I'm on my second week (almost done training) as a server at a bar and restaurant. There's a HB9 coworker that I am interested in, but I'm clueless on how to game her during work. We can only talk in brief moments, since we are constantly busy tending to customers. I only worked one day with her and I felt like she was attracted to me the first half of the day. I was teasing her, bumping her with my hip, etc. But my cold (I was sick) got the best of me by the end of the night and I stopped talking to her the second half of the night. She kept on trying to talk to me about random shit, but I was pretty much like uh huh ok because I felt like shit.

Anyway, I have no idea what to talk about with this girl. Is my goal to talk about important stuff and to connect with her on a deeper level or just keep conversation casual? I honestly have no idea what to talk about with her while we are working. Also, I THINK she has a boyfriend, but I am not sure. She didn't mention her boyfriend in anyway, but she constantly texts when she gets a chance and after work I overheard her talking to someone saying stuff like "heyyy where are you? YEAH you have to wait for me! who do you think YOU are! etc etc." at 3 in the morning. Am I supposed to try to find out if she has one or not? I would ask her stuff like oh where do you live and with who etc. Lastly, I think this is my greatest sticking point...how do I show her that I'm interested without being too direct? Honestly the only reason I want to know if she has a boyfriend or not and show her I'm interested without being too direct is to save face if this doesn't happen...since I'm going to be working with her.

So the 3 things I need help with is
1) what to talk about
2) to find out if she has a boyfriend or not
3) how to show her I'm interested without being too direct (and how to escalate during work)

BTW, all her past relationships were pretty much long term...
thanks for the help guys

Hey man, I know you're gonna hate this, but I will start off with a little preachin'... You should not mess around at work, it could complicate your life in ways you don't wanna know... been there, done that... Sermon over
Now for the advice...

1. What you talk about makes little difference... I would observe the Mystery Method sequence of Attraction, Comfort, Seduction... Right now you are barely scratching Attraction, so before you establish that, I would stay away from the deep stuff... Comfort w/o Attraction = a trip to LJBF land... not where you wanna go...

2. Does she have a boyfriend? Again, if you play your cards right, it shouldn't matter... By the time you push things through seduction, if a boyfriend exists, she will either tell you to stop because of the boyfriend and mean it, tell you to stop because of the boyfriend and mean it as a plausible deniability or completely keep it off the table until after the deed is done... If there's no boyfriend, then good for you... I can only asume from your story that she's in her early twenties, and we all know how solid relationships are at this age...

3. My advice is to try and meet her outside of work environment for several reasons... Co-workers may see you and she can develop ASD (who wants to be the slut of the restaurant?), there's little time for you to work your magic and as enticing as a cold storage room quickie may seem, it could result in both of you being fired... and there's always that little thing called sexual harassment

I hope you will find my ideas worthwhile... Let me know how that turns out... bye!

I don't want to start a new thread...what kind of conversation do you have when spiking attraction? Whenever I try to spike attraction, I feel like I come off as a bit cocky. I never know what to talk about with really hot chicks. Also, when I try hard to make conversation and keep opening her when we have free time, doesn't that make me look needy?

So, how can you DHV to a o-worker without being needy... Share little bits from your lifestyle she may find interesting... Cool parties you attend, extreme sports you are into, hobbies, etc. Once you find the thing(s) she is interested in, ask her to join you, but in a casual "Hey, you can join if you want" kind of way. I take girls with me on shooting practice, horseback riding, ATV rides, anything that is likely to pump the adrenaline... If you think this is a bit too show-off-ish, you may try a cold-reading routine, such as The Cube or the Finger Ring Routine (you'll find both on the net). The favourite subject of any person is... themselves besides, it's a DHV to know things about people before actually knowing them... As long as I am in the Attraction phase, I keep away from mundane topics such as "Where are you from", "What are you studying" you get the point... Stand out from the crowd by discussing other topics than the crowd... Don't always be the one initiating conversations when you have some time together, let her take the initiative once in a while... That's a big IOI, when she comes back for some more interesting conversation... You can try leaving open threads, such as giving her a test (The Cube) and witholding the naswer for later... Maybe it would help if you revise the Bait-Hook-Reel-Release technique as described by Mystery in his books... Let me know if any of that worked, and best of luck to you! Bye!