YES!

Something similar happened to me. I was going to school abroad and all these girls back home were jonesing to fuck my brains out when they found out I was flirting with other girls. They would see all the cool stuff I did on FB and all the other girls hitting me up and somehow that drove them wild.

Here's a great article on it. It's called preselection.
http://www.brobible.com/life/article/pr ... t-you-laid

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Cheers bro, I'll check it out!

Flat out bragging about it reeks of insecurity and bragging.

You need to be subtle.

What if it is the girl bragging? Like "This guy asked for my number", etc.

Generally I either ignore it or tell her to go for it, because if you show insecurity and neediness you are done.

Met this girl once, and she systematically said someone was hitting on her and a few days later desassembled the entire thing, like "oh, this cute delivery guy just called me. Said he got my number from the package invoice", next day "oh, he called me again, asked me out", next day "saw his fb profile, he has a gf". And she did this consistently. To this day I don't know what game she was playing.

^This.

If it comes out incidentally then it is ok. Keep in mind some women have a rule that while you're seeing them you shouldn't be engaging with other women.

If you're bringing it up out of ego (e.g., she hints or tells you outright she's dating other guys) then it is ill-advised to bring this up as it'll come off as defensive and reflect insecurity.

I've found this happens in two types of girls: (1) girls who are trying to friendzone you/girls who are uninterested in you or (2) girls who are really insecure and are trying to impress you because you are not giving them the validation they want/expect. Interestingly, (1) and (2) are basically opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to chances of success. Girl (1) you should pretty much Next, whereas girl (2) is almost always an easy lay. Best way to find out which is which is to escalate.

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Always have other options, ALWAYS!

I dont tell them I have other girls unless specifically asked, but when they ask and i say yea I'm seeing 2 other girls their interest level usually heightens. If you game a girl well she will PRESUME you are seeing other girls.

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Yeah, well. Tried that. Responded well to escalation, then ignored me. Texted 20 times a day, clinged to me in a group, then flaked... Geez... I nexted her after about a week because she was giving me waaaaay too much trouble for what she was worth...

I'm pretty sure if you google "insecure, neurotic, emotional train wreck with double D boobs" her picture comes up

This. It's all implied. They can tell by how you operate.

The way you are is social proof all on its own.