For some reason, and I HATE that I'm like this...but I still get jealous with my girlfriend and other guys.

Not to the point where if guys look at her I go nuts or anything - but for example we have a birthday dressup party which is 85% guys coming up.

She is going as a cop, and so am I. Thing is, she looks really damn good...and I know the guys will be all over her.

This makes me anxious, as I feel that if I leave her alone on the night there is a chance a guy with better game can befriend her (ie she will be naive to what he's doing) and seduce her.

I KNOW I'm thinking irrationally, because my girlfriend has had no record of being a bad girl, and has always had boyfriends for months before sleeping with them, never cheated, and has given me plenty of reason to trust her. All the time.

But I absolutely hate being this jealous guy.
I don't ever show it too much, just in a healthy way to show I care once in awhile, so I don't think I'm at risk of ruining my relationship over this.

But for the sake of my piece of mind - how do you get over this?
Would most guys feel a little threatened in my situation?
I can easily put myself in the frame and tell myself that I'm the best and eliminate any anxiety, as I will probably do on the night, but I want a better solution than this.

My fear of a cheating girlfriend stems from my ex, who cheated on me with my best friend. I still haven't let go and have an ingrained belief (which I wish I did not have) that all girls will cheat if conditions are right, no matter how much they love their man.

be jealous, scare her off so she'll in fact be fucking some other guy(s), or get a grip on yourself and take it as a compliment that other guys find her so desirable, yet at the end of the night its you who's hitting it.
Be a Champ, or a Chump.
Your choice.

Yeah, I understand that - but my real question is how do you remain completely calm when you know there's a chance a guy will hit on her, and she will want to be fucking him instead?
Aren't girls hardwired to go for the best option available?


(It's obvious I have mega-trust issues. But I prefer to call them little-faith issues, as I feel no girl is different.)

If she's never given you any reason to distrust her, that's your issue, not hers. You can't control whether guys hit on her or not, short of keeping her home but even still when she's not with you, I can guarantee you she gets approached you just don't hear about it.

This is all about your self confidence. If you had confidence in yourself you'd have a more laissez faire attitude; in other words, you know you can create opportunities iwth other women on the whim, but simply choose to be with her because she treats you right. If she cheats, she cheats and there's not a damn thing you can do about it other than leaving the relationship and finding somebody loyal.

You need to accept the fact that her cheating on you is something that your jealousy won't prevent. In fact, it will probably make it way more likely.

At the same time, guys are somewhat hard wired to be jealous and possessive to an extent.

Do you get the sense that your girl is perceptive of the fact you are jealous? Because that will kill a relationship really quickly if she is. And even if it's not obvious that she is, girls have that female sixth sense about things like that.

I think you need to spend some time thinking 'Can I learn to trust this girl, or do I need to be single, get my confidence up to a point where I won't be so insecure' and then move from there.