Hi there

I haven't been on the forum for a while as the local project has taken off, but I need your help. Long story short, myself and several others created a local project and were starting to see results in ourselves.

Personally my game was pretty good, I am a natural Direct gamer, but push it by becoming the 'social magnet'... i find running about like soldiers is a waste of time.

To the advice. I was going out with a girl for 3 years and she was 'the one'.. I saw myself settling with her, we moved in together but it all went to shit..
1) broke up
2) stayed in touch
3) met up 4 months later and we were both left feeling rubbish again (the feelings came back)
4) I opened my heart to her and said we need to talk about this, followed by her saying that she needs space and maybe we should not talk for a while

a few weeks after that, she msgs me:
her: You would tell me if you had a new girl wouldnt you
ME: whys that
HER: just some warning, i think you have met someone
ME: well no, i opened up to you a couple of weeks back and you chucked it at me
HER: I went on a date Friday and all i could think is that he wasnt you, and i cant stop thinking about you
ME: ok well why does this concern me
HER: well i think we should meet


We met up and went over EVERYTHING that went wrong with the relationship and we agreed to try again, take it casual and just have fun again...

Now, since then I am miserable.. Every time i mention anything slightly to do with being above friends (i just msged saying I still had that doctors coat if she needed looking after), she just ignores the text for ages or changes the subject.

Earlier i offered to come and see her as it will be a week until we are both free and after 2 hours she came back with a shit excuse... she just keeps knocking me back all the time.

So I need some help guys.. My whole confidence is shot to shit, do i tell her now that im miserable and fuck her off, or do I just stop giving her any affectionate attention. Game is different when you have become long term partners.

Im so lost with this as she is stunning and I cant think of anyone else id rather be with really, but if she is going to use me as a 'time filler' id rather get back on with my gaming.

I hope you can help


Jax -x-

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From the Desk of Jax
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Co-founder of Project Essex. If your Essex based and want a strong Sarging group behind drop a message to us.

QUIT chasing her!!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks mate.. I plan to, but she will usually be the one who txts me in the morning.. do I ignore it? or just send her a blunt msg... Why should I have to hide what i truly want to say.. thats the problem

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From the Desk of Jax
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Co-founder of Project Essex. If your Essex based and want a strong Sarging group behind drop a message to us.

you should read this!

the-value-of-shutting-up-vt137368.html?highlight=

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Hey man I’ve been through something similar. Went out with this girl for 4.5 years and believed she was definitely the one but as usual ‘didn’t work out’. What i would suggest is just move on and cut that dead weight loose. You will definitely find someone better you deserve and all this will give you a chance to work on yourself and do things you didn’t think you could do.

Logically I should just say to her 'look this isnt going to work......' but we have such a great time when together etc....

I think Ill just cut all chasing... and by Friday decide if its worth it.. Its destroying my confidence!

Jax -x-

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From the Desk of Jax
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Co-founder of Project Essex. If your Essex based and want a strong Sarging group behind drop a message to us.

Good job Bro!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

oh and cheers for the post dude.. I had a read.. I do tend to subconsciously msg her to try and get that reaction back... she msged me tonight as an attention seek and I replied right away with bigger seek... and she has now stopped msging me haha...

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From the Desk of Jax
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Co-founder of Project Essex. If your Essex based and want a strong Sarging group behind drop a message to us.