It's official...Something is up with my crush.

We went from being super cute a work together, Constant flirting, and challenging each other. After our date (where we kissed before she left), next day I left to go home for 2 weeks summer break (I'm in college) while she stayed in our University to do Rush week (real busy sorority stuff). The first 5 days were perfectly fine/normal....the usual. Then she became short with me and it's been like that for a while now.

So I just NEED to know what the deal is. Why she's being Shy and Short with me lately after everything seemed good.

So I think I'm going to text her tonight or tomorrow seeing if she wants to join me for happy hour on Friday.

If she accepts, Fak Yeah!

If she flakes/doesn't respond I'll respond with something along the lines of "Hey I thought we were really hitting it off and were into each other. What's going on? Everything ok?"


How Does this approach sound?

Ask her to hang out, if she flakes don't call her, go have fun and live your life, no need to worry about her.

Perhaps she is just busy with life? its hard to tell without knowing her.

Problem solved.... got 5 girls' number tonight, got with 4 (made out), F-Closed 1... and texting another now. Best Part: Lowest was an 8.75 (yes, I know i'm picky with my scale lol).

But Her being cold/short/shy with me lately has built up TOO much over past 10 days and taken me out of my element... I still want to know why just suddenly changed but I'm not caught up on waiting around for her anymore...

Side Note: TBH I still like her and have a crush on her, BUT I'm Past waiting for her to step up/return to normal. Guess I'll text her my aforementioned idea tomorrow.

It sounds good/reasonable right?

Cheers and Thanks!

your response sounds very weak, as though you care too much

I agree...but to a degree. I think it's getting to a point where blunt honesty is my best bet.

But maybe I'll toss in some humor when I ask. What response would you text instead?

? Why do you care so much, you went out and gamed other girls, good for you.

Say whatever you want to this girl it doesn't matter, you'll learn from it.

Because I still have a crush on her, albeit some of the feelings are gone now that things have changed a bit. Not to mention I work with her at the same agency so I'll see her quite a bit.

I just want to clear the air and know what's up. If she's not ready...fine. If she's just busy...that's fine too. But having NO answer straight up blows.

This is our most recent text convo:

Me: Hola. A bunch of us are grabbing drinks tomorrow. If you can make it, you're invited.

Her (1 minute later): I Canttttt

Me: Ha looks like we'll have to reschedule, when are you free dis weekend?

Her: I'm busy the whole weekend

Me: Oh Alright


What's a good response to just find out what the deal is so I can either keep it going or just drop it?

I was thinking something along the lines of "Dodging me huh? Ouch! Everything ok?"

Cheers!

Guys, you just dont seem to be getting it. Girls are attracted to authentic dudes because the authentic dude isn't afraid to be who he is. When you get caught up in the mechanics of what to say and when to say it, it only projects that you aren't comfortable with what YOU'VE got to offer as being enough - in other words, you'll always be coming from a place of lower value