I know this girl through a friend and we live long distance. Went on a few dates and texted for a couple months. She kept suggesting I visit so I did.

First few days here things are great and things get pretty hot physically. Then she asks me to start staying at her place for last few days and at night we are in her bed, making out heavy and I'm fingering her and she stops me and says.

"what are you doing here?" I tell her she got me curious

She then says that nothing could ever happen and that she doesn't want a relationship with anybody.

I say that's fine. Then she starts kissing me passionately again. And then stops again.

Can anybody explain any of this?

Yes very common. Guys think one way all the time, a guy rarely says "we shouldnt be doing this" they see the finish line and dont question.

but women do it all the time. She has a need to not be the blame for the sex.

When that happens just let her know it;s YOUR idea, YOU want to have sex, shes just going along with it. Shell feel less like a slut and then will get back to business.

Just how women do things, they always second guess themselves or bs themselves really, they just want you to step up and call it your fault.

Forgot to mention then she ended things. So it wasn't just lmr.