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It`s a really nice post, even better when the one reading it feels engaged by the words that you use.
But the thing is I`m not entirely convinced about all the advices:
For example; when you say you should be in places that makes one feel relaxed and calm, I don`t think that`s the best way to engage my inner issues.
I`m more of a expose yourself to the situations you hate guy, it`s damn nasty to stay in a place where your whole body is signaling you want out, but still stay; but it does give some real results.
Next time I`m in the same scenario, my mind would change, I no longer wanna get out there asap, rather after a while, and even then I stay a bit longer.
I think the biggest secret you`ve throwed there and it`s an undenyiable truth is the fact that happiness is indeed in your everyday choices.
But this is where the hard work kicks in; we all know how hard is to change our ways of living, our philosophy and style of life.
I`d like you to share what are those actions you think you take in your day that makes you think you are happy couse I`m not happy, not there yet.
Also; we have a future time mind I think, this means we like to think happiness is hidden in something we can do/have/get/share; rather than something we already have.
This is something related with the day to day system we live in that makes us think we NEED things we actually don`t.
1. I never said avoid situations uncomfortable. In fact, creating and harnessing awkward situations for self-amusement is the basis of the first day of our bootcamps!
http://sashapua.com/bootcamp/
2. Here's a way of thinking about it in your everyday life. This quote is from “Detachment” in a book called “Awareness” by Jesuit priest Anthony DeMello:
"Do this little exercise for a few minutes: Think of something or someone you are attached to; in other words, something or someone without which or without whom you think you are not going to be happy. It could be your job, your career, your profession, your friend, your money, whatever. And say to this object or person, “I really do not need you to be happy. I’m only deluding myself in the belief that without you I will not be happy. But I really don’t need you for my happiness; I can be happy without you. You are not my happiness, you are not my joy.” If your attachment is a person, he or she is not going to be very happy to hear you say this, but go ahead anyway. You can say it in the secrecy of your heart. In any case, you’ll be making contact with the truth; you’ll be smashing through a fantasy. Happiness is a state of non-illusion, of dropping illusion."
Hope that helps!