So, I was at the mall (which is a couple miles from me) and I met this Hot girl that works there. Ive been having issues with my game, and I been feeling depressed lately, so my game was off.

But as soon as she seen me she was instantly attracted to me, gave me IOI's, and all that. But I just wasn't in the right state of mind, I was kind nervous, sad and in a hurry.

We talked a little, it went ok, it could hv gone better, I messed up.
So I got her number, she asked where I'm from, and I gave my town, the issue was that she's about 30 mins to an Hour away from town. So i asked is such and such a town good for you, she said it was ok (probably means it's too far) but it started with her being interested in me, attracted, and I opened my mouth, messed it up, and I might hv looked needy, and she might hv already decided that it's too far.


Now I can't take back the mistakes I made in game, but I can fix it by meeting her again and qualifying her, Dvh and negging her. I didn't do any of this. She's so hot and friendly so I don't wanna give up easy.

But due to the distance, how can I meet up with her, what can I Text her so we can hang out / I.e. What's the plan?

Thanks!

don't sweat it, if she still gave you her number after you were out of it, you're still good to go.

shoot her a text message that draws her into your life, while adding some humor. "This old lady just said I was bootylicious... awesome, I'm the male version of Kim Kardashian."

transition from that into getting her to meetup. Be like "Girl, meetme halfway for some adventures, and we'll make this city our little playground."

Viet,

Thanks for your response! Very helpful. But I think she gave me her number before we talked abt the distance. She gave it, then we discussed distance. Does that matter?

Also, you want me to open with that Kim kardashian line? I'm a little skeptical about that lol. But I'm always up for trying new things.

I was thinking I could meet her half way from where I am and she is, but idk where to go?

it's fine, distance doesn't matter as long as you project it that way. She could sense that you weren't a man in charge and let a little 30-60 min distance get in the way.

That Kim Kardashian text is just an example of drawing a girl into your life, while being humorous.

Obviously if you're not the kind of guy that gets ridiculous than don't say it, but try it if you want. Works wonders for me.

Look up some places in the area if you're unfamiliar. Go mini golfing or bowling, makeout with her, then fuck her

(1) Sounds man. The thing is, I can't do any out door activities - cause it's winter time here and it's cold outside. I thought of going to an aquirium but idk if that's a good idea, plus it's 13$ and I don't think I can hv any intimacy with her. Any other suggestions, I have no idea where to go.

(2) So I met her yesterday, when should I text her, and what time? And Viet, your saying to just text her something random and funny? I'm not really familiar on that type of texting style. What's a good rule of thumb, can you give me some examples.

(3) Also how do I get out of her paying her own way and me not buying things for her.

(4) Lastly, what should I deonstrate to her. How should I act?

Thanks!!

1. Take her bowling, or go people watching at the mall. Do something that is FUN. Because even if you think you didn't do well on the date, she will look back and realized she had a fun time.

2. Text her whenever, use my example I posted earlier if you want. Or make up your own. The key is to draw her into your life, but you exaggerate it into a funny situation.
I.E. it's snowing where I live now, so I'm literally going to send this to like 10 diff girls "Walking outside, and even snowmans are checking me out. Gosh I'm so adorable."

3. If you're in line to pay for something, just go first and she'll get the hint, or tell her "You go first."

4. Be physical and flirty. When you first meet her, give her a hug and a kiss on both cheeks. Be the leader

Ok, not bad! I think I'll tell her, I'm going to a mall down by where she lives (its mostly far from me) to buy some toys for charity - how does that sound? Only thing is that, I can't imagine it as being thrilling. This girl seems like a thrill seeker, so I wanna do something that will gell with her personality. ??

I can't go bowling, not really good at it, and I can't wear those shoes, due to a medical condition I have. I thought of playing pool, but I'm not really good at it. Anything else

I thought of opening with this line, "You just got a text! Answer it/say hi." It's a line I made up. What do you think?

Thanks a lot Viet, you hv no idea how much I appreciate it.

P.S. Also to quickly note: all other members of the board are free to join in on the conversation as well, I'm looking forward to hearing from you guys.

You don't have to be good at something... it's about having fun and creating a good vibe. Shooting pool is great, doesn't matter if you suck.

That text is awful. You're missing the point. You need to text her something that involves YOU, and what you're doing with your life.

Ok, I see your point. I think that text may work if communication has been established before, and we know each other more. I've seen good results from it, but for a first time text, your right.

After checking out the boards here, I sent this, "I just saw something that reminded me of you. - Pink" Everyone on the board liked that, and I was gonna follow it with a Joke but she hasn't replied? It was sent at 4 pm and it's night time now... Does that mean it's a flake or I sent a wrong message?

What did you think of that text?

you're still missing the point

Well I texted her something intriguing and she didn't respond... What else is there to do....

dude i said to craft your own message... that draws her into your life while adding humor

you did the total opposite, you were better off using one of my examples I gave (they NEVER fail)

now wait a few days, she still might respond, if she doesn't, then re-engage with a phone call or a text

Your right man. I'll try a phone call. I'm really interested in your style of game, it's very unique bro. Im trying to learn the best I can, so excuse me of I mess up. What should I say in the phone call (I may be inviting her to the mall)?

Sounds fine. Considering you're concerned over $13, I hope to God you're in your early to mid teens. You don't need intimacy, 15 year olds don't first date fuck, anyway.
You don't. If you don't want to pay, assume she's going to pay for it herself. If she asks you to do it, do it. In most cases, she'll just pay. If she asks you, you'd have been harming yourself by making her pay anyway.
Mystery Method is strong within you. You need to act fun. Aside from that, be yourself. You don't need to demonstrate much. %90 of guys are losers. By simply being fun and intelligent, you're in a strong position.

Just to test, I once told a girl I was unemployed and on welfare(I was already seeing two other girls and wasn't all that into her). She was fairly cute and still interested, because even a fun welfare bum is better than most of her boyfriends.

Thanks versal!

So do you guys recommend me calling her or texting her?

If I call her she may be at work, so I can't stay long and she might not pick up or can't stay on long.

I'd rather text her but I already have and if I do what should I say? I really wanna do this right.

Or maybe I should wait till around 10-11 pm and call her? so what do you guys suggest.