To start with, I'm not your AFC and I'm quite confident with how I roll smoothly when it comes to talking with scale 10 women. I mean... All you got to do is just talk, right? Nothing really hard about it, honestly. After all, Jesus did once mentioned in the bible "Ask, and thou shall be given." xD
My trouble comes in trying to befriend them or go beyond that level. I believe in giving comfort as first priority to women, because that's what women look for in a man. Comfort. They want to know that we're not here to simply 'boink' them (while I must admit, it's one of my long term goals
).
I used to live in a circle where most of my friends are the socially awkward types when it comes to women. (Not anymore in college) and so was I. We're the kind of guys that might faint by the slightest hint of ever coming in ANY form of contact with a women.
Time goes by, and slowly... I discovered my strength's and weaknesses. In class, I was loved because I'm the funny guy who'd crack jokes to ease tensions and bring humor to everyone as a daily dose. People who know me would smile at me because they know that wherever I go, laughs and banters are bound to follow.
My biggest weakness? Temper. Anger management. It's something I've been working hard to get rid of it, with much success. I still occasionally let steam off, though.
However, I know I wasn't scared of anything. Well, I thought I was...
I'll share you guys one of what I'll consider a success story by Day 1, but flopped big time to me in "Day 2" phase. I know it might sound like..."Why aren't you boinking her, yet?" kinda thing but to me it's a big step in breaking that "anxiety" barrier when it comes to chatting with women.
It was at a local comic convention. It's my first convention ever, but I loved it so much mostly due to the experiences I had in there. I made many new friends, and
bought lots of awesome stuff to boot.
Call me a small fish with a big target, but I really do aim BIG. The gal I tried to "jump into her circle" in was one of the convention's main attraction. Basically the guest star cosplayer which made up part of the convention.
So there she is, looking even better up close than her professional photo works. I've been a fan of her for quite sometime, and I decided to try my game on. There were legions of fans lining up to see her, and yet I was the one who actually made an impact to her. She was impressed with me.
What I did was simply playing my strengths on her. Y'see, generally people here who attended conventions are socially awkward or just anxious. So of course, when meeting their idol with a "legendary" status. They froze. I noticed that most guys try to get on her level (she was sitting down and they lower themselves to her head level just to get an even picture with her), but I made her get on my level (I asked her to stand up while doing picture requests with me, and she did).
Lo and behold, there I was. Cracking banters in front of a group of complete strangers. Commenting on how she makes single guys like me happy in front of everyone, and everyone simply. just. laughed. In a good way.
That's when I managed to get the money shot. The one where ALOT of people are jealous for. To them, I managed to get 'close' to what they label as the "Untouchable Goddess" (she's that popular).
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But this is where the story stops. My anxiety kicked in again. I've no idea why. The convention lasted for two days in which I -did- go for both days to see her, but I flopped on Day 2. In terms of I wasn't as good as Day 1. Or better.
I'm afraid that, from this example. The same thing will happen when I come across remarkable women like her again.
The question is... How do I turn myself from an "Impressive Guy" to become the "Guy She Can't Live Without" kinda person? I've got her facebook and everything, she knows who I am and all that because she wants me to link the photos I got to her...but yeah...
I want to take it to the next step.
But well! There goes my story. It was nice to see how being confident with the openers actually worked DAMN WELL. The attention was on me, but I was too chicken to move in to Step 2. At the same time... I don't want to be passed off as the creepy stalker.
I'm not super desperate and all that, but damn.... This feeling sucks.
Thanks for listening to my story, guys! I could use improvement inputs!
(P.S. When she asked me to "link" the pictures in facebook. What does she exactly mean? Due to her popularity, I wasn't able to add her because her requests are bloated. That's okay though, because I aim for her to add me.
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(And what? I can't post a link before I make at least 5 posts...? Oh, allright thrn x.x Wanted to show you guys the picture...)
Edited: "Predate" sounds....wrong.
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