Hi all,

Long story short. Met this girl online, went on two dates. Both times, stayed overnight, made out, sucked her tits, and on night 2 I fingered her, but no sex. Now, she's not responding to my texts as I'm trying to arrange a day 3.

In real life, I would do either a freeze out or breaking rapport. Not sure how a freeze out would work for text since that's basically not texting her, which is what she's doing to me. So, what about breaking rapport? I'm thinking of sending: "Hey X, you're really nice and we had fun, but for some reason, I don't think you're the girl I'm looking for." Any thoughts?

This gamey tactic stuff is gonna fuck it up for you.

Think about it.... She hasn't responded to you after you fingered her etc.

Common sense suggests....she now suddenly feels like a giant slut and wants to forget about it.

Right now, telling her that she is not the girl for you is not gonna make her want to fuck you.

In my experience..at this point, she just needs to be reassured that she isn't a piece of meat with a hole for you to fill.

You should apologise for being too forward, and that you couldnt help yourself because you are so attracted to her. (Obviously still flirt, touch her, hold hands, kiss etc, but turn the sex down, even if she offers)

You should then take her somewhere innocent like the cinema of something and just be a cool guy, DONT TRY TO HAVE SEX WITH HER. Perhaps don't try for one night, which may convey that you are a gentleman after all.

Then maybe if you're lucky, she might give you a 2nd chance and her vagina will open wide organically ,instead of being pushy with.

If she is not worth a few more sex-less dates for her in order to feel comfortable with you, then perhaps you should move on and find a girl who you respect more and willing to put in the time and graft for.

Goodluck.

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That's what I was thinking, that she was getting buyers remorse. One of the two texts I sent that she ignored was "hey, I have a crazy idea. so far we've only met for drinks. Wanna meet up for dinner? How does Wednesday sound?"

Any tactics to undo buyer's remorse?

Oh dear, seeking more tactics AGAIN

I already told you what you should do on my 1st post.

Be real and apologise but in a man way.

Like I said. You may have ruined it already. So she might give you a 2nd chance if you're lucky

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But what if she's just really busy? What if I didn't do anything wrong? If I apologize wouldn't that make me seem kinda weak or needy? I know she does have her kid the last week (she alternates weeks with her baby daddy). I mean, even after I fingered her, we went out for breakfast the next morning and had small talk. It's not like I ditched her the next morning.

Then why are asking for tactics.

Why not just wait till she responds if you're optimistic about it

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No need to apologize... your a man and thats what alpha men do... they get LAID.

Now the reason why she is flaky is because u have not built a connection with her or enough comfort yet. This is pretty clear because of the way she is acting...

How do you fix it? -- When you Hang out with her again (give some time for her to text you... dont be so needy at this point...seriously id go sarge other girls and keep this one in my back pocket) dont even push for the sex.

Build the connection, tell her there is just something about her... build the sexual tension... and then pull it away. Make out with her for a little bit... then stop kissing her and say "this is going so fast... lets take a little break..." and then just wait... and she will want you SO hard... instead of you FORCING the issue. Go with the flow.... but you have to know how to do it.

Gl
Duke

No appologies.You only appologise if you have done something wrong. The way you see it is that SHE has the remourse. That's her problem.

The truth of the situation is she needed her ego filling and you gave her just enough. Now she is using some other poor sucker who also fell for the trap and she has no time for you along with the dozens of other suckers she's used. Stay away from on-line game if you are seeking a healthy relationship.

If you want more of the same with multiple women learn to take this as 'normal' behaviour with on-line girls.
I'm a big advocate of taking responsibility of everything in order to improve yourself and your game but this is a different scenario. It's nothing you have done and nothing you have to fix, its her.

I agree with Jambi on this one. But there's another thing here which is quite interesting for me...

Usually, when I finger a woman she becomes so aroused that she's the one to grab my dick and basically put it inside her. I don't really understand how come you were sucking on her tits and fingering her, and no sex. Is she a virgin?(I highly doubt that...). So either this chick has issues, or you haven't pushed far enough. Perhaps, she was expecting sex, but you were just playing with her tits and she thought she'd look for a guy who could actually fuck her.

Or... it could also be the buyer's remorse that you guys were talking about.

And yeah, drop the stupid tactics and game other chicks in the meantime.

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There were people all over her apartment because it was Labor Day and everybody was drunk, so she told them to stay over. I think she just didn't wnat them to hear anything

No, she's not a virgin, she has a kid, lol

this happened me before, remarkably similar situation except she had a boyf not a kid.
never did figure out what happened lol unless she was just a psycho-weirdo

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I see. Then the most clever thing to do is find a way to hang out in private. But don't forget to game other chicks too, this one might have got off the hook for whatever reason.

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OK, I feel i lost this girl already, so I decided to try this out just as an experiment since I had nothing to lose. I also tried it on another girl who had the same thing happen to. Here is the link on the outcome of what happened. Kinda interesting.

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