Hello all,

I'm a 19 year old male entering my second year of college next year at a giant party state school. I have never hooked up with a girl in my entire life, not even kissed a girl. I am extremely social, hangout with a group of great guys who are attractive and hook up with different girls every weekend at parties, and have an apt sense of fashion. I get complimented on my clothing style all the time, and while I did gain a little weight during freshman year I am still relatively skinny/in shape. I live an active and high achieving life, academically and socially. I have a ton of friends and am very easy to get along with. I groom myself well and have also been very conscious about the way I carry myself. People tell me that I am funny, laid back, and a great person to party with. Thats why I don't get it. It just never ends up working out with me. High School was whatevr, none of this bothered me. But I have literally watched a year of college go by my eyes and watch all my friends hook up with countless girls and I am sitting here at the same parties getting no action. When I approach girls I am confident, I don't have any anxiety issues either. I am totally comfortable when I talk to the opposite sex. This didnt bother me until a couple days when I started introspecting and realized. I have never been this depressed, miserable, and frustrated with life. I need some help, some direction, something. Its not even about getting laid, its just being able to be attractive to woman and having the opportunity to hook up with them. Fuck man.

Bumppppp

i'll pm you a message i sent to another user regarding high school game, It applies to college also, same deal pretty much.

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When you do the right thing, you will be shocked at the things that will happen in return. When you do the right thing, it always comes back.

You've already got all the hard learning done - how to get interest and get talking. Surely you just need to read about escalating and building connection?

As you're talking if you decide you like someone, you gradually find reasons to move in closer, as you're talking you start off lightly touching their arm at certain points in the conversation, hopefully keeping them laughing etc. move the conversation slightly onto more physical things 'comment on how smooth her skin is' - then back out back into whatever conversation you were having - as though the touch is part of the conversation etc. when you get the sense they like you you drop it into being more 'flirtateous' and basically leaning in closer occasionally and keeping stronger eye contact at times and finding reasons to stand more in more in their personal space (obviously) noticing if they react in a way that they dont like it.

Its okay to be obvious that you are flirting, just do obvious mild flirting - move in close with your lips close to hers, smiling and then move away again, to get her mind onto the idea of kissing. And of course playful questions like 'what is your kind of guy? is it me?' but obviously kidding and so on, pulling her towards you occasionally and leaning in, putting your hands on her arm / shoulder / back etc. sometimes. playfully touching her belly with a finger. leaning in as though you're going to kiss her and then moving past and then kising her ear, or sniffing her hair etc.

you essentially just lean in and get closer and closer as you're talking and touch more and be suggestive verbally and physically. then kiss her. from kissing her its plain sailing all the way home.

this shouldn't take like 30 minutes or seomtihng, it should be going from zero to kiss in aaround 2 minutes.

You could lean in unexcpedly close to her, smile, and then ask her to dance. That is sure to lay out clear what your intentions are but also do it in an acceptable and respectful way

of course you risk being knocked back, but once that happens a few times and you start getting successes you learn to read much more clearly who is interested and who isn't.

if you make it obvious what you are doing and you are hitting on them in an acceptable and respectful manner then they will usually knock you back in a courteous and respectful manner too

pretty quickly it gets second nature and you never get knocked back because you learn to read the signals much better and change your mind quickly if there's no attraction from her

but essentially :- start getting in close, gradually and touching - and then find reason to go off by yourselves (if conversation flowing well and she having fun she wil usually say yes) - then you can get in closer and more intimate easily. dancing is good way too to be alone and intimate. it's a socially acceptable way to touch and be physically intimate without actually doing anything.