Random info: 25, afc, virgin, I had chances (literally I had girls saying in my face ''I want to have sex with you''), although I never went through since I wasn't interested in them. I regret most of those right now, but I just didn't feel it.

I spent 1 year abroad as a student exchange, and during the last month (June) I developed a huge crush on one of my housemates. We went on a trip together, but it went horrible, because I melted. In the end I told her I liked her, I knew she wasn't interested, she rejected me. I stupidly got angry at her, and told her ''she deserves to be alone''. Idiotic, but well..
I had a bad reputation with her to begin with, because some of my other female housemates literally hated every guy in the house, me included obviously, and spent most of the time talking trash about us, unfortunately, she's friends with them.

Went back to my country (I'm from Europe, she's as well, but another country), hoping that I could forget about her. It didn't happen. For the moment, I'm back and stuck at parent's house, finishing my Master's thesis, in a small village with very few occasions to go out. My inability and the impossibility to get her out of my head started to affect negatively other parts of my life. Being at the end of my studies, I'm trying also to start a career, and I developed a huge anxiety over it, since one of the things she said she doesn't like me is that she sees me as ''lazy''. I disagree, but for the moment, I can't prove her wrong.
Other than that, she likes, like many girls, tall, rich guys. I'm relatively short, although I work out to keep in a good shape, but I come from a family of farmers.

After spending 2 months enraged at her, in September I sent her a message on facebook, finally explaining properly my feelings, and that I miss her. She replied she would meet up with me if I visited the city she's working in right now.
I got a little hope, but it made me even more anxious about my career.

I sent her another message last week, further romantic stuff, she friendzoned me.I replied that I accept my status as friend, if that's what will allow me to keep in touch with her, and meet her again later.
While my career might have finally taken the right turn, I need help to plan my next move. I want to visit her in December and that might be my last chance to change her opinion about me.

On a side note, she's not my ideal type either, physically at least. But she's by far the sweetest girl I've ever met. Even when she friendzoned me she tried to be supportive. That's why I don't want to lose her.

In the while, I'm gathering things for my final assault; lost 10 kilos since July, I'm not ripped but I'm getting close to it. I'll be spending money of my scholarship on imporving my wardrobe, to resemble more what she likes (business type guy). What I need now, is tips on how to sent the next message, when I'll ask her to set a weekend when I can meet her, and suggestions on how to behave if that happens.

So you just "didn't feel it"? Wow... Anyhow. The advice I'm going to give you, is something you don't actually want to hear. "Oneitis" not sure if that is the correct spelling. Google it.

You are already in the Friend Zone. And you said you are going to be her friend. I'm not trying to be funny or anything, but she is probably screwing some other guy, while you are spilling your love out on her.

I suggest you move on, and "feel it" with other women.

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Send me a PM and i'll try to help you out, most people see this as a lost case, but i'm sure that there is something that can be done about it, if things do stay the same, there are alternatives but for now, lets try and see what we can do.

First of all, i need way more background information about both of you, in your pm, leave all the information that you think is of importance, with if not to personal, a private conversation between you and her, I need to be able to move into her shoes, and think the way she thinks. It'll give me a better clue on how to trigger the right emotions.

- Nick

I won't lie, you might be right. But as I said, I want to give myself one last chance with her. Then I dunno. As I'll start leaving the craphole I live in, I'll met more people, and eventually forget about her.
And yea, I didn't feel it. Once again, as I said, I regret those occasions. But even kissing a girl that I don't like that much just doesn't do it for me. I can't go for the next move. I could have, but that's how it works for me. The last girl I went out with rejected me 2 times before accepting to go on a date with me. Ironically, after the first date I decided not to continue the relationship. I will admit, I didn't like that girl as I like this one, those the friedzone in this case hurts more, other than that, nothing is impossible. Maybe another day. Without perseverance I will not get anywhere in my life. As I see it, this case is no different. Take your sarcasm elsewhere.
Thanks for the help. Let's see what you can do.

This is why you're not getting anywhere with this girl. You're trying to be what she wants you to be.

My personal suggestion is to work on your inner game and do things for yourself, and not to impress

LMAO

I don't understand why guys come on here to lament about ONE girl. Why come to a PUA forum about ONE girl, that's not what PUA is.

Go talk to Hitch or some shit, he'll know what to tell ya.

I'll do both. Improving my physical appearance doesn't sound as a bad idea to me. She likes what most girls like anyways. At the end of the day, in the likely event I won't get her, at least I'll have improved myself and I can start looking for someone else.
I prefer quality over quantity.

where can i find Hitch?!