Hay guys I don't see any threads for text game solely so I thought I would throw it in the general questions.

To kick off this story I meet this girl out in a club on the dance floor we got dancing quite intimately for a while and then the kissing started. This the continued for about 30 mins then through I number closed her there then aswel incase we went our seperate ways which we did and were bumping into each other and chatting ever so often. That went fine and started texting her the next day and arranged to meet up with her the following day.

The following day being Sunday she said she had dranken too much the night before and couldn't meet up now she was willing and inviting me to go out with her that night before aswell but couldn't meet her was going my seperate way. I had to put it to her straight and ask was she genuinley interested in meeting me and she said yeah but she wanted to get to know me first (through text). I texted her back and forth for the next few days then she asked me to add her on facebook. Did that and in another few days seen she was getting to know me a bit more I asked her to meet up again. She said she was too shy she had to think about it. Given that she seemed interested but shy I decided to be a bit commanding saying "There was nothing to be shy about and to meet up" and just said "tell me when you're free and I'll arrange something. Then she stoped texting me that day after a couple of similar texts like that.

Then the next day I decided to give her a bit of an apology if I put her at unease or anything. Just started saying that I didn't want her being so shy and thought a bit of a comand would work. It had done before. Then she started saying "That it is alright and that I do seem nice and all but I don't know you too well and I'm really shy". How the fuck is she going to get to know me if she doesnt meet up?? That was the last text I've received from her and that was two days ago.

What should I do in this case? I'm half thinking of just throwing it out on the plain field and just saying "do you want to meet up or not if you don't that's fine I just would like an honest answer now. Ye know yourself with the hecktigness of life in genereal between, work, college, family and all others I haven't got time to be texting some girl that won't meet up with me.

Also another one of her escuses was shes not all keen on something to serious because she young 21 like me I'm 23 but I would feel a bit like that too. She said I seem that way nearly as if I wanted wife and kids, Yeah someday but not now.. Was she applying that she just wanted a fuck buddy or what?? I just said that I would like to meet up and see how things. She must be interested somewhat other wise what was all the dancing, kissing, and excessive texts about.

What would you do is what I'm asking ever been here before?

Holy crap. Where to begin?

First, you blew it completely.
This already shows insecurity. She would see it as you not being willing to let the relationship unfold. It completely kills sexual tension.
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Don't do this. She is qualifying you. Unless you want to know more about her, that lets her in. I would only add a girl after you've closed her and you sure you don't mind her in your life.
This is seeking her approval. Again creating a poor dynamic and unproductive.
I think whatever you think you should do, don't do. You are quite insecure, which is normal at 23. Stop being so direct. Be playful. Enjoy the tension of not knowing what will happen. Don't seek for her approval by apologizing. You really need to learn sexual communication. The basic format is getting to know the girl by asking her questions, then making jokes about her answers and creating sexual innuendo. When she asks questions you evade them and make jokes.

If a girl is shy then the jokes are not so graphic, if she is more forward the jokes can get really raunchy. Anyway, this site is really for you and I'd suggest reading as much as you can.

If she's shy you can use texting to your benefit as it is low commitment for her and therefore less intimidating provided you do it correctly. Be light and airy to estabilsh rapport - think of approaching a timid horse, you have to stroke her main for a bit, and then incremently escalate, albiet at a slow rate until you sense she's ready to be receptive to your next move until you progress to getting her out. It'll be work but can be very rewarding if done mindfully.

Good round up. i wanna add the following:
Why would you push it several times on the same day ?

Well like I said I haven't got all the spare time in the world we had been texting for over a week. She was getting more and more inclined but she kept telling me that she was just really shy and nervous. I thought by just being a bit more comanding on it she would be more inclined to do so. Worked before.. I was just getting a bit fed up of just texting.
I thought it may a bit but I wanted to get her back texting me witch it did. You have to be open minded she might be shy because she has gotten assaulted before when meeting someone, you just never know thats why I texted that.

I haven't spoken to her in a while can anyone advise on a text to send her again?? I'm going out tonight and I'm going to try any girl I like if she's going to be like this I'm not hanging around waiting for her. I was thinking about sending one of those texts, like the kind of ones you send to "all your contacts" she may reply back then I can start getting some ebooks on text game.

I might sound like a newbie but I've just been so pre occupied with other goals in my life over the last year I've let this part fall down a lot.

Texting isn't really a way to get to know anyone, I wouldn't bother even going down that route. I don't think she even believes that's what she wants. She probably just wanted to see your reaction, whether you'd push for more or whether you'd back off and show independence, and as others have said, you seem to have done the former when you should have done the latter.

When she said that, maybe something like:

"ah texting's not so good on my phone, it keeps playing up. Hey I have to get to this party, nice chatting to you hun, catch you around".

You're indirectly conveying that she is losing your interest while still being friendly, and making it clear that you're not going to play by her rules. You may not get interest back but this will make it more likely that she will be responsive if you phone (NOT TEXT) in the future.

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She`s playing you like a violin. If she want`s to see you she will. Sounds like you`ve developed a one-itis on a girl you`ve met in a club. Move on.