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SexAddict could you share some examples of how you deal with LMR and chick ASD, while in bed?
I Am not sure what ASD stands for, (perhaps you can enlighten me?) but I am pretty sure that LMR = last minute rejection?
I have dealt with LMR very differently over the years, it really is something that is for the most part situational and depends on the level of connection established.
LMR happens when a woman is interested but is uncertain of you, talked herself out of it, or simply needs re-assurance, it's up to you to find out what she needs to progress. Woman can have many different reasons for it, and that's why it's hard to give you a specific action to do. BUT!! There is things you can do to keep the flame lite.
What you want to do is stop as soon as she stops, you back off a little and start to engage her in conversation. All while positioning yourself in a very comfortable embrace ( best position=your head rested to one side of hers with your lips close to her neck, and one leg positioned between hers)
As you are talking with her get her to open up about why she wanted to stop, this is where it becomes purely situational, you need to get into her head, find out whats wrong and fix it, if it's fixable, re-assurance is what is usually needed.
If you feel her mentality changing in your favor, this is where you must start to escalate physically by kissing her neck immediately as you are already right there you are capitalizing on her emotion as she feels it, if she starts to engage you back sexually, this is where you simply try again.
If she stops you again, repeat the process. It's really up to you to gauge the potential for it to happen or not, from your conversation.
Here is a general recipe
1) break off sexual contact when she stops you
2) Engage her in conversation( while maintaining and intimate position)
3) Find out why she wants to stop
4) Make her comfortable, re-assure her, ( be playful and flirty)
5) If she reacts well to the conversation, start to escalate sexually.
(throughout the conversation do some light touching and kissing nothing overly sexual)
Good luck bro, let's hope you never have to worry about that again.