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The problem with those approaches is that imo is that you have to adapt and compromise your original goal . So lets say a girl is looking for a boyfriend and a long term relationship and i am looking to fast sex, and i already have a relationship... If i adapt to show her i have bf potential to seducer her an fuck her, it will be a bit miss leading and may casue long term problems. I am more of the screening approach to pick up, i rather instead of adapting and becoming a chamaleon, just look for a girl that will be receptive to my style, personality and original goal, instead of "seducing her".
@ Skills......Poetic wasn't really saying this point specifically but I can see what you are saying as well.
What you need to keep in mind here is that a vast majority of women are seeking a "relationship" Hell even a majority of men do. With this in mind, it is critical to always demonstrate some sort of boyfriend potential, even when "just sex" is implied. Women are emotion based, they think and act with their "hearts" therefore alot of them need an emotional connection and use sex as an acceptance of you and your potential to be a long term lover.
It's one thing to have your own set of morals and not want to "lie" to a woman, but this is pick up. to be an efficient pick up artist one cannot be bound by such restrictions. If I were to have told women the truth about my exploits and my intentions throughout the past 20 years, I can assure you my numbers would have not been anywhere near what they are now.
I will admit, as I got older, I did shy away from miss leading women as far as my Interest towards them and my intentions. But as my skill set increased it did get a lot easier to identify the DTF women, but sometimes it's not so easy to find these women and logistics are horrible. This is where both styles need to come into play.
Women change their minds all the time, dump dudes that they were totally into a week before. Cut off guys because they were shit in bed, had a small dick, sucked at kissing...etc etc. It's not difficult to do the same to a woman, even in a respectable way. They lie to us men all the fucking time. If I were to generalize, I'd say women play men more then men play women.
Women lie to us men all the time to gain our attraction they wear push up bra's, make up, high heel shoes....etc etc. Why can we not as men do the same?
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I believe the second approach on focusing on screening, instead of adapting is way more efficient, that spend time and adapt to her. So there are 2 schools of seduction:
This hold true to an extent, but it is my belief you must have both schools to be the ultimate artist.
When a woman is attracted to a man she will show signs, she will flirt, she will act sexual, she may even grab your package right then and there but it doesn't mean she will act like that on a day 2(especially if alcohol was involved) and it doesn't mean she has not been screening you for boyfriend material the entire time, even if all you talked about was sex.
If you don't adapt in this ^^^ scenario, you may lose the target. If you don't adapt to both styles, you will become limited, especially if your current means to the smaller pool of DTF women depleats for many many reasons.
In my opinion a good pick up artist has to seduce the target, the very definition of the word seduction is to "entice" to "lure". Every woman has different wants and needs, if you don't cater to their desires, they will find someone that does, regardless of how smooth you were and how much you turned her on. If your ultimate goal is to fuck her, do what ever it takes, you don't need to jepordize your own integrity to do this. It gets easier and easier with practice.
Some of the most desired people on the planet are actors, they are instant sex objects, yes a lot are just simply beautiful, but there is simply beautiful people everywhere. What makes the actors so much more desirable? A lot of times, it is the character they played or the persona they created on screen. They simply "seduced" their audience.
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Both approaches work, everything works... It is just a matter of choice, goals, etc... As you say there are many ways to skim the cat.
Both may work, especially together, but If I were to pick one to be more efficient, I'd definitely go with the seduction. There is simply much more of a selection and a much much bigger pond to swim in.
You don't have to be the man of their dreams, but it wise to appear to be.
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