Yesterday I was at Barns and Noble book sellers with a girl Ive been seeing. I had a epiphany about how blissfully ignorant 95% of the people in America are. My girl has been talking frequently about her AFC guy friend from high school. I feel bad for this guy because he doesn't have a freakin clue women it comes to women. His current girlfriend he's been with for three months. (I hear these stories from my girl) but anyway, He tells my girl things like..."Yeah i took kate out to a $250 dollar dinner she really liked it" or "I told kate i would buy her a burberry coat for her birthday." "Im taking kate to Jamaica for a week and were staying at a five star resorts in the penthouse." Crap like that. And my girl was telling me all these stories for the past month. I told her "Kate is going to lose interest...she's not having to invest at all in the relationship and when he buys her all that crap it only makes her feel obligation to be with him." My girl said no she's getting to many perks to leave him. Needless to say i was right. She has stopped returning his phone calls after he sold his apartment to move closer to her apartment. When he could tell she was losing interest he went out and bought her a necklace. Its amazing to me how blissfully Ignorant most people are. Take for example buying a drink for a girl in a bar. Guys keep doing this over and over with a very low success rate. They don't get the desired result but keep using the same method. I think back to my own AFC days when i thought that if you put a girl on a pedestal that she would reciprocate with all the things us men want but it never happened. But I remember 6 years ago thinking "You know I don't know what the answer is but I know this isn't working...I know i can figure this thing out."
The AFC friend is in love with my girl which doesn't bother me, but the thing is if i were to tell him you do everything wrong, he still wouldn't believe me! Not that i want to explain it to him, but it goes to show that most people are happy being ignorant.
So many people in this world are happy with mediocrity in their lives. They just maintain and never grow as human beings. They whine when things don't go their way and say life beats them up, they refuse to evolve to circumstances. They are jealous of those who have more. They believe their place in life is fixed and they were dealt a bad hand.
Ive never been the guy that anything came easily too. I was terrible at sports when i was younger, I was a C student in high school, and I was the furthest thing from popular but I have always tried to better myself each day more than the previous. All through college i would write goals down and envision who i wanted to become. I graduated college on the deans list, I worked my ass off in the gym for two years and built a good physique from scratch, I read hundreds of books on people skills, body language, style, tons of books about the game. Ive always considered it like swimming. You exert tons of energy paddling as hard as you can however in the water you are not moving as fast as you really want too. Growth doesn't happen overnight it comes with time and not leaving a single stone unturned. There is a certain pain barrier you must go though that truly separates the champion from the loser. Most people are unwilling to risk failure. You must put yourself out their, do not be afraid to fail. Low value people will make snickering remarks, the majority of people will be naysayers, but thats only because they are followers and held back by fear. The game is more than getting pretty girls, its the art of getting everything you want in life. The game is never over it just evolves and moves off into tangents. Arnold Schwarzenneger who probably has the greatest success story on the planet has six principles which I live by. Ive included a youtube link below:
http://youtu.be/LuJ4hbkLiY0
Cheers!
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