Hey guys,

I hit up this girl (HB8-9ish) today, haven't talked to her in about a month, I might've negged her a little bit too much. I'm not too worried about getting the girl herself, more about feedback on what I did/didn't do wrong in the text thread. I actually recently fell out of the PUA world after years of study and I was gaming naturally (and successfully). Idk, something brought me back in the past couple of days. Anyways heres the thread, cheers!

Me: How's my favorite little brat doing?
Her: Hehe hey baby long time no talk
Me: I'm going out for some drinks tonight, come join.
Her: Where ya headed (she texts me this twice since I was lagging to respond a bit)
Me: Jesus calm down, I got it the first time. Either Polk or abbeys.
Her: K.
Me: K come presume at my place around 9.
Her: I'm gone be lame and stay in tonight:(
Me: Okay Dork Butt don't forget about our dinner plans tomorrow (we had no dinner plans I was just playing around)
Her: And what plan is this?
Me: You already forgot?! Idk if I even want to go with you now!
Her: (no response)

Any and all feedback on what I did right, wrong, how to approach this next time, and if there's anything I should or could reply again is much appreciated. I'm just tryna get back into the groove.

Thanks

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Vpmouler

It was good. You showed humour and domination. You also didn't ask her out... You told her to join you.

But you haven't talked to her in a month. So a lot could have changed since. She may be seeing a guy. Many factors may come into play here.

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the first thing i would do is stay on her radar more. text maybe once a week or once every two weeks with something thats funny, non-needy, and doesnt require much investment on her part. i mean you havent talked to her in a month. its such a longshot that after not talking to her for that long shes just gonna meet you out somewhere.

btw ignore that advice if you were just texting her to catch up and you didnt really care if she met you out. sometimes ill send texts to girls i havent talked to in a while inviting them out to do something/go somewhere cool. this is just to catch up with them and let them know i do fun stuff. but its not very effective for actually getting them to come out. anyway...

as far as your actual text game goes, i think it comes across as a little to 'toughguyish' for lack of a better word. when she double texts you, you immediately call her out and make fun of her for it. youre punishing good behavior, which doesnt make much sense. you want her to be instaresponding and double texting you and things like that. i feel like youre trying too hard to be cocky when you should just be sending texts that are more fun and warming her up emotionally and getting her in a fun mood where she starts to think 'hey i remember that vpmouler used to be a lot of fun, id sure like to hang out with him again'.

also, the whole dork butt and fake plans thing is just weird. she just rejected you and told you shes gonna stay in. so stop responding and move on. to me it kinda seems like youre punishing her good behavior and rewarding her bad behavior.

You're trying to hard and come across as to gamey.

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Yeah, this is less "teasing" and more "borderline abusive". For one thing, when she asks where you're going, she was saying "I'll go out with you, if it's somewhere I want to go". You then respond by mocking her. I really don't know where you learned this stuff, but I have a hunch his name is "David D" and his wife is a fucking dog.

Rather than "polk or abby's" pick one. And only if that's the sort of place she likes to hang out at. If it isn't, text her before you're going somewhere she likes.

If some girl I was interested in texted me "I was wanting to see that place we were talking about yesterday. Meet me there?" I would respond in the affirmative. If she texted me "Volunteering at the nursing home, join me?" It would be a big fat no. I don't care if it was Adriana Lima.

In essence, girl seems to be interested but your texts and concepts seem way off. You may be better advised to text her and then give her a ring. Because your text game is not getting you anywhere good.

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RSDTyler

Wasn't too bad, man, you can't win em all. With some girls if you make a SINGLE error in your text game, that can fuck absolutely everything up, seriously.
Think you just pushed your luck here, and she got freaked out a bit. You were already looking odds on to meet her for drinks, and from there who knows where, so why try and get her to your place straight away?

Mind, some girls would have gone for it... just gotta see how things go. Now you know this girl is a bit more reserved and cautious than you first thought, you have to play it a little cooler and less direct if you're gonna text her in future.

Good luck dude!

This too...

Major douchebag reply from your part.

ya, you went straight to the asking her out thing way to soon. even if you talked to her two days ago, that would be to soon. you always have to start up an interesting conversation before you ask a girl out. talk about something that makes her want to hang out because you seem so fun and interesting. you should have started out with the, "hey i had the craziest dream about you lastnight" or something like that. trust me, they get really into that one. just think how many other guys could be texting her. you have to stand out in front of them. and yes, the dork butt was a little to much. it was kind of a push method without the pull. and even if you were to do a push/pull method, you did it to soon. always remember rapport. you have to build up rapport before you start doing that stuff. its always a step by step process. i'm trying to work on my text game to and so far getting better and better.

Pretty much this. When you were initially hitting her up you had the frame of a playful, easy going guy.
You broke that frame with that text. If she texted you "Where ya headed" twice, obviously she was down.

Should have just responded with a time and a place. Short and sweet.

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Thanks guys, I definitely agree about being a little too aggressive on "Jesus I got it the first time..." I tend to forget about rewarding good behavior, it becomes too much of a game for me. Honestly, I would rather call versus text, but (I'm in college) all these girls live by texting... Anyways thanks for the advice!

P.S. I just received a text from this girl that I've been chatting up in class- HB9. She texted me "What are you doing" late at night (12:37 am) and I was having a boys night playing some poker, so that kind of played into my decision not to text her back. As well as I spoke to her the day before on Thursday and invited her to come to one of my girlfriends birthday parties, so I'm assuming she's coming to that (when I text her). It all played in to the decision of me not texting her back plus, in my opinion, although she obviously was interested, to not text her back and thus making her want me even more (and only make her think of me in the next day as to why I didn't respond, then her fantasy and imagination turns on ) and not in anyway appearing needy or that she's in control. I was tempted to text back, or at least text "Is this a booty call" for fun, but then decided not to as the best decision.

Anyways, lmk what you guys think about this. And I'm going to text her later tomorrow, I'm not sure yet what, but probably "We're meeting at Shashi's house at 9:30, come join." What do you guys think?

Cheers,

Seva

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Vpmouler

omfg why wouldnt you respond to a text past midnight from a girl you like asking you what youre doing????

you totally should have made some joke about her text being a booty call. the key is fun and playful. somebody on here (eddie fews maybe?) once posted that before EVERY SINGLE TEXT he sends to a girl he takes a look at it before he sends it and asks himself "is this fun?". if the answer is no, he doesnt send it. simple as that.

Yeah it was Eddie and it's probably one of the better advice to text game.

Nonetheless, you should have definitely texted her back that night. Only thing that she was thinking of you not replying was that you were sleeping. If you wanted to keep her intrigued you could have replied once and then ignored her.

A neutral text like the one you proposed sounds good. If you're scheduling a time and place through texting, I think it makes sense to just be direct and put it all into one text.

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