So ive been seeing this girl for the last few months it started out casual as a hook up but we began to hang out more and more and i stopped talking to other girls as she started to rise to the top and beat them all out because she is by far pretty awesome and she ditched guys to hang out with me so it was a mutual slow growth with eachother.

So we spent the last 4 days together, had an amazing weekend as she says, great intimacy as well.
Today we didn't have much time to talk as i was hanging out with some friends and work was crazy and she said hers was as well. Im just wondering what is a good amount for time apart for her to miss me a little more. The problem is in my down time all i do is think about her and when things a not great and magically as all the other day we talk hang out i start to think the worst because of crappy relationships in the past.

Also im wondering what someone in a healthy relationship is doing to keep her coming back for more and more as i don't want to lose this one.

btw this is a girl that is very self efficient, doesn't need a guy, isn't cuddly, but i seemed to changed her. She is all over me txt me when dont txt her. etc.

No one has anything?

The fact that she is constantly on your mind in your down time is a bad sign.

You have inner game to work on. It's a common problem because you obsess about her. But that is not sustainable. Even if she becomes attached to how much you obsess about her and loves it, it's a problem because it's not sustainable. Eventually, something will happen in your life that gives you less free time. When you're not obsessing about her anymore, after she has grown used to that, it can create problems of withdrawal for her. This is a common problem in affairs, like an addiction.

If she is non-needy, that is because she learned to take care of herself emotionally, and that is a good thing. It's normal for some of that to be given up when you get into a relationship, but everything in moderation is a good motto.

In a nutshell, you just spent 4 days with her. What is healthy is for you now to spend a little time away from her, with your friends, or doing some hobby that you really enjoy, etc. The good news is that after you've enjoyed those things that you like, the next time you see her you can share your stories about what fun you had, etc.

yes i total agree... thank you!