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^ good, but in some situations women may associate smiling as try hard..Since many guys that approached with a smile were annoying, chodes, afc etc... So when you open smiling(that may be a negative association with try hard), kind of like let me get you a drink, overcompensating... But i just believe smiling may be about timing issue, when to smile, i would not smile when Initially opening...
That's what I meant about Incongruent. If your smiling to validate her you are obviously not smiling because you want to. Your being a little bitch if your smiling in hopes of her liking you.
And for smiling your definitely right, Why would you smile for no reason on the approach? I like how Gunwitch put it as his approach. Smile as a reward when you introduce yourself.
Ie. Ask her name, You respond with a smile and your name.
I'm probably the only guy here that smiles ALL THE TIME. Yes I believe in smiling to smile, smiling makes you comfortable, keep in mind I don't believe in giving a fake bull shit tight lip smile. I give the full smile, slightly open mouth smile with your eyes smiling.
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In general, just be congruent with your ACTUAL feelings. If you feel like smiling smile, Don't smile for anyone else's sake
Smiling makes you feel good, I smile because I like to feel good. You don't smile for her, you smile for yourself. Smiling and laughing are both a part of my charisma, ask anyone who knows me.
When I switch to tension building I have to consciously quit smiling. Though I've found ways to make a smile work during tension building, it's more related to distance, facing her, and strong eye contact. With the exception of some teasing smiles (more like smirks). Yes it is a conscious issue.
Smiling is to me a huge part of alpha, not smiling shows discomfort or a beta behavior. Smiling makes you look comfortable, it shouldn't be a forced smile but a comfortable smile. A comfortable smile(you are comfortable giving it), gives everyone around permission to be comfortable and feel good(yes permission to smile is permission to feel good).
I love being the guy people love to see, people love seeing the smiling guy who gives them permission to smile thus making themselves feel good. I have been approached by at least a dozen people who told me I make them feel good. Other people told me they loved coming to my work to see someone who makes them feel good on a bad day. I'm that guy that Moms love to introduce their daughter to. I'm also that guy that admits I like sex in a PG way to Moms, so they realize the truth. Smiling and laughing are the biggest weapons in my arsenal on building attraction. I highly recommend it as I do consider it alpha but if you can't give a real smile it's better not to give one, it will look incongruent and definitely look like you are trying to hard.
lolaskate was spot on with his post. You can smile during tension building but it is when you are teasing her, acting like you'll kiss her when you won't. Things like that, a smirk works as well(better for most).
Just how I feel about smiling off my studies, experiences, and observations. Almost looks like he's read a lot of my stuff.
I get what you mean by the smiling makes you feel happy, also makes people around you happy and all. But it's like how you mention bullshit tight lips, lol, having a bullshit smile that doesn't go away, is just as bad (in my opinion).
Smiling is definitely a good thing, it's just I don't like how people are saying it is ALPHA, make it seem like if you momentarily don't smile you are DLVing or wtv. A huge part of game (in my opinion) is learning to be self expressive and all these rules telling you do this, do that just get to me sometimes. ie. Not smiling = DLV. Lol.
I credit a huge portion to my understandings of body language, and game to reading your blog and threads. I am a big fan of you lol.
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