Hi guys.

I know there is some material about getting back with your ex. But it all seems oriented to when you get dumped by her and then try to win her back a short time after.

Well, the situation is quite different I ended and it was 2 years ago.

Quick facts:
- She is 10 years younger than me. I'm in quite good shape for my age tough.
- We dated only 3 months.
- I broke up with her, because I thought she was too young (21) and it wouldn't work. I still liked her tough.
- She tried to keep us going out together after, but I ended it cause I knew it would hurt us.
- We never closed contact completely, we just chatted online randomly every couple of months, showing interesting stuff to each other.
- Now, 2 years later, we started talking again to exchange ideas about some common professional projects we have going. And we've met to discuss it.

- The attraction from my side is still there.
- From her side I believe it also exists - since then, she finds random subjects to talk to me online, she texts late night, sends musics and stuff. I answer.
- Then, sometimes, all of the sudden she just goes cold for a couple of days - I just give her space in those days.

The show stopper - new bf:
I know from a male friend that she started dating this guy about 1,5 month ago, about the same time we started having more contact again.
She doesn't tell me of it, she once mentioned him about some subject I brought up, and since the guy works in the area, she referred to him twice as "her friend" when talking about the subject.

1 week ago she started texting me and then, in the middle, just complained about some guy that didn't understood she didn't want to speak to him that night but kept pushing it and it was really annoying her. Once again, I just said something to change the conversation and we continued talking about other stuff.

But, I know they are still together, cause she just posted a picture of the guy in her FB.
She invited me a couple of times for a coffee/lunch for the past week, after we had lunch together the other day, but I really couldn't go our when she asked.

I invited her to go for a free concert the next days when I couldn't make it to the coffee, but she went round the question and ended up not saying yes or no.

How to proceed?
It's important to state that I will not behave like a jerk and hurt her in the process. If that's what it takes, it's better to just let it go.