Hey guys,

I've been out today and it's been about two weeks since my last direct in day game. The opener was standard: "hey, I noticed you over there and you look like an interesting person! So what's your name?" (I know I forgot the pacing statement, sorry bout that!)

This went like most of my other direct approaches. She stood in set for a while but she didn't look comfortable or anything. Part of it is my appearance, that's why I'm working out and dressing as good as I can. So I looked into the other possible solutions:

- not enough qualification (I'm only appraoching her for her looks)
- not enough comfort (I'm a random creep)

So, what can I do about that? I don't really know many means of creating comfort and qualification in street game, time's too short. I introduce myself, use cold reads and I pace, but what else can I do? I have no clue how to qualify right after the direct opener though...it would just seem out of place or weird if I use a big hoop after the DO.

Suggestions? How do you handle qualification and comfort?

where were you? what was the setting and the mood?

Tell us more! most probably it wasn´t the opener but your convo and kino game.

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The way how you opened it was too obvious, she knew your intentions.
Find a more casual way.