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Hey all,
So basically, I have been seeing various chicks. But a particular one who recently broke up with her boyfriend and is on back and forth with him, stood out. Her character worked perfectly with mine, and things have been amazing when we meet. She sometimes sleeps over but is extremely adamant about not having sex. However indicates it will happen in the future..
She is a close friend of all my friend and trusts me a lot, and recently asked me the question. "Do you think if we went out it would work"... this was whilst lying in my bed as she was sleeping over that night.
Please note that she's still hooked up on her bf, and tends to mention him a lot. She keeps saying she doesn't want to be with him... but admits she's not over him and thinks about him all the time. but Im not so sure its completely honest. He cheated on her in the relationship and she recently found out. She loves speaking to me and agrees its insane that we both agree so well and she scared that by losing me she might make the biggest mistake in her life.
Im not looking to shag this girl, but to turn her into my GF full blown.
Thanks for any advice,
Basically you need to be very direct and to the point with her. You can keep pussy footing around with her and hoping things will work or you can take action. In this case it means sitting her down telling her you like her, you want to make her your girlfriend, but in order to do that she needs to get over so and so. I believe she honestly likes you as well...but there are some women that are just indecisive.
The only way you are going to get this girl is if she feels you are not going to be around as friend. Right now she has the best of both worlds! She has you this great guy that is there for her that she'd like to hook up with, and could on the back burner. And she has her ex that she's not sure if she still likes or not. She's keeping her options open as many hotter women do.
You have to get her to make a decision. To do that you have to be willing to walk away from her and the situation. You have to be honeslty willing to take yourself out of her life because you being in this "back and forth" situation isn't good for you. You like the girl, and you deserve to be with her. You need to believe you don't deserve to be on the back burner...you deserve to be her one and only.
Until you get to the point of making her make a decision you will stay in this zone and it usually doesn't work out. You become the constant plan B for her. You're a great guy and fun charming all that good stuff. Meanwhile she dates guys she knows are bad for her while keeping you the good guy around in case those things don't work out. I've seen it too many times. Staying the way things are you may have sex with her, you may not. You almost certianly won't end up in a relationship with girls like this, cause she usually keeps a few options around. Girl like this almost always keep going back to bad hurtful relationships and they know the guy is no good for them.
Keep doing what you are doing and get the same results and prob no relationship. OR you can take a stand and you have a 100% chance of walking away...50% chance that is with her...and 50% chance its without her. Still if it is without you can move on with your life and not be waiting for her forever being tooled.
CHAT
