This is something that has been bothering me. i get mixed opinions from so many different people, male and female, and it's making my brain hurt. Ideally, can a man trust a woman (involving sex for the most part) or will ALL women lie, and keep secrets from their men?
I hear that not all women are the same, and that you can build a strong trusting relationship with time. Then I hear that ALL women love the thrill of secret relationships, and WILL have multiple "secret" partners, without any of these partners knowing about eachother, any chance they can get.
Specifically today, I got into a conversation with a guy and girl about this. They both agreed that women, ALL women, will always lie to men, and only be honest amongst themselves (women). It sounds like an ugly truth, and one that will take me a while to wrap my head around. Because how can 100% of the female population be untrust worthy... I mean, if that theory is correct, then wouldn't that mean I've been cheated on behind my back, in every relationship I've had?... I primarily value trust in all of my relationships. As soon as that trust dies, i dump, on the spot. But with all the horror stories I hear (on this site, books, magazines, socializing) I'm left with this question. Can a man trust a woman?
I would love some feedback on this...
I know I'm sounding paranoid. But I'm more so just confused.

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I honestly dont think you can 100% trust a woman unless she 100% trusts you and its understood that your both completly honest with eachother. If your creepin, playin and fuckin other women then you cant trust her because she cant trust you! Women are much more perceptive than men and can smell a liar, cheat or fake from a mile away. If you engage in those behaviors that will cause them not to trust you, which will in turn cause you not to trust them. If your completely both completely honest then I believe you can trust eachother but if not... then that trusting relationship will not exist

can you trust a woman?

yes

depends on the girl, learn to screen

[quote="Great-1"]" If your creepin, playin and fuckin other women then you cant trust her because she cant trust you! Women are much more perceptive than men and can smell a liar, cheat or fake from a mile away. [/quote]

But what if you are honest with her about all this... She could still be a liar. I've always prided myself in NOT lying, therefore I expect it in return, always.

Hey mate,

this is probably because we are both totally different persons, but i dont understand why you would worry so much.

You cant have a partner and know everything about each other. the 'no secrets' things is an illusion. Everybody needs his/her own secret garden.

Also, about the secret relationships and partners. Why care? Man is not made to only have one partner, this image we have of true love for ever is a man made idea, enforced in the old days by religion. Why would you care if she has secret partners or not? If she would leave you for another, there is nothing you can do about that. So why worry? If she has secret relationships but doesnt leave you, why worry (as long as she is safe ofcourse)?

we live in a world with lies as a foundation. So its never the question of a man can ever trust a woman, this is beyond sexes. Can you trust a person in a certain situation is a better question.

cheers

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Simple questions that is very hard to answer!

I have my own solid reasons not to trust any girl until she proves that she's worth my trust! I've been involved in some action with some girls that were in a very serious relationship and I have friends that been in the same situation, The girl will cheat on her man even though she say that she loves him, as girl love one man but like so man others!

Can anyone ever trust anyone?

Does anyone ever share everything with anyone?

Do you not have any dark secrets that you hide from people because they are embarrassing?

Are you always aware when you lie or omit certain parts of the truth.

For the sake of conversation not being overly anal, we omit things all the time, things that are not important or that are embarassing. Then someone who listens thinks that something was indeed important and feel lied to. Our points of view are a major source of conflict.

In the end it is up to you, can you live with the fact that you cant know everything and not be 100% in control all the time? If you can, you can have a relationship. If you cant, it will be difficult for you to trust anyone.

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Never trust a person until they have proven themselves. This why so many people get hurt. They trust people because they want to trust not because they have shown themselves trustworthy

I think you can TRUST a girl but depends on THE girl! some girls have used it there while life ( lying ) while others like honest & trust! You if like a girl a lot & her two and you trust what you here, see, look etc from friends, fb, random people, about her thats she's telling you the truth, then go with your feeling

My ex & i gone out for about 4 years! At start she was trusting & told me all dirty/bad things she's done etc but around the 4th year she was hiding stuff, lying to my face while i knew the truth! do stuff n meeting up with guys while i was at work every day while she at home. - so never know mate, one moment everything you trust in becomes a shitcake

But i do believe it depends on the girl & past, because if it habit . . . it will likely happen again ?

thats my 2 cents!

jaffas

i dont think you can trust a girl with a secret that you dont want out, because theres a 100% chance shes gonna tell her bff and thats it! girls tell each other everything and i mean everything, even your darkest og most terrifying secrets! so if its something you dont want out there dont tell her, unless she dosent have any close girlfriends ofc...

Have you given her enough reasons to be faithful to you? No?

Well then you can't.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

I'd trust certain girls, but not others. You can't apply this across the board, as with most things.

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Thanks guys for all the feedback!
Iwanteasylove, BEST answer! Great quote. Makes alot of sense. Thanks
puaninja, makes sense too. I do believe all men and women can be different (I hope). This is why when I hear horror stories, all I really want is the truth!
jaffabeens, that sounds tough. Sry to hear u went through that. That would kill me.
Again, mixed reviews.
Chilipama & LD: It makes sense that guys too can all be different. I very much appreciate your feedback. But according to your theories, then what the fuck is the point of a relationship? there is NONE. According to what your saying, biologically and evolution wise, "trust" does not exist. Therefore, committing it to somebody is pointless.
I want to believe that all women are different, and that screening is key, but at the same time, I want to face the truth if I have to.