I've been having a tough time lately, dealing with family problems as well as a lot of stress to do with exams..

My oneitis invited me over to hers yesterday (note she has a boyfriend) yet we had a really great time. Towards the time I was about to go home she let slip something about her boyfriend and I just felt my stomach drop. I knew I was about to lose control so I told her I had to go and walked out the door, thinking I'd escape any awkwardness. Turns out she followed me.. I told her to go back inside and to let me go home but she was persistent.. I guess she could tell something was up. Anyway eventually I just broke down uncontrollably.. I haven't cried in almost 5 years I don't think. It never happens. I know it's one of the worst things I could have done, especially in front of a girl I'm crazy about. Either way she kept saying things like "Please just come back inside, we'll talk" etc. But I ultimately decided to go home.

Right away I'm getting a flurry of texts "Please ring me" "Can I come down and see you please?" "Is everything okay?" "Do you not want to see me anymore? :/" etc. I am yet to reply, obviously it's the next day and I am still yet to contact her.. I'm too embarrassed. She's trying to ring me as well.

Any advice would be extremely appreciated.. I feel like such a fool for showing weakness to her. It's something I've always been good at.. I suppose a guy can only handle so much at one time.

stay out of it, until shes single again. during this time go meet some other girls

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Yeah, stay out of it, get some space from her and get yourself back on track. Imagine there are other issues that contributed towards it and seeing your oneitis could have been the straw that broke the camel's back.

Most of all, don't be ashamed of yourself.

It's difficult.. of all the people I'd break down in front of it had to be her.. So embarrassing.

I met a girl on my first day of collage, she was smart, funny and a 6,,,well 5.5. After 2 months of talking with friends ect, i decided to ask her out, she said no. She also said she was a lesbian... I felt bad, more so as she was not that hot, i just really got on with ehr, ya know? Anyway, the next day i went to get my mate for football because he was late, i opend the door and she was in there fucking him...

So, now you know my low point my advice may feel real to you. Move on, forget her, dont hold yourself up on her becasue its not going to happen. And whilst this small hit to your ego may hurt now, as did mine, it will in turn lead you to find strength enough to learn what you need to know to get other girls. weakness becomes strength if you learn from it.

btw, i made my friend play in goal all day, then we went out and got pissed, and he gave me a copy of a new book that had just come out, called The Game...

Been stuck on her for 8 months.. I've slept with plenty of other girls since and still can't get over her. I literally feel like I can't just forget her.. believe me I've tried. Hate oneitis with a passion.

So shaging other girls didnt take the shine of the apple? We'll, you could try all or nothing. RISKY. Bu, you could arange a meet wit hher, tell her everything, tell her you want her, and you want to be with her, and fuck her like she's never been fucked before. And if she cant do that, you get it, but you cant see her anymore because it's killing you.

This way you
A, Get her.
B, Get over her, due to not leaving yourself a bridge to return over.

Though, it takes balls.

See I'd thought about doing this.. I really had. But the fact she has a boyfriend just puts me off the idea.. if she didn't I'd feel much more confident. To be honest the guy is an asshole anyway, I can't see them lasting too long. And her still showing interest in me is obviously a good sign.. I just don't know. Especially after breaking down in front of her.. I feel like I've lost ever more power. I don't think any positives can come from it?

If I were to say these things how exactly can I put them without sounding ridiculous?

Not that I have too much experience but what I would do is just avoid her for a little while and talk with her casually later. If she doesn't know why you broke down thats a good thing. I think it's a plus for you if she thinks that there is something wrong and whats you to open up to her. That means she cares and if u shut her out I think that makes you more of a mystery in her eyes. I think it is attractive to woman if you are a mystery.

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"Find out what you are afraid of most and go live there"

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It honestly hurts me seeing guys like this, she is a oneitis, you post on this board you know what this means.

Disregard her, text back some chilled texts and limit contact. Work yourself in every way, lift, read books, meet new girls, get good at college/ make $$$ and boss life.


You can be a sik kunt if you want to be. Go for it man.

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I feel ya man, when I get drunk I become an emotional wreck and unfortunately I had oneitus and bumped into her multiple times, usually drunk, and became upset. I regretted it the next morning, it makes me look weak as hell. That's partly why I gave up the booze or at least cut down heavily. If I see her sober I have enough about me to just ignore her.

My problem is I just can't seem to let her go.. in truth I don't WANT to get over her. I'm still convinced she wants me.. she is always the one contacting me.. always the one inviting me over.. always the one looking forward to seeing me at work.. I just don't know. I have this glimmer of hope that one day I'm just going to have her again. Stupid, I know.. but it's preventing me from moving on.

Like I said I've slept with other girls since me and her had a thing, and it's just not worked for me..