So I am at a bar. Suddenly I see a girl on the dance floor. I approach. We dance a bit. I speak to her. I find out she is a lesbian ( at least she says so). I decide to up the sexuality a bit and move my face closer to hers. She keeps saying '' I am lesbian'', to which I try to answer that it is alright bla bla. And everytime she says '' I can not do it, I am lesbian'' I try to somehow persuade her into kissing me. I think this is what went wrong. I kept talking and talking while I should of just gone for the kiss. I mean, if she really was lesbian and she did not want to kiss, she could of just left me, right?

I have read some 60 years of challenge. In this it explains that one should not talk too much as it kills the sexual tension. It also says that you should risk being creepy sometimes and just go for the kiss.

My question is, should I have stopped talking and gone for the kiss anyways? Does it really work this way?

If a woman tells you she's a lesbian, one of two things are happening:

1) You did something very creepy and immediately killed any chance of attracting her.

2) She's really a fucking lesbian.

Eject and find someone else.

Haha, I see your point. But I mean, she stayed, we danced for quite some time actually. Our noses and lips were touching. I think I should of just went all in on her. But it seemed the more I was talking, the more she was rejecting me. I was basically giving her something to reject instead of just going physical escalation.

But my point is; did my talking and persuasion basically kill the natural attraction? Should I have shut my mouth and just kissed her? Instead of playing her little game of me convincing her to kiss me? ( if we imagine she was NOT actually lesbian that is)

Yes, definitely should have just gone for it. It's understandably hard to work up the nerve, but what do you have to lose?

You are right. I guess I was confused by the fact that she verbally was totaly rejecting me, but physically she was into me. I guess it just shows that whatever comes out of a girls mouth is irrelevant as long as her body signals her true interest.

Lesson learned

Some resistance can be expected. However, if a woman keeps resisting and persist in her resistance, shes not interested. Find someone else.

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I know exactly what you mean. How would you consider my situation described above? I mean, if she really was not interested, she should not of let our lips touch and dance close with me. This is what confuses me. She is verbally TOTALY rejecting me, but physically she was interested. And it felt like the more I responded to her verbal projection the less interested she became physically.

Maybe she just wanted to get f*cked and you went diffused the tension yammering so much. Or perhaps she really wasn't all that interested. Either way you opened her, who gives a f&ck about the outcome at this point you'll likely never see her again.

You know, lesbians are the best kissers in the world. And yes, they kiss men, not a problem(if they want to ofcourse).

I guess she was lesbian and didnt wanted to kiss you. No biggie.