How do you know if a girl is really playing hard to get?

A girl I messaged to meet for coffee responded a while later and agreed to meet. She suggested a day too. I responded with a short message saying I was busy during that day but free in evening. She in turn never responded.. and still hasn't weeks later. Would you assume she is playing hard to get?.

If she wasn't interested - surely she wouldn't have asked to meet.. and if she was busy she would have said so.. My suspicion is she couldn't make the evening time but instead of bothering to respond and say so, she is ignoring me to see if I chase. I could be wrong, but that is my opinion.

What would be your thoughts?.. Even if I do forget her and game on, I am trying to learn. Worth re-initiating contact after a while and giving it one more go?

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I'd say she just didn't want to say no because she couldn't make it. Remember... If a girl likes you, she won't want to fuck things up with you either.

(Cunning Stunts is a bad ass DVD by the way. I hate Jason Newsted but Metallica rocked the fuck out of that stadium.)

Think you are right. I seem to get so many of these situations where a girl text's me to make contact, I reply.. and then thats it.. I never hear again. Like they want to see how much I want them etc. to the point where a reply by either side gets left. I hate chasing.

Cunning stunt was also an English comedy alter ago from the 70's. Never knew about the Metallica name.

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That really is it. I have girls from MONTHS ago that I haven't seen who still send me random text messages just to make sure "I haven't forgotten about them"

It's honestly a good thing. It means you are connecting to their emotions in a way that no other guy has. They still want you. Now, they are at your disposal. I personally avoid texting as much as possible and pick up the phone and call. That way they can hear my voice and it puts THEM on the spot when I go for a date.

The weirdest thing happened.. I bumped into her last night. ..

I went to a charity concert. Full of old and young, she was there with her parents and sister and was talking to other friends. she is in early 30's. I saw her at the interval. I went a bit nervous like I haven't done in years. Decided I would at least go up to her and show my face. Went over and interrupted while she talking with a friend... she didnt look overjoyed to see me, but then it all happened a bit quick.. maybe she was shocked. I immediately after kissing her on the cheek and saying hi, stepped back and said 'back in a min'.. hate to say it, I was just too nervous. I thought it would be better to have her for 2 hours over a coffee than 5 mins infront of her friends and fuck it up. I have only met her once before and not for long.

So I was over by the bar and could see her still chatting.. she did hang around talking to friends when her parents and sister went but I couldnt go over. Body language not facing towards me to start with, but then didb face towards me later on. Couldnt really see her looking over much.
I just went back to my seat and ignored. Didnt see her after.

So here is the thing now.. If you were me and you have one credit left (one last message).. how would you play it? Do I mention the fact that I didnt return to chat and make an excuse?.. should I start of flirting over FB? go straight in for another meet?.. I could ignore full stop, but nothin ventured, nothing gained..

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You don't have one credit left. This is gone mate.