| Been sarging (trying) alot in the past few weeks.
I have no problems in approaching women in bars, however I'm not having much luck.
One of the main issues that I've come across...is ejecting too early.
For example, I go to a set, open them, chat to them, they look at each other ("What does he want!?" "How long is he going to stay here for") etc. They look flustered and their body language tells me that I have interrupted their conversation and they want me to leave. I get nervous, make an excuse and eject.
Last week, at a bar. While talking to the DJ/owner of the bar who's a mate (DHV?) I noticed some two girls who were sitting at a table, chatting, having a drink. I was attracted to one of them. I said excuse me to my mate, went over to the table, pulled a chair opposite them(not too close). Opened them about this new nightclub (this bar is a pre bar to a nightclub across the road) and asked them if they were going. Made conversation about the general situation we were both in and they started to look at each other in puzzlement, get quite flustered and a bit annoyed. So I ejected and said I might see them there and good night!?
In other occasions, when I open a set who's standing up, they look at each other and pull away. Sometimes her friend pulls my target away (cockblocking me).
I know what to say when opening them, I know how to act when opening them, but however I cannot seem to make them want me to stay in their set. They tend to have the impression that I'm just a stranger who has rudely interrupted whatever conversation the girls were having. I would like to go from the rude stranger to a friendly, desirable, interesting person. Is there a way of getting around this sticking point?
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